I have been married about 1 year and a half. I love my wife dearly...but I feel so desperate to cheat. We have what appears to most to be everything, we just bought a home, live rather well, and everything looks perfect...but it is not. She is 24, I am nearly 29. Both white collar and reasonably attractive. She has almost no desire for sex. She gives in...to please me...but it is a mere appeasement. She has been like this for several years. She lays there, nothing but missionary, no foreplay, nothing elase involving hands, mouths, nothing. It is like sex with a sleeping person. I walk down the street and see women, I would do anything to be single again and to have an intimate and sensual sexual relationship. I have begged for years for us to see a counselor, but she just says...they always say the same thing. "you have a problem, but they never say how to fix it." I have been asking 3 years. She has begun to sort of let go of her figure. I am still attracted to her, but I fear she is physically not the person I was attracted to. I know that makes me sound awfully shallow, but...it is how I feel. I do not want to divorce, but I just don't think that she can ever be the person I desire sexually. How bad does that make me? I have resigned myself to a relationship that will never fufill me sexually. So many other things she offers me, yet I can't seem to get over the fact that my sex life is literally having sex with a warm spot, that just happens to be my wife.