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  1. I was just there for a cleaning, before I actually knew I was pregnant and I had a small cavity that they filled. Now it still hurts. I guess my question is....what if i need a root canal???????
  2. I just found out I'm pregnant....YEAY!!! but for some reason, everytime I eat something I get a horrible tooth ache on one side of my mouth, top and bottom so i know its not cavities! Is this tooth aching thing normal because it is killing me!! My OB told me I can take reg tylenol. Is it ok to take a few times a day, or should it be limited??
  3. Thank you all so much for your supportive advice! It helped a lot!!!! I kinda needed to hear the: "go for it, do what you both want, its your day!" Thanks again!!!!
  4. To get married in the chuch again I do need an annulment....which I am in the process of now. I would pay for the wedding myself of course......and this is his first wedding and he does want the big traditional wedding so why should he be deprived? Its not about the gifts and the money....its about celebration for me and having my family there. Also I love the idea of telling people they dont need to bring a gift again, but how do I do that without being tacky?? And I would not have another bridal shower or gift registary or anything like that. "Has he proposed and if he has what does he want?" No he has not proposed yet, but I think its coming soon and I just would want to be prepared cause I dont want anyone to feel awkward including myself.
  5. Hi All, I have a question for anyone who will answer. I posted here a while ago....basic story.....I was dating a guy for about 8 years(met in 1994), got married in 2002, had a big traditional italian wedding, less than a year after we were married i caught him cheating, we separated in Jan 2004 and our divorce was final march 2005. Was a very tramatic time for me but now i'm OK. I had a best friend that was a guy that I have known since about 1997. We have been really good friends, we work together as well. We began dating June of 2004(after I was separated for 6 months) and I am totally in love with him.....I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him.....but what do I do now? I had this huge wedding with 200 people there (friends and family) I have a biiiiggg family and i wasnt them all there. If we do end up getting married.....what do I do?? How do I have another wedding? I dont feel like cause I got screwed by my ex-husband that I should miss out on wearing white and haveing a reception and getting married in a chuch and all that good stuff. When I got married the firts time I had my dream wedding and my dream was shattered!! Any advice on a second wedding?
  6. I HAVE NO IDEA!! I THINK I GOT RIPPED OFF BIG TIME! BUT YOU KNOW WHAT...THATS THE PRICE I PAID FOR HAPPINESS! WHAT CAN YA DO!
  7. Hey jordan, I remember you from this forum last year. We were going through just about the same thing. Anyway, I filed Jan 2004.....I now have paid over $5000 for an uncontested divorce, no kids and nothing to split. My soon to be ex did not split the fee with me and did not get his own lawer either! My papers were just sent to the courts about a week ago and now the lawyer tells me that its how long the judge will take to sign the paper for it to be final. So dont feel so bad!! I'm just over a year now, it still aint over and i paid a fortune in legal fees!!!!!!!! Just pe paitient....hopefully it will all be over soon!!
  8. I know you guys are so right! He has takes me for a ride for 10 years of my life and its so hard to say goodbye! Now not to mention, I dont have his new address and the draft of our divorce papers just came in the mail. Now it looks like I have no choice but to contact him! What should I say though? Should I act like i'm ok or just be cold and ask for his address and thats it?? What do I do here??
  9. Hi all, I have been here many times with the same story. I finally have something different to say!! I've have been in the process of divorce for about 3 months now, but my husband was still living with me! After treating me like dirt the entire time, he "claims" he wants to change, he wants to work it out and was still living in my house. Well on friday afternoon I heard a message from a girl on his cell phone. the message said "hi this ***** i had a question to ask you and also I bought you a present so if you want to hang out tonight i'll give it to you". When I confronted him about it he told me she was just a friend who he met in a bar. WHAT THE HECK!!!!!! A friend???? I dont think so!! After I caught him with a singles add out on the internet, and after several other lies he has told me! I threw him out that night!!! I was ok with my decision. So as i'm packing up his stuff for him on sat morning, I find a box of condoms, which was supposed to be brand new, with one or two missing. Then I find a ripped up piece of paper written in his handwriting that i put back together and discovered that this was her credit card number. So when he came on sunday to pick up his stuff all sad and teary, I asked him about it and of course he just made something up!! He swears that it was a friend and he never cheated on me and bla bla bla!!!! I did feel horrible dont get me wrong, and i wanted so bad for this to work out, but I just cant do it anymore! I dont think this was a friend, i really dont. I know I should not believe him because all he does is lie!! But a part of me still wants to! I want to call him to see how he is doing, but a part of me doesn't cause I know it will mess me up in the head and I'm actually doing ok for right now! So......should I call or wait a few days?? He was real upset and I do feel bad. Or should I just forget it cause obviously he didn't care about my feelings!!! I'm just to nice a person!!
  10. Hi Angel, You ask "Why are you guys getting a divorce?" Well to speak for myself, when I got married I did expect to be with my husband forever. I didn't expect lies and what I consider cheating. I didn't expect my husband to place a singles add for himself on the internet 3-4 months after we were married. I planned to have a family with him and this is why it hurts so bad! I am in love and I do want to be with him but because of his actions I cant. I feel like I have no choice now but to leave him. I owe my life and myself more than that! It stinks......it really really does, but its out of my hands now, but the pain is just unbearable sometimes. No one understand unless they go threw it & if you read past posts, callmecrazy and myself are going threw almost the exact same thing here and its nice to know your not alone!! I wish you all the luck in the world!!
  11. Hi All! Have posted here many times already! Having a bad day today! My husband and I had a meeting with my lawyer today to discuss a settlement. This is the first time we all met together. My husband basically said he wants nothing at all, which some of you may be saying is great, but it killed me! Not that he didn't want anything, but he said he just wants this to go as smooth as possible because he just wants me to be happy. That ripped my heart out! Why now? Why does he want me to be happy now? Why couldn't he try to make me happy before all this? Now the papers are being drawn up and he is tying to make me feel like this is a mistake. I get upset in front of my parents and my mom says I better make sure I am making the right decision. Only because i'm upset! Well how can I not be upset, I've been with him for 10 years, but we have only been married for a little over a year! Of course i'm upset!! HOw can I not be upset. I thought I was gonna be with this man for the rest of my life and that was cut short! But I am hurting so bad!! He still lives in my house with me, which doesn't make it feel as real as it is. But I think when he finally moves out i'm gonna hurt 10 times worse, if thats possible!! I know this is the best thing for us, all the things he has done to me, it has to be right!! But why does it hurt so bad! I should be happy i'm getting this over with, no kids yet nothing. Just a clean break! But i'm hurting so much right now!
  12. Hi Callmecrazy, I am about to call you crazy. How could you think about sucking it up and dealing with his immaturities??? I know you have dealt with it for so long, but you are just starting to realize whats going on here and you shouldn't have to pay for his mistakes. I PM'ed you so you know we are going through the EXACT same thing. It is painful! You guys talk about children, well this is when my situation hit me like a ton of bricks! I want kids, at least 3. So lets say I have 3 and can't really work anymore because I have to stay home and take care of these kids. Well since I bring in most of the money in our home, then who will be supporting these children? How can you count on your husband? Who will probably end up losing his job or going in late and not taking home a full paycheck. Who's gonna put food on the table? Who's salary are you gonna but down when you need a new car loan when his credit is really bad. Its just really hard to picture a future with someone who says they love you and want to change, and the change is so simple and they dont try! The way I see it, in my situation anyway, is if you love me so much then why do you do the things that you do that you know hurt me so much!!! Enough babbling for me!! Just think long and hard about sacrificing your life for someone who isn't sacrificing for you!! You still young, you can find someone you deserve!
  13. I am so confussed! After being such a jerk for like 6 weeks now, he is being so nice! We actually had a conversation the other day. We are both upset because we spent the last 10 yrs together! We cried together we are on speaking terms now! He is still in the house but has an apt. he finally told me! He says he dont know why he cant let go yet! He told me he feels like this is a mistake and maybe we should hold off on the divorce and just separate for a while! As upset as I am thats is over, i think deep down inside i know it will be for the best! But I am so sad and he is making me more sad! Any help please!!! He is killing me!! I'm an emotional mess!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  14. Hey Jordan, Ya know what??? It went ok! My lawyer made it as painless as possible. I went friday, she explained the procedure, i gave my retainer, and they mailed a formal letter to my husband. He got the letter on sat and he just called her back today. He told her that he wants this to be as painless as possible but i dont know if i believe him. I bought our house before we were married and he moved in a painted and stuff so to him its like I owe hims something for that. And I dont think I do considereing i paid for the house. And yea he gave me money for bills when he lived there but thats like paying rent. And he hasn't helped me out with bills in 5 weeks now and he is still living there!! Thats not right!! But i know hes gonna want something from me! I dont want this to be an all out war and i can see that happening. I do still love him, but I feel like he is screwing me over now. He is always going out, partying and stuff.....and i'm breaking my back trying to pay bills that he aint helping me with! Not fair is it???
  15. Hi All, Its me once again! Friday is the day i'm going to see the lawyer to file for divorce. I'm afraid, nervous and a tiny bit relieved. I dont know what to expect when I go, so if anyone can give me some input there it would help! Also, I was so afraid I was making the wrong decision, but my husband has been such a jerk that I feel a little relieved that I'm finally getting this over with. A little more advice I could use is how to get him to leave our home now. It is my house, in my name only. When we agreed to divorce we were both very upset(so i though) and i told him he could stay if he still helps out(bills & chores). Well needless to say he hasn't done a thing as far as chores and as far as bills.....he hasn't given me money in A MONTH!!!!!! So he is living like a champ right now! I cant tell him to go now cause I want some legal advice first, but when its time I want him out! What do I say?? I still fell bad even though he is totally screwing me over right now and it seems like he dont have a care in the world about it! If you care to read my other posts....they explain all! Thanx for ANY help!
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