lostandhurt

Hey who are you calling old timer??? 😁 I have been around here a while haven't I? No plans for Sunday except watch the game alone probably. My son (lives with my ex) has covid and is struggling which worries me but he seems to be getting slowly better. Thank you HGO Lost

All great suggestions, thank you! I live on 3 acres and I am a car guy too. I have been volunteering for about ten years so it will be nice to do more than weekend stuff with them. Lost

Thank you Seraphim Lost

Thank you, No espresso for me but I am thinking about a protein shake and working out for 30 minutes. I have a small home gym and never seem to have time to consistently work out so that should be part of my morning. I think my time on the forum won't stop just be different. Maybe early morning check in. Lost

Thank you Lambert I appreciate it Lost

Thank you Holly, I have volunteered for two adaptive sports programs for years. The director or one has already offered me a paid position but I think I will stick to the volunteer status for now. I am also starting a Youtube channel which should be a fun challenge or a hilarious disaster. I certainly had a full plate after work all these years remolding family and friends houses, fishing, hiking, camping, kayaking, painting show cars metal yard art and several other stuff I like doing. I am looking forward to continuing all those things but at a more relaxed pace. Do you have a routine in the mornings or do you just wing it? Lost

Hi all Thursday February 4th was my last day at a job I was at for almost 31 years. Leaving my crew that I watched over for all those years was the hardest part because management above me are idiots which is the reason I even looked into retiring. I will be 57 years old Sunday and I feel excited, unsure and feel fortunate to be able to retire pretty comfortably at my age. Like many I have worked since a young age so this new phase will be an interesting and exciting new journey for me. I received many job offers after word got out that I was not happy, I was tempted but I didn't want to leave a place I had built from the ground up just to go replicate that somewhere else, I didn't want to get sucked into years more when I should be thinking of myself and relaxing. I dropped the bomb on management at 6:30am yesterday and to the whole organization. Within an hour my phone started ringing of fellow coworkers from throughout my career that have retired telling me how happy they were for me and relating how much I will love retirement. I do believe them and look forward to taking them all up on their offers of lunch, hang out and have some beers, fishing and on and on. I have been on this forum a long time and I don't know now that I will not have a computer right in front of me all day how often I will visit. Perhaps more, perhaps less but my new routine will surely decide that. Are there any retired people out there that would care to share their daily routines? I only sleep about 5-6 hours a night so getting up early-ish will still probably be a given. I have never drank coffee so that routine is out but I do want to get into a good one. I like structure but I am learning to just let things happen too. Just looking for ideas. Just me and the dog here and a little over 3 acres. Plenty to do but the sun needs to be up 🙂 Any thoughts would be appreciated. Lost and retired

I saw that 🤪 Don't feel bad my posts kill me sometimes when I read them again!!! I think the admins should give more time to edit our posts depending on the length of time we have been on this forum. I know it won't happen but seeing my mistakes being unfixable is frustrating. On to your thread topic. So I have worked for the same place for over 30 years and throughout all those years I have had numerous bosses on 3 levels about me (I am the lowest boss) and I am a lot like you so at first it really bothered me how incompetent some were over the years. When I had good ones it was blissful and having one knucklehead out of 3 in the chain was doable but when you have all 3 that don't know what they are doing it is unbearable. Over the years I learned to size them up pretty quickly and simply worked around them. I let them think what they wanted and just got the job done well. If they called me in to chastise me I wouldn't ague or explain myself to much or at all, I would simply let them think they were in charge and were really giving it to me. They would feel better and I would let it slide off my back and go back to doing what I know. My situation is almost assuredly different than yours but if you think about it this way it may help. It is mind over matter, I didn't mind because they didn't matter. Caring to much at work can hurt you emotionally, physically and relationship wise. Be mindful of that as you get frustrated. The passion you have for your work is a great asset and if they were smart they would tap into that passion instead of beating you down with stupid trivial complaints for things they probably don't completely understand. Looking for a new job is a good idea. It does two things: 1. It relieves some of the stress because you see options. 2. It allows you to see that at this moment this might be the place you need to be for right now. My situation has gotten to the point where I started looking into retirement. I could stick it out here longer and they couldn't touch me but looking at retirement is like looking for possible new jobs and it opened my eyes. I should have looked sooner because financially I am lucky enough to leave at any time and live very comfortably. Where I work we have had an influx of people with degrees but no experience which cause the experienced people to leave out of frustration which brings in more inexperienced people. This place is in trouble and if your work is starting to head in that direction get out before it gets so bad it hurts your soul. Play the game and stop trying to teach your boss how to do their jobs better because it won't work. They just spout stuff they read about communication and open door policy but as you have found out the communication is one sided and the door may be open but you are not welcome inside. Play the long game and ALWAYS put yourself and your family first. Giving to much and expecting a reward I have found is a recipe for disappointment. A good work environment is worth more than 15% more salary any day. Lost

That is great news Jetta. I hope it is a new avenue for you. Being creative is a gift... Lost

Halfbreed, This thread is very old. Perhaps you could start your own thread. Lost

I am sure we have some literary genious's here that can help. Good luck Lost

It is nice to see you acknowledge your talent. It is quite beautiful. You should be proud of your drawings and your ability to capture more than just an image. This is truly a gift. Lost

Very cute. You must wonder what will come that creative mind her next. lost

It's not your job to make everyone happy. I have tried and it is not possible if they don't know how to be happy with themselves. Time to be a little selfish until you are firmly back on your own two feet. Nice to hear you sort of have found someone. lost

Didn't make me sad. It was a cause to reflect. I have been pretty sad these last few days and your words described some of what I have been feeling. It is not the end but a new direction. People come and go from our lives and it does hurt especially when we tried to make it right and failed. We cannot hide ourselves in others even though it is very is to do. We must venture out of the shell of pity and despair and live OUR lives. lost

I thought you said once you had nothing to offer anyone. Seems like you were wrong. I couldn't write something like that if you held gun to my head. very nice lost

Did you write this? I have reflected a lot about who I am. Mostly in my darkest hours...... lost