bebecole
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ehh ive been thru a simialar situation recently.. weve been together for 2 years and he just STOP calling.. you have done nothing wrong and stop getting down on your self.. this is a real painful thing to go thru but the first thing you need to do is execpt that shes not the same person.. you cant blame yourself for her lies... youve done all you can and you cannot change a person no matter how much you want too.. you need to do somethings to get your mind off of her.. maybe try going to a bookstore or sumthing and buy a book to help you cope. i know its extremely hard to just forget about someone you care so much about but honesly why do you want to be with someone who doesnt what to be with you?? there is definitly someone out their for you, you just havent found her yet. you deserve better than the lies.. good luck
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this happened the first time for me as well.. it took a few times, but dont give up! your not doing anything wrong. She needs to be relaxed, and she is probably tighting her muscles b/c she is scared.. maybe try using a type of lube, or even vasaline or something that always helps me.. once you get in be carful b/c shes gona be hurting! goodluck!
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she seems like a nice person.. she sees somthing good in you!, but probably only as a friendship.. you have to respect her current relationship also. who knos you and her can become good friends!! i would continue to talk to her but keep it at a certain level b/c she does have a b/f.
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you need to have confindence in yourself, is the key. i use to have the same problem talkin to guys.. just talk about anything, seriously!! i guess it all depends on the female too find out what there into like music, movies, or even ask about their job! or tell them about your day if sumthing funny happened to you.. ehh thats all i can think of now.. if i come up with anything else ill let you know. but all you have to do is be yourself and have confindence and the girls will start coming to you!
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yeh im in the middle of a really depressing time with my b/f.. weve been together for over 2yrs and hes in the military, an its putting alot of stress on our relationship.. && its on the outs. ive been trying to eat but my stomach is just rejecting the food and its coming bak up.. ehh sounds gross i kno
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ive been depressed lately and im not sure if that effects your eating habbits.. i havent been hungry at all, and when i do eat something i cant seem to keep it down.. ive never had a problem with food until recently. im usually a healthy eater.. but everything has been making me sick i dont seem to have a appitite.. what are some healthy food i could i eat that wouldnt upset my stomach??
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yeh thats true. i would acually think he would do somthing with a female then pursue some type of relationship with someone else. i think his problem is that he is scared of having a relationship with anyone. hes never had a real relationship besides me for the main reason he doesnt want to get hurt.. if that was the case i would want it to be known, instead of him not returning my calls. their has to be sumthing else going on that hes not mentioning.
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i defenitly wouldnt bleach the hair on your legs.. that wud be scary.. if ur legs are that hairy your should just use a trimmer and cut the hair so you still have some and not look girly. and i would just use a razor and shaving cream on your area, you should be fine
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thanks everyone.. it helps alot when some of you had personal experiences in the military as well.. alot of the girls that i know that have husbans in the military experienced infidelity..jchan im gona take your advice and not say anything and try and move on.. i honestly think trying to talk to him about it will make it harder for me.. i dont want to consume my mind with this. its a upseting situation to be in, but i really do know that im strong enough to get through it.. but its just extremly disappointing, knowing that he wanted to marry me and spend forever with me.. and those feelings disapeared praticially over night.. thanks again for all the advice.
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thanks everyone for the advice.. readyornot thanks to and u are right people in the military change.. he denies it.. but its the truth.. also alot of my friends say leave him and he will realize what he has lost.. i would just love to know why he lost intrest and stop phoning me.. i really cant think of a legit reason, besides he talking to someone else but i dont really thats the reason... ive never done anything to hurt him and ive been their for him since day 1 when he left.. a few days before he told me he wanted a break he told me he was glad that i was in his life and that i was their for him... i think it wud be best for me to move on but i dont know how to tell him.. when ever we talk he turn things around and he plays "the blame game" and thinks everything is my fault.. he acually conveinces himself that he hasnt done anything wrong.. thats why it is so diffcult for me to talk to him..
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thanks.. i do love him but i love myself more. and its not fair to me to wait for someone who doesnt want me.. i do want to move on, but its hard for me to move on when i dont know his real feelings. his actions are hot and cold.. one minute he wants me to come to visit him and he says that he misses me.. and the other minute hes shady and wont answer my calls. realisitically i need to move on and i want too.. but its hard to let go knowing that he still might have feelings for me.. but i dont want to wait around to see if he changes...
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i think you should do it!! as long as you go to a safe clean place you shouldnt have any problems.. ive had mine pierced for a few years now and i havent had any problems with it.. as long as your keep up with it and clean it everyday it should be fine.. also you have to remember the belly jewlery you buy has to be legit. too.. instead of buying a cheap silver belly ring, its worth it to get a gold one b/c it wont get infected.. my friend bought cheap body jewerly and got a infection from. so as long as u do all the right things you should be fine.. it shouldnt matter what other people think or how old you are. if you like it then you shud get it!!!
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thankss. the only problem is that i have tried to talk to him about it and he said that we would talk when we would see each other again.. and i saw him last weekend and he didnt mention anything.. i told him over instant messenger that i didnt want to get my hopes up on anything in the future and i asked about the future if were gona be together.. he bassically tries to change the topic simply because he doesnt want to talk about it.. he response to my question when i asked him about the future was "i cant promise anything" i dont want to feel like im waiting for sumthing thats not going to be their.. ofcouse i still love him.. and i want some closure if he doesnt want a relationship.. But i cant even get a staight answer out of him.. its like he just doesnt care enough to call to even see how i am.. i know that the military is stressfull but hes not deployed hes on base and he works a regular day and goes bak to his apartment and hangs out.. so have appoached him about this before in the past, he never wanted to talk about it so i gave him his space for a while.. hes been "igorning" my calls for the past week since i left him a message about how we need to talk about stuff.. the last time we talked we got into a little argument and he hasnt called me since.. i dont know if i should continue to call or just ignore him and wait for him to come to me.. what do u think>???
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im Very new to this forum and i read over some of everyone advice and i figured sumone can help me out.. is anyone or has anyone been in a military LDR?? if you have or even if you havent maybe you can give me some advice.. we've been together for a little over 2yrs.. we were together 6months before he left to start a career in the military.. so most of our relationship has been long distance.. everything was fine until about 5 months ago.. when he approached me about a "break." it was very unexpected and i wasnted expecting it.. before that he was deployed for 6months and our only source of communcation was emial. the reason he claimed the break was for because our relationship was getting stressful because of his duty to the military(understandable) then he proceeds to say that i have a lack communication skills and i dont talk to him enough about our relationship & ect.. which is hard enough because of deployments and we have little time to talk.. i told him id try hard and i did.. it comes down to the last 5months where hes just loosing intrest.. we have small talk on aim.. and thats about it.. he calls only a few times a month barely when i know that hes not even busy.. he claims that he falls asleep early but thats not the case b/c my friend has called him to say hello and he answers, but not when i call.. im not sure if i should approach him about his lost of interst.. or if i should just break it off with him.. im worried if their is someone else.. even if their was i dont think he would tell me anyway... i want to say somthing but i dont want to nag or sound jealous. any ideaS???
