BlueDude

Yea, when you put it that way sounds better hah. Well I'm planning on Dinner and a movie, and then if she wants me to pick her up then I'll give at her house. But if we meet up I'll just save them in a box or something ^.^ Thanks!

Hahah, yea I know to get her at the door and all. And I'd rather give them to her afterwards. But like how long do they last till they wilt or something? =[

Yea, call her later. If a woman hints at something, do it! Or you could lose it all hahah Just call her and see how everythings going. Let her know, that even though things are tough, your there for her and you care about her. And if she needs anyone your there. Sometimes woman say they want to be alone and need to get things together. When really what they need is someone to understand and be there for them. Which, with some patience may turn into something great. Hope that made some sense and helps out in some way. ~Andrew

Yea, I'm pretty much with them. Just ask her for her number and suggest, meeting sometime. See how things go and everything. Depending on yalls relationships it may or may not change the project. I'm good friends with all my ex-gf's but some people it may make it awkward. But if yall are both mature yall should atleast hopefully be able to go through with the project no matter what happens. So yea, I say go for it. all great things in life come with risks.

Hi everyone, well I asked out a girl who I can't get over no matter what out on valentines day. I just had my birthday party and a few people told us we looked cute and a bunch of other stuff. But yea. How does this sound for a date. I should probably ask her if she'd like me to pick her up. If so... well, I get to find out where she lives hahah and I think I probably can pick her up. But before, was going to buy her a boquet of flowers. And a box of chocolates. Then we would meet up, wherever lol. And go see a movie, thinking of The Messengers. Anyone have any good ideas for a movie? Afterwards go out to eat. After we eat give her the boquet and the chocolates Then... probably have to take her home lol. Anyone have any ideas? advice? something??? And what can I do with the boquet? Like.. can I just keep it in the car? If so for how long? or what? Cause I'd rather not go to give her a boquet and it turn out to be wilted.... Please helpp out some! P.s. my friend just advised that since everyones going to the movies and dinner. Perhaps I should make her a picnic and give her the boquet and everything at the park. Not sure about this one, would be strange. Advice on both? I'll probably ask her which she'd rather do...

Hmm, I don't know thats a tough one, it could be that he is just really shy. Some guys when theres a girl they really like, they can't be comfortable around her, and they do the most lamest things in an attempt to try and get her to like him or whatever. Oftentimes it results in doing the opposite, hence trying too hard usually doesn't work. But you should talk to him Just ask him one day, be like hey, why do you act so differently around me? And see what he says I know for a long time I wasn't shy at all except for when it came to girls that I liked. Just so you know how vast it can be, before I dated my x-gf Becca I wasn't afraid to run up to girls I've known for a week and give them a big bear hug from behind. Yet when I dated her, I was scared to even hold her hand. So yea, you never know what may be on his mind =] ~Andrew

Hah it's all good we all have to start somewhere, it's a learning experience. Now then, as for calling her, just call her whenever, but you don't want to do it too early, or too late for she might be busy. Usually between 7 and 8 is the preferred calling time. And as for asking if you can call her, no don't do that, because she gave you her number, isn't that kind of like giving you permission? =] And just talk about whatever, how your day went, ask her how her day was, has she done anything exciting lately, just try and talk about anything that seems interesting. chances are if it's interesting to you, it should be to her too. Something I've always found fun is asking "So... how's your pimp game goin?" It's always fun to hear the responses And nah you don't have to put your arm around her, but if it's in a scary movie, especially if she gets really scared it really helps. Or just anything, my first girlfriend I was terrified to do anything with her, and I went with her cousin. And we went to go see The Ring (or maybe it was the Ring 2) Anyways she was frightened and her cousin kept hitting me saying "PUT YOUR FREAKIN ARM AROUND HER" until I finally did it, and I noticed she didn't seem as scared when I did. So yea, it's not a "You must do it" it's a hard thing, it varies on the girl, how things are going and everything when it comes to the first date. And as for a kiss, don't try and go in for a kiss on the first date Unless it's really that right moment. Usually the best time for a best kiss, is when you know it is. Like if your holding each other in a movie theatre and something is said and you both look at each other at the same time and it's just kind of still for a moment, thats a good time =] Hope thats helped out in some way Wish you the best of luck! ~Andrew

Ah, yes well first off you want her number. How long have you known her for? In my opinion you don't want to jump straight into a relationship. You want to get to know her on a friend basis first. Talking to her on the phone can bring you two closer to knowing each other and really give that connection you need for a relationship. Next time yall are hanging out, studying whatever, whenever yall are about to end up just ask her, be like "Hey, I was wondering if maybe I could call you later?" Or, while your in class, something thats pretty cute, is write her a little letter on a slip of paper with something like "Hey, I was wondering if I can have your number? They usually find that cute and you can get it has worked for me many times lol As for the movie, don't force her into going to see something she really doesn't want to. Ask her if she's ohkay seeing it with you, if she says flat out no, suggest another movie and see how she responds. If she says something else, or kind of hints that she kind of doesn't want to go but a little unsure, just tell her like "Well I'll be there I promise" And usually if you have the girls number and ask her out, just the two of you on a date. It usually is considered a date depending on how long you've known each other. And, to make it apparent, flirt with her. Like have a little tickle fight, smile at her, buy her ticket btw (very polite gesture) ask her if she'd like some popcorn or a drink. Try and put your arm around her =] Since it's a scary movie, if you don't have your arm around her by this time, whenever she gets scared, just put your arm around her and pull her a little closer. Makes her feel more comforted. Hope that makes some kind of sense and helps out in some way, wish you the best of luck!! ~Andrew

Yea I know that's what I keep thinking, if we were in our 20's thered be nothing wrong with it. Yet she's in Jr. High and I'm in High School >. I live in the U.S. Here, it's 14 is legal with someone within 3 years your age limit. So... I would be good for 10 months of the year hah... Another thing is I talked to my friend, and he told me if I'm going to go for it, that now is the time. Because next year it'll be Senior-Freshman And if something happens then, in one year I'll go to college. And... she'll still be in HS. So if we start now we'll be able to know if we can handle it while I'm at college. But thanks for the advice I believe I'ma have to think on this one a bit.

Hahah we've all been there nothing to feel stupid about. My first girlfriend I was sweating and had to "count down" in my mind to when I was going to hold her hand -.-'

Wow that's a tough one. In life we all change... My personal opinion, is to stay close friends and keep in touch with her. Just see where things go, it's like she says, if its meant to be, it's meant to be, and it will happen. She said she needs to discover herself and can't have a relationship now, and you should respect that. So just see where time takes you. But at the same time you can't wait forever. Hope I've helped out atleast a little bit, let us know how things turn out.

Hey everybody, well I'm new here (just joined today in fact lol) And I really need some opinions on this and so I came here. Well, theres a girl that I really like, she's like everything I want in a girlfriend. But... she's 3 years younger than me... And in 2 weeks, it will be 4 years I'll be 17 in January, and she won't even turn 14 until March!](*,) I'm a Jr. in Highschool, and she's in 8th grade I know it's really strange, I've always seen her as my little sister until we had to pretend we were dating so this one girl wouldn't bother us... but yea after then I realized she was definitely my type and I'm really attracted to her. But yea, I could go on about a lot of things I like about her and things we do and all that but I doubt yall want to hear all of that lol. But I really need some opinions Please help me out here!

Hi there, I'm kind of new here myself hahah but congratulations on asking him out! =] Problems: 1. Social anxiety - what if there's a cute guy behind the counter when I buy the tickets? I can't handle it if there's a cute guy behind the counter, no matter who I'm with. > Just try and stay calm, it's the best thing you can do. And hopefully, he'll buy your ticket, wait for him to buy his first. Then buy yours if he doesn't buy it. And don't try and think about "how cute the guy is" think about how happy you are because of who your with 2. What am I going to talk about? How am I going to keep from being tense and strained at keeping up conversation for a few hours? Why didn't I make it a group outing??? Then again if there were any more people around, I probably wouldn't talk at all. It's a movie so luckily you won't have to do tooo much talking. However you do still need to get a conversation. Just talk about whatever would make you smile, or you would enjoy talking about. Ask him how school's going for him, ask him if he knows how good the movie is. 3. What if I see some of the "popular girls" around when I'm with him? They'll be "nice", but they'll make me feel like I've "let them down" somehow. I know it's stupid. Being at the bottom of the pecking order makes you stress about this a lot. Don't worry about them. Popularity is overrated, seriously, you should just follow your heart and what you believe, not what the "popular girls" want you to do. 4. I just checked - it's his 17th birthday the day after we're gonna meet (I'm already 17). Uh-oh. Should I do something? All I REALLY have to do is make sure he has a good time, but I'm not sure I even know how to do that!!! Ooh wow, special occasion heheh Well, since he said he liked you, he may be shy too, so you may have to try and break some of that up. Something that's always worked for me (however lame it is, I love it) is smile at them and ask them if there ticklish, if they are, tickle them. Hint on that your ticklish too, chances are they'll tickle you as well. This is something my x-gf did to me on our first date, it amazed me. I tickled her and she grabbed my arms and went "No, no stop! you know what..." and just grabbed my arm and put it around her and went there! no more tickling! It sounds kind of strange but I've always thought it was kind of cool Just thought I'd throw that in there. 5. I joke around on msn sometimes about, I dunno, kissing and stuff. Like, I keep accusing him of using his school textbooks as surrogate girlfriends because he spends so much time with them, that sort of thing. He doesn't say anything to disabuse me of the idea - I think it's a nerdy type of flirting. Actually, I am TOTALLY inexperienced. Probably, so is he, although he's only shy when it comes to relationship-stuff. This is my personal opinion, but on a first date, dont give him a kiss. At the end, it might be nice to ask him if he had a good time, if he says yes, give him a kiss on the cheek or something like that. Then again, yall have known each other for a while so a kiss might turn out well. But I'm saying don't be making out in the movie theatre on yalls first date... trust me those rarely end well hahah.. Just try not to freak out, stay calm, smile, flirt some, try to be outgoing. And overall, just don't stress out and have a good time. Chances are, if you enjoy yourself and have a good time, so will he. I wish you the best of luck! ~Andrew