laelithia Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Hello everyone, I'm struggling with the end of my last "relationship". I'm using quotes, because I'm beginning to understand that 99% of what I thought it and he was wasn't real (I wrote about it more here ). It was short but very intense (1.5 months) to the point we thought we had both found "the one" (I'm still struggling with if he too believed that at the time, or he was just trying to fool me. My gut says he former, because he was so intense with me from the beginning until right before the end). We talked at length about our future together, how we would find a way for us to come together (he lives 3 hours away) and build a future together. We talked about marriage and babies quite a bit The ending of this relationship made no sense to me. A day after I last saw him, he was distant and seemingly not as warm, and before I knew it, he told me he wanted to date other people to have fun and he wasn't ready to be with me so seriously. I offered to take things slower, but it was clear he was interested and that he likely had already replaced me with someone in his city. My question is, how do I go about getting over someone that wasn't real? The person I thought he was was someone I could trust, that was always there for me, that I really thought I would have a future with. Now I am grieving not only this pretend person, but also this wonderful future I thought we were going to have. In past relationships, I had more negatives to focus on (traits I didn't like about the person, compatibility issues, things they had done to hurt me), but this past relationship ended so suddenly, without an explanation in how he and his feelings could change so drastically, that I'm left feeling like I don't know how to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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