itsallgrand Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Many people, including me, would look at someone that was really nervous or shy on a date and see it as sweet, endearing or maybe even just plain awkward. That doesn't mean we'd judge them or dislike them for it. But there's a HUGE difference between that and being actively turned on by it, though. Exactly!! Actually I echo all your posts in this thread. It isn't black and white...but I do think this is a common "weird turn on" that can truly be called "weird" in that it isn't about some core human sexual wiring, but it is about other aspects that play into sexuality. Like the strong forces of power and power plays/ roles in relationships and sexuality. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 She also doesn't have to tell anyone she's slept with a bunch of people either. If a guy says he's a virgin and it isn't because he's saving it for the right person, then he's labeled a freak since most women assume men have tons of chances like they do. Yes, that is true. I didnt really make-out until i was a bit older than normal, and when i told the girl i was seeing that i never really kissed anyone yet, she lost all interest. She kissed me just to kiss me, i lost my edge, i lost everything- everything went downhill from there. I took that lesson with me, and the first time i had sex i never told her she was my first. I learned to stay hush, even the sweet caring ones still would question things. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Yes, that is true. I didnt really make-out until i was a bit older than normal, and when i told the girl i was seeing that i never really kissed anyone yet, she lost all interest. She kissed me just to kiss me, i lost my edge, i lost everything- everything went downhill from there. I took that lesson with me, and the first time i had sex i never told her she was my first. I learned to stay hush, even the sweet caring ones still would question things. I'd have to tell them right before I have sex. I don't think it's fair that I have to hide that i'ma virgin while i'm losing my virginity. That and if you don't tell them, then their expectations on your skills will be higher. I want them to know atleast right beforehand. Which is my plan if they don't ask before hand. I will tell them after we get naked. It lessens the chances of them running away. lol Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 This is how I understood your initial post as well. I find it attractive when men are nervous or shy on a date with me, it's attractive because it shows that he is sweet and humble. People vacillate between being confident and un-confident, i don't necessarily see it as a sign of submission or dominance Ya its not, i am far more turned on with shy and nervous than aggressive or cold. All these women were dominant in many traits, plus this nervous and shyness doesnt last pass the first few dates, it would drive me crazy if she was like this all the time- i think that would be along the lines of anxiety or a mental issue. If anything, i see it as a sign she has interest in me and that can prompt me to be more comfortable and allow myself to be attracted, so yes, it can make me bold because thats my sign i read that yells INTEREST and more interest. It doesnt have to dissected into something deep, especially by people who themselves said they dont find it attractive or turned on (because they would be the ones who are the farthest to comment on it). It has nothing to do with being weak or able to be dominated. I was weak and insecure in high school, and i was a dangerous kid and the least to be dominated. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 I'd have to tell them right before I have sex. I don't think it's fair that I have to hide that i'ma virgin while i'm losing my virginity. That and if you don't tell them, then their expectations on your skills will be higher. I want them to know atleast right beforehand. Which is my plan if they don't ask before hand. I will tell them after we get naked. It lessens the chances if them running away. lol Well, i spent a whole day looking at pornos and working out. And this might sound bad, but i never performed as good as i did that day. She wouldnt believe it even if i told her. And i honestly believed there was no reason to tell her, she liked me, i liked her, and things got heavy and sex happened. Link to comment
John John Posted October 20, 2013 Author Share Posted October 20, 2013 Yes, that is true. I didnt really make-out until i was a bit older than normal, and when i told the girl i was seeing that i never really kissed anyone yet, she lost all interest. She kissed me just to kiss me, i lost my edge, i lost everything- everything went downhill from there. I took that lesson with me, and the first time i had sex i never told her she was my first. I learned to stay hush, even the sweet caring ones still would question things. This is very true. I had my first kiss relatively early in life, and I lost my v-card I'd say around the average age that most guys in NYC do. But women have a sixth sense...they sense if you're getting some from other girls, and as much as they may deny it, it does turn them on. But perhaps this is just another example of confidence being a huge role in attracting women. I know that when I get on a lucky streak, it just seems to keep going because I have that inner confidence of doing well with women. Link to comment
John John Posted October 20, 2013 Author Share Posted October 20, 2013 In an effort to bring the thread back to its original intent...another thing I like is when girls have some freckles. Not too many, of course, but I think freckles are freaking adorable on fair women. Love em! Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 In an effort to bring the thread back to its original intent...another thing I like is when girls have some freckles. Not too many, of course, but I think freckles are freaking adorable on fair women. Love em! HEY, i said that already! The girl i like has freckles... you hitting on her, bro? Link to comment
jonny15 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Well, i spent a whole day looking at pornos and working out. And this might sound bad, but i never performed as good as i did that day. She wouldnt believe it even if i told her. And i honestly believed there was no reason to tell her, she liked me, i liked her, and things got heavy and sex happened. I didn't think porn was something a guy should use as an example? Most guys don't perform well under the circumstances of losing their v-card. Usually finish too soon or can't finish at all...I can't imagine my first time being something a woman would love. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 In an effort to bring the thread back to its original intent...another thing I like is when girls have some freckles. Not too many, of course, but I think freckles are freaking adorable on fair women. Love em! I love it when they have freckles around their nose. I find it to be sexy. And yea....to the other post. I think a guy getting lucky helps in the confidence area. Which also helps a guy get laid more. Link to comment
HeatherB Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 People who understand power (that it's shiftable and sharable and even temporarily transferable) and are secure enough in themselves to recognize their preferences and have fun with them--are all kinds of hot. People who are too rigid seem like they'd be too difficult to talk to. Difficult to stay attracted to for very long. But that's just me, and I'm usually only right about my own personal preferences. My man goes into protector mode when we're out. It makes him feel good. He even has this situational awareness thing he does where he imagines what he'd do if there were a threat to us. I feel different when I'm out by myself, because then I have to be my own guardian. And with others, I sort of feel like I need to be the protector of the group. I'm not weak. I just enjoy reveling in the luxury of being able to relax sometimes. It comes and goes, as it should. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 I didn't think porn was something a guy should use as an example? Most guys don't perform well under the circumstances of losing their v-card. Usually finish too soon or can't finish at all...I can't imagine my first time being something a woman would love. Well, i used the positions and pacing they used. None of the too off the wall stuff, just basics. By nature, i am a very through person that feels like i need to study everything, i also googled stuff (i think, that was a long time ago). I just felt like i needed to know what to grab, what to do, i was afraid i might look stupid. Now, i do what i want, and it never really matters. Just have a rhythm, and it feels good for you, then it should for her (as though as you stick to basic positions). Dont worry about the details or how you would look. Dont make it stressful or more intense then it has to be. Link to comment
happpybear Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I thought of another one! Not really all that weird though, but men who are super affectionate with animals. Guys who are comfortable cuddling with or getting on the floor and playing with a dog or kitten (or any furry creature) melt my heart. Remember that hilarious Whiskas commercial with the guy cuddling his cat and talking about taking the cat on a picnic? That's what I'm taking about! Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I thought of another one! Not really all that weird though, but men who are super affectionate with animals. Guys who are comfortable cuddling with or getting on the floor and playing with a dog or kitten (or any furry creature) melt my heart. Remember that hilarious Whiskas commercial with the guy cuddling his cat and talking about taking the cat on a picnic? That's what I'm taking about! Yeah, I found out that the guy I have been seeing took his hens to the vet because there was something not right about them and the vet was able to treat them. Most people just wouldn't care and some would probably kill them and eat them. This guy is also vegetarian so wouldn't do that although he does eat eggs. He has some pets that are very old which he takes good care of. I really like those things about him. Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I forgot to add that in recent times, he discovered he had mice in his kitchen pantry. He was able to get a loan of a humane mouse catcher which traps them alive. He trapped a couple and moved them all down to the same field together down the road. Never known anyone like that before. Link to comment
Grace696 Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Call me boring, but I can't think of a single weird thing that turns me on. I'm just into the usual things like confidence, strength, kindness, a positive attitude, a fun personality, plenty of self-awareness etc. allcity, I agree with your posts on this thread, and, not for the first time, you restore my faith in humanity, this time with your list of the things you are into in a woman. I thought of another one! Not really all that weird though, but men who are super affectionate with animals. Guys who are comfortable cuddling with or getting on the floor and playing with a dog or kitten (or any furry creature) melt my heart. Remember that hilarious Whiskas commercial with the guy cuddling his cat and talking about taking the cat on a picnic? That's what I'm taking about! For you, happybear ;-) link removed Link to comment
John John Posted October 21, 2013 Author Share Posted October 21, 2013 I thought of another one! Not really all that weird though, but men who are super affectionate with animals. Guys who are comfortable cuddling with or getting on the floor and playing with a dog or kitten (or any furry creature) melt my heart. Remember that hilarious Whiskas commercial with the guy cuddling his cat and talking about taking the cat on a picnic? That's what I'm taking about! Damn sexybear...I think you and I may be a match made in ENA heaven...I'm a HUGE animal lover. I am the guy that picks up his cat (when I had one) and snuggles the crap out of it. I even have a pic of me doing this to my old cat (who died last year) in my PJs, lol! Link to comment
John John Posted October 21, 2013 Author Share Posted October 21, 2013 HEY, i said that already! The girl i like has freckles... you hitting on her, bro? Whoops! What can I say...good minds think alike. haha Link to comment
Reflective82 Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I don't know about "weird" but I love it when guys have flecks of grey in their hair, like the salt and pepper look, I can't think of anything else strange that I like though....all pretty standard apart from that Link to comment
Reflective82 Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I find it an interesting paradox men saying they like sweet girls- I act sweet and submissive around men but in the past it's meant I have got walked over, and oddly enough when I've put my foot down and acted like a bit of a b*tch it's got their attention.....so I get the whole sweet thing but equally think men like a girl with a bit of festiness sometimes And re the protection thing I don't get why the women have a problem with it, I like feeling small and protected and feminine, I know some people think that's a gender stereotype but it's one I relate to and I do like that traditional role in a relationship....I'm also pretty small so think that brings it out in guys Link to comment
happpybear Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 For you, happybear ;-) link removed Oh Excellent!!!! Thanks for the link! Link to comment
happpybear Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I forgot to add that in recent times, he discovered he had mice in his kitchen pantry. He was able to get a loan of a humane mouse catcher which traps them alive. He trapped a couple and moved them all down to the same field together down the road. Never known anyone like that before. Aw, ya that's sweet! Sounds like you found yourself a winner! That's what I did when I found mice in a house I used to live in. I couldn't bear to kill the poor things. They really are so cute with there little pawsies, and teeny nosies. Link to comment
happpybear Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Damn sexybear...I think you and I may be a match made in ENA heaven...I'm a HUGE animal lover. I am the guy that picks up his cat (when I had one) and snuggles the crap out of it. I even have a pic of me doing this to my old cat (who died last year) in my PJs, lol! oh MCJDreamy you're a kitten-cuddler too!! I love cats but then I developed a mild allergy so I can no longer cuddle them or I get sneezy which sucks! I like the really hairy cats with smushed-in faces--Persian/Himalayan. I like when they sit on you and purr and their eyes get all droopy and they knead with there little paws, lol. Aw I bet you miss having a cat around. I have a little dog, I snuggle the crap out of the poor thing, lol, he enjoys it though! Check out this for your daily animal fix: link removed Link to comment
Slimpee Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Dogs>>>>>Cats All. Day. Long. And twice on Sundays. Link to comment
HeatherB Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Dogs>>>>>Cats All. Day. Long. And twice on Sundays. Okay now that definitely qualifies as weird. Seek help. Cats are waaaaaaaaaaaay better than dogs. Except for Shelties. Link to comment
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