SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I really am not. I've been single for two months. I met a guy I liked and we met casually with our friendship groups twice, then we were texting on and off for like two weeks. We went on our first date it lasted 7 hours!! we had a great time,he paid for everything, he told me he'd been single for a year and this was the first date he'd had where he'd enjoyed it or saw potential He also told me he's working away for the next couple of months but he wants to see me and date me on the weekends when hes back because he lives where I lives hes just got a building project about 3 hrs away. Since the date we've still been texting etc and he asked me last night if I wanted to see him Sunday for another date. So i agreed. I text him last night and he didnt reply, and i've had no reply all day. The dating game SUCKS. Im staying single. No more dating I really quite liked this guy too Edit: He literally text me as a i posted this O_O saying his phones playing up AGAIN...yea right Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Normally we text regularly. But every now and then he dissapears and says his phones playing up Do i just bail before I get even more hurt? Im obviously not ready Link to comment
doiiiieeezie Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I thought you were staying single for a while =/. And if you are... stay AWAY FROM THE MEN! Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Why don't you believe him about his phone acting up? If he wasn't interested he probably wouldn't text you at all rather than texting and giving a reason. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 That does make sense, I guess Im just worried that cos I text him he feels bad and texts me back even tho he doesnt really want too, normally he texts me first tho so i dont know Link to comment
Yaz Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Dating game sucks! I wanna play Hungry, Hungry Hippo! I feel for you. You can never tell and it just plays on your mind. Maybe you're not ready? Maybe he's just an ass. Who knows? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Haha i am just gonna play Monopoly or something instead, I cant be doing with guesswork etc I may just stay single FOREVER it seems like the easy option rather than dating/confusion/dating/confusion/lets go out/break up Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Grow up. Literally. I mean it. lol. Because to play games, at least two people are needed. If you don't like them, then why are you playing along? Stop having others dictate you what to do. Link to comment
Yaz Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Haha i am just gonna play Monopoly or something instead, I cant be doing with guesswork etc I may just stay single FOREVER it seems like the easy option rather than dating/confusion/dating/confusion/lets go out/break up It's liberating. Being single doesn't mean you don't love or have genuine connections, though Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well maybe I do need to grow up, im only 21, I've always just got into long term relationships. I've never 'dated' before really so Im kinda new to it and confused as to what the etiquette is. Its the confusion of, what do they actually want? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 I dont think I play the games, I text him back if he texts me, and I've been on a date with him. I will admit to not texting back straight away I only mean the dating game as in the whole dating scene Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I thought you were staying single for a while =/. And if you are... stay AWAY FROM THE MEN! agree............. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 I didnt see the harm in dating someone, how often do rich, good looking men come along? Also I kinda found it ideal cos hes so busy it'd only be kinda seeing eachother when we can cos im really busy too But I guess im not ready, lesson learnt. Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Grow up. Literally. I mean it. lol. Because to play games, at least two people are needed. If you don't like them, then why are you playing along? Stop having others dictate you what to do. Dating is a game of courtship, of building attraction. The more desirable people, such as myself, and the women I want to meet, are being pursued by dozens or even hundreds of others. You need to make yourself stand out in the crowd, and that means building sexual tension, putting your best foot forward, and not doing the whole needy clingy thing and showing your prospective dating partners that you are independent and have a life by not getting back to them right away. Or, just tell them you are crazy about them and call and/or text them a dozen times a day from the moment of first contact and see how that works for you. Link to comment
siktomystomach Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well maybe I do need to grow up, im only 21, I've always just got into long term relationships. I've never 'dated' before really so Im kinda new to it and confused as to what the etiquette is. Its the confusion of, what do they actually want? Well there is no etiquette to it..if two people like each other, it just happens, ya know..I just got engaged, found out were having a baby to a girl that ive been friends with for the past 5 years...the weird thing is...i constantly walk around and feel like im going to get dumped at any second. lol. it sucks...jeez it would be so nice to just be totally in love, able to feel vunerable, and have nothing to worry about...im 35 and still havent found that..oh well...hang in there, all men arent bad... Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Thats why Im scared of relationships, hardly anyone i know is secure or confident or happy in their relationship. Most people walk around constantly afraid of being hurt. Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 hardly anyone i know is secure or confident or happy in their relationship. Most people walk around constantly afraid of being hurt. That's rather odd. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 I dont know if it is. People are always seemingly worrying, do they love me enough,or are they cheating, or they arent being treated right. They seem to have moments of happiness but lots of arguing and unsureness. I try to do the whole 'lets see how it goes' and if its meant to happen it'll happen.But its hard. Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Thats why Im scared of relationships, hardly anyone i know is secure or confident or happy in their relationship. Most people walk around constantly afraid of being hurt. So do you want just a relationship...or secure and confident person? Upon realizing the difference between the two and sticking to one of them, your whole approach to dating will change accordingly. I chose secure and confident women, and there's not a lot of them if you ask me. That's why anyone ever hardly see me hanging out with any girl. Some call it being picky, I call it knowing what I want. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 You ned to be single for a while ........... Link to comment
catfeeder Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Does the value of any guy really come down to how quickly he responds to a text message? The idea of being a slave to a device at all times really frosts me. I'm not 'on call,' I'm living my life. When I want to answer a call or message, I'll do so. If someone gets their feelings hurt by that, then that's what therapists are for. PS - If I've misunderstood and he's blown off a set date, then you'd be smart for deleting his number. In my book, he'd be toast. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I think you need to just take a breath. He's expressed his interest. He's asked you out again. MOST of the time he gets back to you promptly. What makes you believe he isn't telling you the truth about his phone? It happens. You're assuming the worst of him when he hasn't even given you a reason to think that way. I know you don't want to get hurt. No one does. But if you want to meet a good person, you have to take risks. Yes you will get hurt at times, we all do. It's OK. You just brush yourself off and try again. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I thought you were staying single for a while =/. And if you are... stay AWAY FROM THE MEN! My thoughts exactly. Link to comment
mdrnlvdly Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Wow... I think you need to grow up a little. So if he doesn't contact you in a timely manner, he's not into you? You should probably not date anyone and go get some therapy to understand why you have poor self-esteem. I have a cell phone that sometimes doesn't work inside the warehouse of one of my clients. I could be in that warehouse for hours on end. If I'm working I put my phone on "silent". Just chill out... do something else for awhile to take your mind off it. Get a book about self-esteem and see a therapist. You'll get some tools to deal with the anxiety. Link to comment
Firiel Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I think that if you can't date casually without getting emotionally attached and hurt, then you are not ready to date casually yet... Link to comment
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