jennylove Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I'm 35, single female, no kids. I live in a small town in a beautiful cape cod that I almost fully own. I love that I live near my family and I love my house very much. I've had a rough couple years with dating. I'd love more than anything to settle down, but I don't sèe that happening antime soon. I have an opportunity to travel for my job around the United States and I think it may be a good thing for me to do over the next two years. It pays slightly better than my current job and I'll be at each assignment for approx 6 months. I currently live in Illinois, but if I take the job, I will get to live in Alaska, New York City, boston, and Los angeles. I'm worried that I will get lonely and homesick. Ill be by myself and since I won't have a car in these major citie, I will have to pack the bare minimum. Is this type of lifestyle healthy for an old lady like me? Am I better off staying im my home and trying to find love here and settling down? Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Do it --- rent your house --- for a year. Even to family if possible. Explore -- have fun. See the USA. Link to comment
emma34 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Old? Please...not quite. If you want to do it...do it. After all, life is what happens when you are making other plans, right? Not so much happens while u just sit and wait for it to happen.... Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I would in a second. I moved to Florida for 3 years in 2008 (I was 37 and single). Wish I had done it sooner, and then moved other places. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I would be inclined to do it, but the part about no car bothers me. Why would you be without a car? I think I would ask your potential new employer to provide you with a car. For me, the no car part would be the dealbreaker for me. I would think that your potential employer could provide you with a leased car for the duration of your time at each location. It would not hurt to ask. chi Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Car in any of the 3 cities --- more hassel than it is worth. Alaska is another story! Link to comment
jennylove Posted December 4, 2013 Author Share Posted December 4, 2013 Thanx everyone! I am leaning more towards yes. I mean, how often does someone get to live in NYC for free? I know the car part sounds crappy, but like mhowe said, parking will be a nightmare and expensive. And apparently in anchorage, renting a snowmobile when needed is common and zip cars for the other places. My job will house me near my job site so I won't have to worry abt a long commute. I guess I don't have much to lose. I do worry about my mom tho . I'm the child that helps her with home projects and get her out of the house. She is not an invalid, but she is somewhat codependent on me. Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Well -- perfect time for her/you to lose co-dependency and for your sibs to step it up!!!!! Link to comment
BigKK Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 So there is absolutely no reason to own a car in NYC. Old lady? Pah-leeease, your job will be to do your job, and get out there, make new friends and just have fun exploring each city. Each one is very different has a lot to offer. Also you can use each location to do day or weekend trips to visit more. For example, from LA, you can go to San Diego, Mexico, Vegas, Santa Barbara, Mammoth, San Francisco, not forgetting all the things you can see in LA. Your mom will be fine. If you are ever feeling lonely there is a lot of social groups online meeting up all the time. I jump on those when I travel, and want to have a different flavor of the city besides just meeting up with friends. I did it last weekend and had the time of my life Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Send us "postcards" from the edge!!!! Link to comment
jennylove Posted December 4, 2013 Author Share Posted December 4, 2013 Oh, a perk to the job is I will be working for 36 hours a week - for 12 hour shifts. That means I will have 4 days a week to explore ! Link to comment
BigKK Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Oh, a perk to the job is I will be working for 36 hours a week - for 12 hour shifts. That means I will have 4 days a week to explore ! now you're just bragging Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Awesome! 1. Get your house rented. 2. If 401k, maximize deductions as your "housing allowance" is taxable, so while not "income", is taxable. 3. Let all friends/family in area know you are on your way!!! How exciting!!! Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Sounds exciting!!! I'd love to do something like that myself. Really close to your age too. And in a similar position - no kids, no spouse, family all here and a home and environment and comfy cozy set up all around. Just no big job offer so ripe like this on my table like you! But yeah...what is there to lose? And a lot to win. You can always go home later again. It'll be there. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Do it! Its an open door waiting for you to walk through. On Forbes' recent list of 13 things mentally strong people avoid, several apply here: "shy away from change", "give away their power", "worry about pleasing others", "fear taking calculated risks", and maybe "make the same mistakes over and over". From a career perspective, establish a regular schedule to get face time with the home office, your team, your boss. I go to my HQ office once a quarter, and my boss comes to me at about the same frequency. We are new to one another but it seems to work well for protecting me from getting too distant. NYC is a blast, especially when you have the luxury of thinking of it as a stop-through without the pressure of having to settle, buy, commute, manage kids and schools etc. I have many friends who stopped through and never left. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I have lived in LA most of my life and I can tell you that you will want a car in LA. The public transportation system in LA is not good and if you plan to visit all the places mentioned you absolutely need a car. I think the public transportation in New York is good from what I hear. I don't know about Boston and Alaska is another story all together. I would ask for an allowance for a car rental in LA for sure. As I previously said, it does not hurt to ask. Just looking out for your best interest. chi Link to comment
7thSign Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I think you need to decide what your main goal is, eg, is it to settle down and have kids, career, travel etc? I'd base my decision on what my overall goals are. You'd be 37 when you get back. Having said that, life happens and in some ways you have to go with the flow and always remain 'open'. I say sleep on it and see how you feel in a few days. Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Boston transit is easy...cabs plentiful, clean and cabbies know the streets which can be pain to the uninitiated!!! Not laid out in any semblance of logic....old cow paths! Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 It sounds great. An amazing opportunity! Do it! You might even meet the man of your dreams while living in all those cities! Link to comment
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