MrLonelyHeart8 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 A week ago, my girlfriend of a year kicked me out of our apartment. She came home to find me drinking when I told her I would be working (I am a struggling writer), and, when we tried to talk about it, she just kicked me out. It’s been a week now and we haven't talked. She won’t respond to my messages. I’ve been really depressed. Before that day she found me drunk, I hadn't had a drink for almost two months. But I didn’t go sober for my girlfriend and I wasn’t able to stay off it because of my girlfriend. She’d been bothering me forever about it, and I wouldn’t do it, until I got this random call from my ex. I hadn’t seen this girl in four years, since I’d visited her at her college and found her living secretly with another guy. We talked quickly, and she asked to meet. I agreed and when I saw her it was clear she was pregnant. She told me it had been an accident, and that the guy who did it couldn't help with it at all. After this, she just asked straight out if I would go to prenatal class with her because she didn’t know anyone else in the city besides the guy who had been with her. I felt bad, and I agreed. I didn’t tell my current girlfriend about the agreement and for two months, every Tuesday and Thursday, I met with my ex for prenatal class. This was our only interaction. I’ll say again—this was our ONLY interaction. We never met anywhere else, we never had any moment of physical intimacy, and we never even talked that much to be honest. But for some reason, the classes provided some sense of happiness in my life. I stopped drinking, and my writing, as well my physical and emotional relationship with my current girlfriend, improved greatly. This went on for those eight weeks until one day I went to prenatal class to meet my ex and she was there, going through the exercise with another guy. This sent me into the drinking spell, which resulted in my girlfriend leaving. Now I am alone and unhappy and I miss my girlfriend, but I also really miss the classes. I don’t miss my ex, nothing about her personality or physicality, but I miss the calmness of the classes. I can't remember a time I've been as happy as I was in those moments in the class. I wonder then if what I was doing was wrong? Is that where my unhappiness is coming from? Was I emotionally "cheating" on my girlfriend? Should I try and get her back? Should I confess? Or should I call my ex? Is she the one I should be with? I am desperate and need your caring advice. Thank you Link to comment
mhowe Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Yes you wee emotionally cheating. And lying. I would take some time alone. Neither woman is the right one doe you. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 You were a cheating, lying alcoholic underemployed boyfriend. Sounds like your ex-girlfriend was wise to kick you out. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 You should remain single for now and work with Alcoholics Anonymous (and supplement it with personal therapy even if need be) to support you in remaining sober and learn the tools you need to keep from using excuses to drink again. Once you've got sobriety under your belt for at least one year and you've finished or at least put a serious dent in your book or whatever it is you're working on, then would be a good time to find someone to share your new and improved self with. Good luck to you. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Nothing is more attractive than an unemployed, lying drunk of a boyfriend. You don't seem to take much responsibility in life. It's time to grow up, get some help and a job. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Nothing is more attractive than an unemployed, lying drunk of a boyfriend. Ohhh, I do believe that's a typo, right? lol. Me thinks there is nothing more UNattractive than an unemployed, lying drunk of a boyfriend. Link to comment
j.man Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 "Struggling writer." Now that's my kind of spin! Link to comment
DoF Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 You have absolutely NO feelings for your ex, YET you decided to play "family" with her while she was pregnant and support her.........AND went back to alcohol upon seeing her with another man? I'm pretty sure you are lying. To your recent ex, your ex, and most importantly, YOURSELF (and now us). Link to comment
j.man Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 BRB, updating my resume to fill in my employment gap with "struggling writer." Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Ohhh, I do believe that's a typo, right? lol. Me thinks there is nothing more UNattractive than an unemployed, lying drunk of a boyfriend. I was being facetious. But, you knew that Link to comment
dave_1966 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 She got rid of you because being with you is like looking after a 13 year old. Grow up. Link to comment
youareworthy Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 Hollyj, I love your delicious sarcasm! Link to comment
randomguy1234 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Focus on yourself, getting the help you need with AA. Those classes will be very helpful and should definitely be your next step. Link to comment
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