akira2010 Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 So for a little background, I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 2.5 years, with one major break this summer. He broke up with me. Anyway, I moved on a little bit, found someone, didn't work out, and ended it. He moved on also, getting into a relationship with someone else that seemed to work out fairly well. They obviously had strong feelings for one another. Anyway, he decided to end things with the other to get back with me, despite having very strong feelings for that other person. I was happy that we were getting back together, so I didn't think too much of it. I found out 3 weeks ago that he has hooked up with this other person about 5 times in the last 3 months, and has indicated that it unfortunately has had more meaning than hooking up. Nonetheless, he wants to stay in the relationship with me. He tried explaining to me that he still loves this other person, and has very strong feelings, but still wants to be committed to me...thoughts? I was furious when he told me, but still held on to this. Link to comment
ponyboy Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 Im sure i wont be the only one to tell you to let him go. Link to comment
Jonboy582 Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 If he cant be 100% yours then end it. He needs to know he can't have both. If a friend of yours said their bf was in love with someone else, would you tell them to stick at it. Or dump the fool and move on? Move on and don't look back ! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 Stand up, and respect yourself. Don't be the girl that allows him to have his cake and eat it too. You deserve better! Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 He speaks WORDS of commitment but his ACTIONS don't match his words. He is not committed to you if he is cheating on you. He just wants the excitement of having two women after him. I would dump him..and if that other woman had any sense she would dump him as well. Link to comment
knightingale Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 Why be with someone who loves someone else? That's ridiculous. Get out now and move on. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 how do people ever get back together after infidelity? Link to comment
Rabican Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 Im not sure why you think staying with him could lead to anything but wasted time and heartache. HE cheated on you, and is in love with/ has feelings for this other person STILL. But he still wants to be with you? I dont think so!!! A person shouldnt really move on to a relationship with anyone if they are still emotionally tied to another person... especially if they cant be faithful to that person. Link to comment
SpeedingCars Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 I'd be really insulted. He's basically saying he seriously digs the other girl, but "ehh..." what the hey, he'll just stay with you. If you're willing to accept the crumbs he throws at you, then go ahead and stay...but in the end, you can only blame yourself. I would leave and not look back! Link to comment
loulee Posted March 8, 2009 Share Posted March 8, 2009 Dont settle for scraps like this...value yourself...he must be very immature...how could you want tp spend another day with someone like this...do not allow vanity to rule you..tell him hes the winner and to go get his prize(other girl) and walk away...trust me SHE will have massive trust issues with him also and they will not last..stand tall on this one..good luck Link to comment
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