barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 Why do you think she would be on this team? Does she run track? If she is a runner and he out of the blue wants to join running then yea, that is probably exactly what is going on. But if not, then you have to ask yourself if living this paranoid really all that fun? im pretty sure that she is on the team. i know that she was last year. and i do know that his best friend is on the team. living paranoid is not fun at all, no. i hate it. and this whole time i've been trusting him and then BAM! this happens. now im stuck at a stand still, again. but im really not so shooken up this time and that's because all of you were able to knock some sense into me. and if it weren't for ya'll i would've lost it. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 If his best friend is also on the team then it is wrong to keep him from joining something like this IMO. If she is there too and you don't trust him any further then you can throw him then you know this relationship is over. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 People who lie frequently embellish the lie to try to make it more believable... they know they have to 'sell' the lie, and don't have to sell the truth. So the bit about 'slacks' is trying to sell the lie. The thing that bothers me is this is an elaborate and ongoing lie... He's covering up a lot of activities here, and i wonder if he will do this whenever he wants to do something he thinks you won't approve of, or when he's trying to hide something serious like cheating with someone else. I'd go to the track meet to see if this woman is there, and how he behaves around her. Then when he gets home, you need to make it clear that you have zero tolerance for lies, especially big lies like this. Then you have to decide whether he gets another chance or not, and if you do take him back, you probably need to make it clear that the next lie like this, you're gone. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 as a former liar, I lied to hide something I wanted on the side Link to comment
JadedStar Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 as a former liar, I lied to hide something I wanted on the side What made you change? Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 I'd go to the track meet to see if this woman is there, and how he behaves around her. that's a good idea and i may do that. the meet is out of town, but only 30 miles away. so i think i'll do that. just to see. so like you said, maybe i shouldn't say anything tonight. and just wait to see tomorrow what's really going on. i don't want to see her there. i want to believe that she isn't on the team. but the reality is that she probably is. uggh. i don't know. it is sort of a comfort that his best friend is on the team because he also has a 'serious girlfriend' and they have two kids. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 What made you change? I got found out and she told all my friends Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 that's a good idea and i may do that. the meet is out of town, but only 30 miles away. so i think i'll do that. just to see. so like you said, maybe i shouldn't say anything tonight. and just wait to see tomorrow what's really going on. i don't want to see her there. i want to believe that she isn't on the team. but the reality is that she probably is. uggh. i don't know. it is sort of a comfort that his best friend is on the team because he also has a 'serious girlfriend' and they have two kids. Take sunshades and some binoculars with you. And be sure he doesn't see you Barbie. Pull up your hair under a hat. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Take sunshades and some binoculars with you. And be sure he doesn't see you Barbie. Pull up your hair under a hat. Cheaters does a bang up job......I think Barb needs to talk to her man tonight before hiring a PI Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 i've got a million thoughts going through my head. i don't know what im going to do. i don't get off for another 4 hours ugh. i know that i wont go to the meet. i know i'll ask him about it tonight and the night is going to be hell. and im going to cry and he's going to be mad. and that will be my night Link to comment
EQD Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 wait.. you seriously told him you didnt want him running track.. because you were insecure???? Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Just don't take a knife, baseball bat or gun with you. Seriously, you should go and see what he's up to. That will make this more real to you. You could go and see that he isn't even there. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 Just don't take a knife, baseball bat or gun with you. Seriously, you should go and see what he's up to. That will make this more real to you. You could go and see that he isn't even there. im going to ASK him what he is up to. then when he has a meet in town, i'll see what exactly he is up to and if she is on the team. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 barbie, not to drown your sorry or anything. i never lie so...if this was me and you, you would have been single on page 1 of all this. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 im going to ASK him what he is up to. then when he has a meet in town, i'll see what exactly he is up to and if she is on the team. solid plan.....don't do anything until he gets home Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 he hid this from me so well. it's amazing, it really is. and it's funny because he always says that he's a good liar. and i question him when he says this and he says that he can lie good to his parents...but not me right?! ugggh. sicko. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 When he gets home. Play dumb with him and let him tell you alllllll about his fun day playing golf.......... then take it from there........... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 wait what? he tells you he is a good liar? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I got found out and she told all my friends GOod for her. LOL Link to comment
EQD Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 barbie, not to drown your sorry or anything. i never lie so...if this was me and you, you would have been single on page 1 of all this. i hate to gang up and agree.. but.. i agree here. .. and also that when someone tells you "they are a good liar" you probably shouldnt date them.. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 When he gets home. Play dumb with him and let him tell you alllllll about his fun day playing golf.......... then take it from there........... LOL! that's perfect ... I didn't even think about that. He'll tell me all about it too. He does everynight. So right when he's done I'll ask him what's going on. Im getting off early today, but he won't be home for a couple more hours. He'll be at 'golf practice.' So maybe I'll show up at 'golf practice.' surprise! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 he hid this from me so well. it's amazing, it really is. and it's funny because he always says that he's a good liar. and i question him when he says this and he says that he can lie good to his parents...but not me right?! ugggh. sicko. SOunds like he has been very honest about being a liar. I am not sure why this is surprising. I know you are hurt, as you should be, but surprised...I'm not sure why if he has told you he is a good liar. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 wait what? he tells you he is a good liar? he has said that he 'is a good liar.' he has said it several times. but then he claims he's only a good liar when it comes to his parents. RIGHT! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 he has said that he 'is a good liar.' but then he claims he's only a good liar when it comes to his parents. RIGHT! THat was a lie in itself and apparently a good one because you believed him. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 Wait, what? Isn't that an oxymoron? If someone says "I am lying", are they lying or telling the truth? Because if they are telling the truth, that means they are a liar, and liars don't tell the truth, and if the are lying, they CANT be a liar, because that would be the truth! My head hurts. ******huh?****** you made me dizzy. Link to comment
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