gooty1 Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Hey so i am a male 24 years of age, my fiance is the same age we have been engaged close to a year and our wedding date is vastly approaching(End of the year), I have a few concerns that I just found out about. Now before I speak on these know I am by no means one that checks phones etc, however one night i was awake and she was not and her phone dinged, it was her friend I saw my name so i was curious as to what they were talking about. I saw a few things that were very alarming I will list them below in bullet points, Now before I get into this a bit of background from the relationship. We have known eachother for about 6 years dating for two years then got engaged, Very happy couple a few minor arguments that never last longer then i'd say 30 minutes to an hour of course we have some more serious arguments but they're rare! We're planning on buying a house super soon, we both drive and have our own jobs etc, Now when i met her she was a bit different from then I started dating her a few months into the relationship we somehow started drinking together now she drinks almost everytime we're together and says it makes sex better.... Which im 50/50 on is this something I should be concerned with? I will say she does please me very much in everyway possible and its clear that she absolutely cares about me as i do her however read the bullet points below. Okay so back to the messages from her friends (She has a child not by me I do not have any children) * Her kids father asked her to go to the park just her him and the baby (He has a girlfriend she has a fiance) She told her friend about this and said she wont mention it to me I have no idea if they did go together or not the messages either got deleted or they just called eachother * SHe stated about a week ago shes not sure if she loves me enough for the stress for our relationship and that she no longer wants to be with me * She wants a polygamous relationship (That is not for me I am not knocking anyone who has tried this but I dont like this idea at all) * On fathers day she stated she didn't want me to feel bad so she was going to buy the baby dad a gift and not tell me. So I am now very concerned I am a very hard worker I am in school, I purchased a very nice ring for my fiance well above my pay grade but i saved up and busted my ass to do so because its beautiful. I have made so many changes and truly busted my ass for this girl and this relationship however I do start some arguments she admits majority of them I do not start! I am very concerned I have not brought any of these up to her because I shouldn't have been in her phone right??? Please offer any assistance I am sitting here and i feel like im caged i try not to act different but its so hard. I truly love this girl with all of my heart I have never been in a serious relationship before while i was growing up all i did was get in trouble etc etc i was not dating i was busy being a stupid kid, However she has been in a long relationship with her babies father 4-5 years they're still very talkative which is fine majority of it is for the child sometimes she sees random post on his fb etc and contacts him to check on him is this okay?????? Link to comment
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