Talked to the McDonald's Girl, went disaster

[TheVP]

I mentioned in an earlier posting of my crush on a Hispanic girl that works at McDonald's. I know, many will say it's only a physical attraction, I know nothing about her, etc. I'm old enough to know that is all true, but nonetheless, I've not been able think of anything but her, her mannerisms, her smile.

 

Well, I've finally resolved that today I would finally get up the guts to talk to her. So, I stopped at a local market and bought a bouquet of flowers and brought them in with me to this nearby McD's in a duffel bag along with some of my other belongings.

 

I left for there around 11 am to avoid the lunch rush. Once I was there, I felt self conscious about the flowers, so I left them in my bag at a nearby booth, and walked up to the counter to order a coke from an older heavy black woman at the nearest counter. "Maam, I'm curious about a woman that works back there. The one that wears the the blue ribbon in her hair. I have a friend that would like to know if she is single." I asked her.

 

The woman's face lit up and said something like "Ohhhh you mean Sylvia? Oh yesss, she is single and she is a sweet sweet girl. But don't you come telling me you've got a friend that wants to know. I see you comin in here every day checkin her out!"

 

I smiled as if to admit guilty as charged and asked her if I could talk to her for a minute. The woman start chuckling and yelled accross the room to some worker "Edgar! Can you go get Sylvia! There's a handsome young man here to see her."

 

"Handsome, young, man." That introduction will hopefully work to my advantage I thought.

 

So, anyhow...here's what I had planned to say. Something like "Hey, I just wanted to say, I've seen you here several times, and I really like your smile. To be honest, I that's the main reason I come in here. I'll be leaving town shortly, and was just hoping if you would be interested in joining me for a dinner before I go"

 

It's not totally false, I'm going out of town for several days on work. I just wanted to have a plan so if I don't return, it'll look as if planned instead of leaving defeated. Also, it'd give her the comfort that some stalker won't be at her place of work forever more. Anyhow, I thought it would work.

 

Upon the black woman's call, the back of the McDonald's counter seemed to come to life. I heard all kinds of talk in Spanish going on back and forth among the workers, and then all kinds of workers from the back started coming towards the front to see who was summoning for Sylvia.

 

At this exact moment, I felt a hand gently hit me on the shoulder, and standing in line next to me was a guy I'll call Joe along with several new young sales reps. Joe's the regional sales manager from the company I work with. I guess he's a good enough guy, and he's competent at what he does. He tends to be an ass-kisser to myself and others in the company that he thinks could advance his career. "Heeey! What's up!" Then he starts gushing on about how excited he is about a company presentation I did two weeks ago.

 

The last thing in the world I would want is this already difficult and somewhat vulnerable and embarrassing act witnessed by so many people. Especially those that work for me.

 

My nervousness is now turning to panic as I can now see this girl emerging from the back with a big blushing smile along with some giggling female coworkers.

 

The older black woman then reiterated "Yes..Sylvia's one sweet girl, but she doesn't speak English"

 

So the girl was now at the counter facing me and says "Hi" in a really thick accent. The reps waiting in line started to notice for the first time, there was something more than ordering going on with myself and the McD's staff. All the staff, instead of minding their own business and preparing food or taking orders, stood there, as if waiting for me to say the punch line of a joke. And a punchline I did deliver!!

 

The nervousness and the realization that she would not be able to understand what I would say without it going through a bunch of nosy translators made me forget everything I had planned to say.

"Hi, I wanted to say, I like your um I like your...you." was the only thing that could come to my lips. The staff all broke into laughs and hoots. Sylvia stood there with that sweet smile as if she didn't understand but was waiting for someone to translate.

"OK. I gotta go. Thanks. Bye" I said and then I headed out the door with my coke without looking at anyone.

Yes, I forgot my bag with possessions in the booth too.

 

I'm not much of a drinker but I'm going to drink like a fish tonight. I'm feeling so relieved to Boston to work for a week.

 

I can't believe it went so bad and I feel so dumb. I think I like that girl even more, now when I think of how she looked at me and said hi. Did I mess this up beyond repair??

[Day_Walker]

You got nervous and you had a bad experience, it happens. I would take this as a learning experience and think how you could have handled it better or what would have decreased your nervousness.

[Jetta]

I just love reading your story. No you haven't ruined anything. My question to you is do you know any Spanish? Learn to say what you want to say to her in her language to start, but odds are she's working there to learn our language. I don't have any other advice, but someone else will come through with something. So glad you posted an update.

[tinkerbellkj]

Wow, what a Danielle Steel novel! I don't think you messed it up beyond repair, however, you definitely looked VERY awkward. I think you could go back and explain yourself and she may be more guarded, but I don't know, IMO you didn't do anything hurtful.

 

I do wonder though, if she speaks no English, and you speak no Spanish (do you?) how do you expect to communicate with her?

[MyNinja]

Awww, I read the one from yesterday and this one. I think it's sooooo cute! I think things would have went smoother if everyone had minded their own business. It seems word was going around about you before you showed up. I wouldn't take it as a "disaster", per se. just more than what you expected.

 

I would go back and try to sort things out if you feel comfortable enough to do it

[HeartGoesOn]

This situation is far from "beyond repair." You were nervous, which is understandable, and more than likely she's waiting for you to return, and ask her out.

[Fudgie]

If she doesn't speak English and you don't know any Spanish and don't feel like learning it, I would just move on.

[aminaSa]

go back and explain yourself

[Voguester]

I loved reading this story, I thought it was really sweet and nice to know guys like you exist out there to be honest. If you really like this girl than go back in there and try again! you didn't do anything to be embarassed about it. I don't know though, could the language barrier be a problem?

[tmtex]

Can someone please pass the tissue, LOL

[annie24]

"He's going to kill Aurelia!!!" "Cool!!"

 

i love that movie!!!

 

hahah, i think that this is really cute! I think you need to go back there, and ask her out!!! this time, maybe write it down on a note and give it to her. Ask someone who knows spanish to write on the card "I would like to take you to dinner, what is your phone number?"

 

you know what - she needs to learn english, and spanish is a useful language for you to learn. you should go for it.

[JB007]

Man up VP!!! You sound like a guy who has it together in life! A good job, handsome(from what the other Micky D's employer yelled out), and a man that has A lot to offer.....!

 

But instead you treat the situation like you are back in the 5th grade giving your first crush a valentines card.......

 

Fight the Jitters and come at her with confidence, charm, and genuine interest!

[annie24]

i think he definitely needs to go back though!!! and take a few spanish lessons as well. i find it sweet when i am with a guy who is a little nervous/anxious because then i know he likes me and isn't mr. smooth player who goes through women like he goes through his underwear.

[motley802]

What a cute story!

 

Please go there once again and ask her out. Take a spanish note and pass along to her

 

And her colleagues must be teasing her everyday so please put her out of that misery

[quantumst8]

Rosetta Stone is great for learning Spanish. I used it for Spanish for a little while, but veered off on another language.

 

Being that you're not a native speaker, you can get away with simple cute comments:

 

*Me gustan tus ojos.

 

*Tu te ves muy bonita.

[girlfromjersey]

TheVP.

 

You are a charmer and you probably don't even know it. Your story is absolutely and sincerely heart melting. That girl is one lucky lady.

Go back. Don't let what happened in your first official try, make you give up. You really like her. Seriously, the way you talk about her and your feelings. If you would really like to get to know her then the language barrier should NOT be the excuse. You seem like you have it together. Like everyone said, handsome and old fashioned. Who wouldn't fall for that.

 

If talking to her sounds too nerve wracking, then write her a letter or note. Express yourself. Don't overwhelm her with too many compliments- that can sometimes make the girl too shy. Believe me. When she realizes you went through all of that (that being speaking or writing in spanish) she will just fall head over heals.

 

This happened to me. There was this time some handsome (american) guy approached me at the store, and started speaking spanish to me. I do speak english fluently, but I guess he heard a conversation I was having on my cell and thought I didn't perhaps. The point is, it was nice enough to have some stranger do that. He didn't speak spanish very well, but it was cute enough to win me.

 

I SO want to see how this goes. Let me know if you need any quick translation. I'm sure you can do that with so many books and online. But I am here for ya!

 

Best of luck, and have a nice trip

[guynextdoor]

Redeem yourself VP. I would come back there again, ask for her, give her a card. Make sure to translate it into Spanish first though. Its thoughtful and she will see that you put effort into translating it for her. I'm sure if you both click you both will put more effort in understanding each other. Trust it can work, my best was in the same shoes and they are together for 4yrs and still together. GL

[nresteiner]

What a cute story!

 

Please go there once again and ask her out. Take a spanish note and pass along to her

 

And her colleagues must be teasing her everyday so please put her out of that misery

 

Whatever you do, don't use google translate to write the note

[diamond78]

OMG....this story is soooo sweet! This has to be one of the best stories I've read here on ENA. Please go back...everyone there is probably rooting for you two based on how you described what happened. And she seemed really excited that you wanted to talk to her. I hope you work up the courage to try again. And I'm pretty sure the black lady is going to make SURE you guys make a connection...lol

 

Please keep us updated!!!

[Nirvana1986]

This reminds me of the writer and the Portuguese girl from Love Actually.

 

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Go after her =)

 

I agree, it did remind me of this movie, as well!

 

TheVP,

You should go back and try again. I do like the idea of a note that some members have already mentioned previously! If you need any help writing the note in spanish, you can PM me and I will help you out since Spanish is my main language. By the way, I enjoyed reading your story, you did such a good job describing the whole scenario and it was really easy for me to picture the whole thing in my head.

 

Good luck!

[abitbroken]

Just go in there. get your bag back. Give her the flowers. And walk away. Just tell her that "these are for you." you can say, "because you are the most beautiful woman I have seen today." and then leave. And go on your trip. And if you decide to not go again, you gave her flowers and made her day.

[quantumst8]

So what's the update? There better be an update.

[MyNinja]

I'm sure there will be an update. I think he went off to Boston

[mines]

Yep, I think (hope!) there will be an update post-Boston! It's cute how we are all just hanging on this story, haha. It's just such a nice, sweet story....gotta love it!

[caveman91]

YP, where you at dawg?

 

Go into McDonald's John Cusack style with the boom-box over your head with this appropriate late 90s p-diddy Song.

 

Honey I keep you hot and wet, just flooded with ice

And you can spend all day and chill, all night

Come sleep with the king, peep what I bring

Every few weeks it's a bigger size ring

Carats ain't nuttin when the cabbage ain't nuttin

I got habits like goin to Paris I ain't frontin

You can never need for nuttin, only one pipe

Would you like to go to dinner, wit Jordan and his wife?

Am I moving fast? It could happen real soon

Thousand dollar shoes, dance in ballrooms

You know the dress, that got the party impressed

You'll only wear it one time, cause the world is mine

I try to address it, but you never get the message

You the water in my life and I'm trapped in the desert

I never seen a honey sweeter, won't stop

till I get her cause I need her, my senorita

 

Chorus: Puff Daddy (singing)

 

Mami ven aqui, I wanna be your

papi chulo can't you see? (mi amor)

Baby I need you conmigo

Your style is my steelo te necesito yo aqui

(te necesito yo a ti, te amo)

Baby come to me (2X)

 

Verse Two: Puff Daddy

 

Her name is Carmen, she live down in Spanish Harlem

And I think I have the key to her secret garden

When I seen her, I used to want to beg her pardon

But I was scared, I ain't really have the heart

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And when she walked by, I would panic, even though

I was cool with her pops Lou, the mechanic

Went to school with her brother, that's right

I never could build up the words to

express how I loved her

Long hair, pretty face, slim waist

The kind that you marry and take to

another place India sings again

and exchange vows, spend thous

Make love in a hot tub, where there's a hot towel

She'll be loyal without being spoiled

You can shuck all you want but

she's still gonna ignore you

Makes no sense to say mira

Cause bet she won't turn him around, she's my senorita

 

Chorus

 

Verse Three: Puff Daddy

 

I rock regular clothes, as well as Gucci too

And if you don't believe me, ask Groovy Loo

You're beautiful, so I stay true to you

I think you oughta see things like Bermuda boo

No cooperation, got me walkin around pacin

Patient, waitin for my day of penetration

Your relationships is bull * * * * , your man is a * * * * *

with a little bit of bricks and a whip baby

Please, I got plenty of V's

What you want the pink C-2, or the yellow 3-2-5

That's when I opened my eyes

I was dreamin, damn it was all a surprise

But it felt real, I hopped up in a wet chill

Yet still gotta keep this one concealed

Even though I never got a chance to meet her

I still need her, cause she's my senorita