A few years ago, I became closer to a female friend that was going through a divorce. As she finalized the divorce, we began dating. I fell in love with her, but her feelings were not the same. I broke it off with her for obvious reasons. I was crushed for a few months, and began to get back out and dating.
I met someone that I started dating seriously a few months later. It was important for me to find out early if she had recently gone through hard times. I did not want to make the same mistake again. She was divorced, but had been divorced for 2 years. She also had a child. We dated, took trips, and by 6 months into the relationship, we got engaged, took a marriage prep course, and had almost all of our wedding tasks complete. All was perfect. We bought a house and moved in 3 months prior to our wedding date. All seemed to be going well until about a month before the wedding. She started getting overwhelmed how big the wedding was getting, and wanted to postpone it. I thought it was a phase for about a week, but she broke down crying and said she was not ready to walk down the isle.
We were living together, and she said she just wanted to push the date for a few months. She did not want to set a date, and it seemed the more we talked, or did not talk about it, the further a date was being pushed back or not set at all.
We started going downhill after that. I asked her to move out a few weeks later. Since she has been out of the house, we have talked and seen each other. Sometimes she seems like she is ready to come home, others she seems very distant.
She has been so hot and cold lately, that I don't know what to think. I still hear I love you, I want to marry you, and I want to have children with you but...
She says she needs time to figure out what she wants. The 2 things I do know are that her daughter loves me, and she loves me, but she's just not ready to walk down the isle.
I feel deep in my heart that this is the woman I was intended to spend the rest of my life with. Her friends say be patient and give her space. She lives down the street in an apartment in which she has a 6 month lease.
Part of me regrets asking her to move out. At this point, I do have the ring. For 11 months I was everything she wanted. Now she's confused which makes me confused even more. HELP