SadAndy Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 Firstly, I tried to put this in the 'infidelity' forum but couldn't find it! What is the worst excuse an ex has ever given you for why they cheated? My ex stated (when banged to rights) that 'an evil spirit invaded my body and it wasn't me'. 'I hadn't been right for quite a while (the duration of the affair, 18 mths, i'm guessing! Originally I bought the excuse but then when I thought about it, it actually made me smile! Then she said that she 'probably should have ended the relationship a long time ago'. Funny how hindsight (and the fact that she got caught) can have a bearing! So what is the best excuse you've ever had? Link to comment
sophie274 Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 "I didn't think you'd find out" Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 If she (or rather they) don't know it, it is not an affair (yet) Link to comment
Tanzi Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 "What they don't know can't hurt them." Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 lol that would be the excuse my ex gave me: The girl was a test subject to see if i would cheat. She had the same insecurities as i did therefore if she would cheat on her man then that meant that i would. I quote: "She was the perfect subject." silly boy.. lol Link to comment
Celestialagape54 Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 " I didn't think you would mind since our marriage was failing"......Gee thanks! Link to comment
yeawutever Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 I haven't ever gotten cheated on by the unless excuses cheaters repeat on threads or stories I hear are the followings: 1) If caught in the act, they tend to say it meant nothing and that it won't ever happen again 2) If they're discovered through emails, they say they didn't know what they were doing 3) I was drunk 4) He/she was abusing me and making my life miserable. I can understand no one deserves to be abused in any form but didn't they left the abuser instead of cheating which can make the abuser even more violent than before. 5) He/she cheated on me so I did back..... revenge affairs 6) He/she wasn't satisfying my needs so I had to get it elsewhere 7) I was on a long distance relationship... I missed him/her so much that I get crazy 8) I simply don't know why it happened Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 "They were just for meaningless sex" - how attractive, a man who uses women... Link to comment
yeawutever Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 "They were just for meaningless sex" - how attractive, a man who uses women...Some women use that excuse too. Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 Some women use that excuse too. It's not a double lie for either gender unless the cheater led their "other" partner to believe they wanted a relationship. This was the case in my relationship and I had empathy for the other duped women. Link to comment
moonbug Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 I know a guy who got caught cheating and had this to say in his defense: "I know for sure that I have got much more love to offer than any one woman needs. Whats wrong if I love you all you need and then love someone else too?" Can't argue there, can you? And no, he wasn't someone who could be called a swinger either. Probably someone who believed in 'open relationships' or whatever. Different strokes... Link to comment
greywolf Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 "You're far away." Great, so it's my fault? Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 "It's wasn't me, she came onto me." - Uhhh, yeah, but you reciprocated. Who knows how much truth was in that, but I'm so over it. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 "They were just for meaningless sex" - how attractive, a man who uses women... Yes, not sure how that is meant to make it any better! Mind you, does any excuse? Link to comment
arcadefire Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 "I couldn't say no" and then something about his dead father and how she was "there" for him. Link to comment
Donatella Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 that she was there for him when he was "confused". Link to comment
mrmaximum Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 It's not a double lie for either gender unless the cheater led their "other" partner to believe they wanted a relationship. This was the case in my relationship and I had empathy for the other duped women. Also heard this used on guys, or even to have bare faced been told that their boyfriend 'wasn't here tonight'. Sorry to say, one gender simply isn't better than the other, both our races have our skeletons in our respective closets, yeah? As for me, I was told that it simply 'happened' by my ex, I was never given an excuse the second time around. However... I was told by my father that "If you really care about someone and you cheat on them....DON'T GET CAUGHT" I wish I was joking. Link to comment
lunatic Posted May 21, 2010 Share Posted May 21, 2010 Nothing happened I swear! After I caught them in bed naked together! Not only in bed but, in MY bed! UGH!!! Link to comment
Simply Sweet Posted May 21, 2010 Share Posted May 21, 2010 Heard this from my ex-boyfriend. We were in an LDR and I hadn't heard from him in a couple days!! O.o "God told me that we weren't right for each other...so, I moved on. I guess I just forgot to tell you." Link to comment
SadAndy Posted May 22, 2010 Author Share Posted May 22, 2010 the bloke that my ex cheated with for 2 years also cheated on his wife for a further 3 years and is going around saying...... 'i'm only guilty of not saying no!' Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 "I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing." "I don't know." "You gained weight." ---Needless to say a vase proceeded to be thrown at him at that point.... Link to comment
dragon lady Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 We're practically broken up anyway (cheater to ow). Even though they stayed together for years after that and seemed perfectly happy. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 We are seperated! I swear! But we are staying together for the sake of our daughter because she is only 7 & i don't want to hurt her innocence! Link to comment
Carus Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 "We were on the rocks anyway"..... ....it was news to me.. Link to comment
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