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he did admit to me he still cares for me... in the previous contact.. i ask him "do he think we will get back together" (was this question a bad question).. then he answer "yes, but not now. i need my time and space right now." did he said that just to make me feel like i got hope??? or did he said that just to make me happy??? if he say that just because he wants me to feel happy.. then that is wrong of him...i would rather him say "NO"... Why do guys sometimes just can't give a straight forward answer.. instead of an answer what the girls want to hear??? sometimes it makes me believe whatever my ex said to me is what i wanted to hear that is why he said it... not because that's how he feel about me... i guess that's something i will not find out or know.. that's why guys are guys and girls are girls...

that is not the whole point the whole point is did i made a mistake by messaging him online....should i've just stick with my no-contact rule.. even though we are friends... well atleast we both agree with being friends...

just cause it's mother's day... just like i would have friends who will call me up and say happy mother's day when i am not a mom... that's why... i guess i am just weird...

Hi all... i haven't wrote on here for a while now... i was wondering if i made a mistake by messaging my ex online.....earlier today i text message him saying happy mother's day... and when i just message him online he ask me why did i text message him today saying happy mother's day... when he is not a mom.. i said you don't have to be a mother to celebrate mother's day... i feel so distant from him now...i feel like i have to be very careful about what i talk to him about... it is so hard... can someone tell me if i made a mistake by message him.. when he said he needed time and space??? my ex broke up with me 1 month and 1/2 ago.. and we agree on being friends about 2 weeks ago... i don't know what to do... i still love him and misses him a lot... will someone tell me what should i do??? in need of an advice... thanks in advance...

i guess i should do what i was doing before i saw him... i was moving on and doing so much better... but since i saw him yesterday i just went back to square one.. i gotta start all over again.. and i know i will make it this time... thanks..

he broke up with me 1 month ago.. and i did not contact him... i just started to call him cause he told me he will call me in 3 weeks (after the break up) to get my stuff.. since he haven't call so i decided to call him up on friday.... he was nice to me.. but i just don't know why he is nice to me on the phone but so mean in person when he was the one who broke up with me... not me broke up with him...

Hi again people.. it's me again... yup i am back to square one.. im crying and didn't eat all day... well let me tell my story of what happened... and hopefully someone have some advice to tell me... The orginal plan was for me to go get my stuff back from my ex.. but he is working.. so his friend was suppose to give it to me... but then it ended up that his friend didn't bring the tapes along so we ended up at his work... and waited for him to get off from work.. then after work.. we went back to the house... i brought back the XBOX for my ex.. and he said he didn't want it.. he was so mean there... but i left it for him anyway... then he got my stuff for me and went straight back into the house and close the door on me... by that time i was really sad.. So i left and call one of my friend... and he told me if you care about him.. and want to know what's going on or if you want the closure for this relationship you should call him up and tell him you need to talk... So i called my ex up and ask him can we talk... Me we talk? Him: I'm watching TV. Me: It won't take long. Him: what is there to talk about.. Me: About us.. Him: What about us? Me: Can i ask you a question? Him: yea Me: Why did you break up with me? Him: Because where you work at. Me: Is that the real reason. HIm: Yes Me: You never loved me huh... Him: Yes i do... Yes i did.. i still care for you.. Me: Can i ask you another question? HIm: Yea... Me: Do you think we will get back together? Him: YEs but not now... i need my space and time... Me: When do you know then. Him: i Don't know... but if you find another guy then go for it... (Should i have said i will not go for any guys... or i will wait for you??) Me: (quiet) HIm: (quiet) Me: Can we be friends then. Him: yes me: (quiet) Him: (quiet) Me: i'll let you go back to watching TV. Him: I'll call you later... Tell me what you guys think about this conversation... after the meeting... somehow to me he is very nice to me on the phone with me.. but in person he is so mean to me.... does that means doesn't want to see me in person?? or what... i really need to understand what is going on... will someone give me some advice???

Yes i do love him... and i think i will wait for him...

i need some advice.. let me keep this short... my ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago.. and now i found out from his friend that.. he didn't want to break up with me.. i just finish talking to one of his close friend.. and i don't know if she is telling me all this because she wants me to get back with him or what... but she told me that he didn't want to break up with me.. and ever since the break up he gets mad all the time.. he gets mad at everybody... i found out that he really cares for me... but he just doesn't know how to show it to me.. or tell me... I haven't contact him until last week.. and i found out this today... This makes me thinks that if i had contacted him a couple days after the break up.. would we get back together??? I thought i was over him and i didn't want him back.. but after this talk i don't know anymore.. i don't know what i want anymore.. part of me want to get back with him and part of me doesn't.. i don't want to get back with him mainly because i don't want to be neglected.. i believe i deserve better... i don't know... i believe for a guy/girl to have a gf/bf is to love them not to neglect them.. of all the times i talked to him (my ex).. he is talking to me like he use to... all nice and sweet.. up til today i have contacted him 3 times.. of all the 3 times he was nice and sweet... i wonder if he wants to get back with me??? but of all the times i called him it was strictly business.. of getting my stuff back... and that was it.. nothing more... Will someone give me advice on what i should do??? I really need to know.. I might see him tomorrow... avman... anyone...Please... Thanks in advance...

i did leave him a message... but i just hate the fact that even after we broke up i still have to wait for him to call back.. i am one of those that if i want to finish up with something.. i want to do it right away.. i don't want to drags thing on... just irretates me that he is the one who said he will call but i ended up calling to get my stuff backs... and when i do call he do not answer his phone... i know he is off today.. so there's no reason for not answer my phone calls...

i have this feeling inside of me telling me he is not going to call back even if i leave the exact message.. of what i need to get and stuff.. i don't know.. maybe i know him to well .. cause whenever i call him he never return my call even if i leave him a message...this is killing me.. i feel like everything is coming back all at once...

i called his cell phone... he always have his cell phone with him.. knowing him even if he is at work he will answer it to.. i left him a message telling him to call me back... i guess i should leave him a message telling i need my stuff back and when can i come and get it.. i think he is not answering it because he knows it's me that's calling...

as you can see.. i have wrote a topic on "why is he ignoring me" i just called him today to ask him when is he free so i can go and pick up my stuff but he did not answer his phone.. why is he doing this... what do i have to go through just to get my stuff back... all i am asking for is to get my stuff back.. what else can i do to get my stuff back?? help.. i really don't know what to do anymore... if he is just going to ignore me like this??? need help.. any advice will help... thanks...

im not to the point where i want to call the police on him... i still care for him.. but don't think i want to get back with him... i still misses him.. but i just want to get my stuff back and that's it... don't want to get into too much trouble with it... he haven't called me ever since we broke up.. so i am pretty sure he doesn't want to get back with me.. he might be with another girl already... i don't care... just want my stuff back... that's all i care about now.. so you think i should call him up and ask for my stuff back???

the stuff i want back.. i just want back...i don't know if i want to get back with him anymore... i just want it back... i don't really care in seeing him... he can have his friend handing it to me and not have to see me at all... i just want it back... i feel like my heart had heal now... ofcourse there is time i will think about him.. but like i said before i don't know if i want to get back with him at all... these 3 weeks gave me time to think about the relationship and how he treated me... and from what i see i deserve better... and i guess he said it right ... i am probably better off finding another guy who will treat me right and spend more time with me instead of his friends... to find a guy who would atleast put me in #2 position instead of #4... i don't know if it was him that called or not.. that will be a mystery cause it's a restricted call... i just don't get it... when he said he will call but he still hasn't called... well that's how he was too when i was with him.. say he will call me back but end up not calling at all... so i wonder when should i call him to get my stuff??? when should be the right time??? how much longer do i have to wait to get the stuff???

Okay i haven't wrote on this for a while now... it's been a little over a week.. but here's the situation.. ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago.. told me he will call me in 3 weeks to get the rest of my stuff back.. but it's been over 3 weeks and he hasn't called.. should i call him and ask him when can i get my stuff back?? 2nd problem is... i just saw him online was going to ask him about my stuff.. i said hi is this **** and he didn't reply then i said are you afraid of talking to me or replying back.. then i realize that he had logged off??? what does that means..??? Another thing that is weird that happened today was.. i got a call with a restricted # .... the people that i know had restricted # was either my ex or his friends... and when i answer it.. no one said anything... so i hung up... what is this all about... i need some answer... hopefully some of you can help me with this problem... thanks...

i sometimes wonder too... if anyone ever got their ex back... or is all these advice for moving on with your life instead of getting back with your ex... i actually see it as moving on without your ex... atleast that is what i see for my relationship... with my ex...

i think a lot of people feel the same way too.. i feel the same way too.. but what keeps me from killing myself is my parents, family and friends.. think about how your parents will feel when you do kill yourself... think about how everyone else will feel... how everyone that knows you.. found out you will never going to be here... that's a very painful experience... especially for your parents... i am saying this because i lost a cousin.. not because he killed himself because he got into an accident... and it is very painful for everyone.. especially for his dad.. and up til now we still miss him very much... and it's not a good experience to go through...

Ravens_folly: i feel you...my ex broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago.. because he say he doesn't have time for me... but he doesn't work 50-80 hours a week.. but yet he still doesn't have time for me.. and i only see him once a week... cause he lives in another city... and since we broke up we haven't talk... i want to call him and talk.. but think maybe he need his space.. to think... if he truly misses me or want to get back with me he will call one day... i am still hurting inside... and that's why i get on here and message people for help how to get over this harsh time.. i am still coping with this.. just like everyone else on here... hope everything goes well for you...

that's something i am not so sure of anymore... im not so sure if i still want him back or not...

from what i learn you can get pregnant even if ur on your period... and having sex... having your period doesn't mean anything... espeically when you say it all of a sudden stops for one day... i would have her get check just to make sure...

i am very sorry if i am annoying some of you with my problem i just don't know what should i do to get over it... i feel that i need to know... but i don't want to call him yet to ask... i don't know if he will tell me the truth or not... but seems like it to me that he is an honest person cause there were a couple of question i asked him before we broke up and he told me the truth... so like some of you would say he's probably not telling me the truth from the break up because he doesn't want to hurt me more than he already did... but i feel like i should get to know the real reason why... i am very sorry people... thanx a lot...

see that is how i feel... i feel like i can't move on with my life without knowing... and like a few have said... what is the point of knowing when you don't plan to be with him again... i just need to know so i can move on with my life... i feel like i don't care if i am ready for the answer or if the outcome won't be what i wanted to hear... i don't care.. i just wanna know the real reason so i can move on and let go... it's easier for me to know the truth for me to let go.... and move on...

so if i still want him back should i still ask him why??? and when should i ask???

i want to know the answer so badly... but im still doing the no contact with him... it's been a week that i haven't had contact with him... i want to be friends with him so badly if i can't be lover with him anymore... atleast i know i will still have him as a friend... im afraid he wouldn't want to be friends either.... i think this is why i couldn't really sleep rite now...