frida Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Ok so I like watching movies or shows that I can relate to. This may sound crazy, but I want to watch something where things don't work out perfectly or maybe the end is nice but the middle is really crappy. My bf broke up with me out of nowhere and I have to see him three times a week. We havent spoken for two months and I just need something to relate to. Of course a part of me will always want him back but Im working on getting past that, because he has made zero effort to contact me. Please give me and tips or movies or stories that helped you move on? Link to comment
DepthOfField Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Link to comment
saluk Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 "Of course a part of me will always want him back" This may not actually be true! Especially if you keep "working on getting past that" and know that you don't want someone who "made zero effort to contact me". One of the shows that helped me actually, was Parenthood. Not everything goes the way it should, but in general it showed me what mature, positive relationships might look like, giving me hope for the future. It also showed me how far away from that my relationship had been at the time, so that I stopped feeling like I had lost something that was really mature and far along. When it was really just a baby relationship. But that's me, and it's something I watched further along in my healing I think. When I was closer to the beginning I was definitely more attracted to darker things, though I can't remember exactly what those were. So you don't sound crazy at all haha. But here's my top 3 favorite good relationship movies where things don't work out (spoilers???): 500 days of summer, My best friends wedding, Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind. A good recent one to cry over was The Theory of Everything. I "hated" it. (I always tell people I hate a film if it makes me cry to much.) Hang in there frida! Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Forgetting Sarah Marshall is a good one. For me, a movie that helped me find inner strength in my younger days, and its my favorite movie of all time. The Shawshank Redemption, not about a relationship or a break up, but still. Link to comment
tallydoo Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Ok so I like watching movies or shows that I can relate to. This may sound crazy, but I want to watch something where things don't work out perfectly or maybe the end is nice but the middle is really crappy. My bf broke up with me out of nowhere and I have to see him three times a week. We havent spoken for two months and I just need something to relate to. Of course a part of me will always want him back but Im working on getting past that, because he has made zero effort to contact me. Please give me and tips or movies or stories that helped you move on? 500 Days of Summer. Link to comment
frida Posted April 9, 2015 Author Share Posted April 9, 2015 I've seen 500 days of summer and forgetting sarah marshall! both great! though its been a little tough to watch 500 days because i cry during the good parts... keep them coming! Thank you everyone Link to comment
Andrina Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 The Bridget Jones Diary movies are great to watch, as they delve into her dating and relationship strife and awkward screws, but are so hilarious that you can have a great laugh. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 The Bridget Jones Diary movies are great to watch, as they delve into her dating and relationship strife and awkward screws, but are so hilarious that you can have a great laugh. My all time favorite. . never gets old Link to comment
Clinton Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Swingers. Vince Vaughn ar his best. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Swingers. Vince Vaughn ar his best. Great movie! The part where Jon Favreau (sp?) gets that girls number and leaves her multiple voice messages is one of the most uncomfortable scenes in any dating movie. Link to comment
frida Posted April 9, 2015 Author Share Posted April 9, 2015 Yes Bridget Jones Diary is great! And I was gonna watch Swingers...good to know others enjoyed it! Link to comment
Allipie Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 not a movie, but a tv show....Gilmore Girls. lol Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Little Black Book with Brittany Murphy. I distinctly remember that film as the one where the girl does not get the guy, she gets something better. I was so sad when she died, because I loved her after seeing her in that film. Then there was Gina Davis is "The Long Kiss Goodnight" and Cate Blanchett in "The Gift." Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Paper Clips A school embarks on a diversity / history project, and ends up inspiring Holocaust survivors and their families worldwide. Reminded me that we may never know the impact of our next step and to simply keep stepping. Link to comment
Wandering1987 Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 "Before Midnight" (2013) by Richard Linklater. Link to comment
frida Posted April 10, 2015 Author Share Posted April 10, 2015 Oh i thought Gilmore Girls was too happy! Everything was so simplified...maybe i watched it too close to when we broke up. The beginning seasons of Greys Anatomy helped a lot! Link to comment
frida Posted April 10, 2015 Author Share Posted April 10, 2015 "Before Midnight" (2013) by Richard Linklater. Do you need to watch those movies in order because I know there are three Link to comment
RZJ Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Castaway I was recovering from my first heartbreak ~8 months post breakup. I watched this movie and when Noland says the line "And I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing, because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?" it really resonated with me. I woke up the next day and let go... Link to comment
faraday Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 500 Days of Summer. I love this movie. And Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Both are my break up movies. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Do you need to watch those movies in order because I know there are three I loved the first two...I didn't even hear about Before Midnight...I think I'll have to watch that. It's 98% on rotten tomatoes...which is crazy! Link to comment
Allipie Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Oh i thought Gilmore Girls was too happy! Everything was so simplified...maybe i watched it too close to when we broke up. The beginning seasons of Greys Anatomy helped a lot! sometimes you need 'too happy'!! I recently watched the whole series again. I like it because Lorelai's such a strong independent woman. There's one episode where she talks about how she didn't raise Rory to be that girl who cries on the floor because some guy doesn't like her...or something to that affect. I would tell myself 'don't be THAT girl. stand up and move on'. girl power Link to comment
superfan Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 "Before Midnight" (2013) by Richard Linklater. I was totally going to say the "Before Midnight" films. SUCH a wonderful depiction of relationships. Other films I use as "comfort" films aren't necessarily "relationship" films, but I do love "Labyrinth". It is my all time favourite movie and I watch it whenever I need cheering up. I guess it's the hero's quest/coming of age story that does it for me. Also, not a film, but I did love the way relationships were dealt with in "Buffy the Vampire Slayer". Buffy's break up with Angel was proof that break ups CAN be respectful and adult, and that you can love someone while at the same time knowing that things just won't work with that person. Link to comment
Lucha Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Swingers! Best breakup movie ever. Link to comment
FirstIn Posted April 11, 2015 Share Posted April 11, 2015 Cast Away is actually a great recommendation. I don't want to spoil it, but the ending demonstrates the skills we all need to focus on. Skills which Hank's character developed by coping on his own. It shows that life goes on simply because it goes on and you have to do it and be happy. Forgetting Sarah Marshall is good - I can especially relate to the deleting of photos scene and the important cereal container! and also the uncontrollable crying! 500 days of summer - good, but can also be difficult because it highlights the negatives of relationships Eternal Sunshine - I'd say don't watch this one until you are well over the relationship. It involves erasing the memory of the ex and may leave you thinking that all those bad times weren't really that bad and maybe you should try again because love was at the core of your relationship. Link to comment
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