SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 I took the advice of the board an have decided to remain single. I met someone I really liked but realised I need time to be alone and single and work through my emotions over my exes failed relationships etc. Wish me luck. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 You are going to do fine and realize how much you need this time alone to get over someone and work on yourself. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 I told the guy I just want to be his friend and I need to be alone. He was fine with it. He understands Im actually so far enjoying the time to myself, not having to answer to anyone and kind of doing some self searching etc, looking at my faults etc. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 I know if I dont break the pattern now I never will and I'll end up some joke mad cat lady with 43 failed relationships under my belt. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 You will do great Sapphire, just believe in yourself. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 this is probably the biggest step i've made in my personal life in a long time. Im finally getting things together, starting my degree, working hard and getting on my driving lessons again. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Im sorry I got so snappy on the last thread. Sometimes the truth hurts. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 You're making a wise choice, Sapphire, you can do this! All the best... Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Its the biggest step I've made in actually turning down a relationship with someone I genuinley like. For the sake of being alone and working through all my emotions etc. I actually dont miss being with someone at the moment. I feel nice and free. Link to comment
penelope13 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Oh Sapphire, this is great! It's so nice to learn that ENA can really benefit people. All the best, you'll do fine. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Wish me luck. Im enjoying being single and going out and having fun without worrying about whether my bf will be upset or if he'll text or call etc Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 I think you have made a really wise decision. You have the opportunity to grow and find out what works for you and not work for you in your next relationship. I do not think you'll regret the decision to be single for awhile. The freedom and sense of burden that is lifted that comes after a painful break up is priceless. Link to comment
-Sanguine- Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Good for you! Believe me, when I broke up with my ex, I had a lot of trouble just being ON MY OWN. There always seemed to be some guy I was texting or interested in and then I made a decision to just be happy on my own and so I did that for a few months and now I am more than ready to be in a relationship again. I think you will find the same It will be worth it I promise! Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Good for you Sapph! You won't need luck, not at all. Take this time and find happiness within you. Once you do sharing that happiness will make any relationship, and life in general, much much better. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 I think I'm finally getting somewhere in my personal growth....I'm exhausted...no more relationships, I'm totally fed up of them and I need space and time to grow and heal and replenish my energy Link to comment
italiannmf24 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Good idea. I personally believe that one must be alone for an extended amount of time before entering a relationship/fling. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Yeah I have to learn to be totaly happy in myself and get my life where I want it before I can be happy with anyone else. Im taking the time to work on my faults etc Link to comment
quirky Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 This will be good for you, you'll see. I did the same, I was a serial relationship addict lol and then I was single for almost 2 years. It was so liberating, I really don't mind being single now. I never had such need for 'me' time before. You do get lonely but overall it is a liberating feeling knowing you don't need anyone. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 I do miss having someone in my life and I get a bit lonely. But I want it to be the RIGHT person and RIGHT time. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 I took the advice of the board an have decided to remain single. I met someone I really liked but realised I need time to be alone and single and work through my emotions over my exes failed relationships etc. Wish me luck. you don't need any luck. you'll be just fine. but good luck anyways! Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 I literally choose to be single and I've never been so chased. I liteally have about 20 guys after me, some have girlfriends, some just want sex, some really like me, ones m best friend whose IN LOVE WITH ME. And the guy I really like... HELP ME STAY SINGLE Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I took the advice of the board an have decided to remain single. I met someone I really liked but realised I need time to be alone and single and work through my emotions over my exes failed relationships etc. Wish me luck. You only need to focus on working on yourself. And everything else, issues with past relationships will disappear. Watch out for 2 types of perspective on self improvement. One is look for issues and try to fix them - wrong. The other is just acknowledge that problems exist, but you focus on yourself and becoming the best you can be - right. Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I literally choose to be single and I've never been so chased. I liteally have about 20 guys after me, some have girlfriends, some just want sex, some really like me, ones m best friend whose IN LOVE WITH ME. And the guy I really like... HELP ME STAY SINGLE Right, and why would you even want to be with a guy? Don't you know what the greatest love of all is? And if there's so many guys after you, you can just up your standards. And look for someone special. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Hi Sapphire, I know it must be hard with guys all around you trying to seduce you, but do try to stick by your wish to remain single - at least for a few months. I just feel SO SURE that this will be really beneficial to you. There will be plenty of guys 3, 6, 9, 12 months from now, don't you worry. Link to comment
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