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Does size really matter? Really does it? Ive heard all sorts of things... Im 16 in a serious relationship and just curious...

phone calls are helping me a lot...

Im 16.... Can't really get jobs where I am...

What do I do about the long phone call to friends and my ex? I constantly need to talk to her or my supportive friends, one of them is overseas at the moment and I frequently call him to ask for advice. Im scared of the phone bill coming and my dad just told me off about it saying he doesnt have the money for this and hes getting to the point where he'll cut me off completely from the telephone. Neither my ex or my best friend has access to the internet or email etc other than a phone and i am just constantly calling although im trying to cut down. What do I do? Im scared of upsetting my dad but the phone calls are helping me a lot...

This has been completely summarised to few sentences I could write a whole page... I try to talk to my dad but he just doesnt seem to help, I am currently having problems with my ex working on getting her back. My dad doesnt seem to understand my deep love for my ex. He gives me advice about it but it just doesnt seem to help, I think he tries to be understanding but he just doesnt get it. I try to tell him the whole story " I love her etc" but I feel like I cant because he just makes me feel worse about how my relationship with her has affected me and him (I have been sad lately) and I have been making long phone calls to friends for support. Which has led to my father complaining about phone bills and he doesnt understand why I have to make such long phone calls. I try to make him understand but I just can't tell him the whole truth about why im sad and whats happening with my ex because I guess im scared about what he will say I know already that he dislikes my ex because she has affected me emotionally and he thinks that our relationship b4 was unhealthy (well we were quite intense). Also I wish I could make him understand, I know he tries to help but he just seems to make me feel worse about my relationship with my ex (which I think we might be getting back together soon). I dont know what to do... I respect my dad and I just wish I could make him understand... Anything would be helpful

Its all about trust, he cant trust you to go to an opera with another guy, and you arent together anyways so you have the freedom of doing what you want right? He should understand this. But are you trustworthy? He also seems jealous because you went with a guy that shows that he has something for you, still wants you. You want to make him miss you? Try no contact (NC), if he really does like you he'll start to call you, right now he thinks that hes still got you so he has all the power. By this I mean stop calling him, texting him etc wait for him to come to you. You dont know what you've got until its gone, right now you arent gone cause you are still calling him etc. And you say you dont know what you want right? Well tell your ex that you want some space, hang out with this new guy and see how you feel from then on. Good luck

Ok well im 16, I would usually call after going out with a girl to say how fun it was etc or a day later. Possibly in your case, maybe you just have to be patient or maybe they are waiting for you to call. Or they might be shy, maybe they are just warming up to you. When I dated I always found it hard to call the girl because I would get tongue tied and scared I might run out of things to say... Im quite inexperienced its just my 2 cents. Good luck

I see... I agree with you but I just want to know how to play it out, Ive poured my heart out to her already now im just waiting I guess. Im waiting for her to call or text, we just talked on msn and we were getting along and having a good conversation with lots of laughing but is this the way to go? How should I be acting with her now that Im waiting for her to be ready or not..?

What do I do in the meantime? Im dying to call her....

Because I want her back and she knows it, but if she truly really wants me she'll work for it right?

"I take it that when you are treating her like a princess she will treat you like a prince?" Yes... But I want her to work for me back if she wants me.

My ex says that she misses me and that she wants to be 100% sure when she decides that she will get back with me. I have told her what to expect if she got back with me eg. treat her like a princess, she also knows how I feel about her which is madly in love with her. I called her up the other day and I said to her that I only want her to call me if she desperately needs it or if she really misses me. I told her that this was just to help her get to that 100% and this will help her realise whether she truly wants to be with me. So basically NC unless she really needs to talk to me. In other words I want her to miss me so much that shes running to me. Any other suggestions or anything to add? Am I doing the right thing?

My ex is probably going to get back with me... but she made out with a guy and I cant seem to get over it, she said she missed me after she kissed him but how do I get it out of my head I feel cheated sort of...

thanks for that, many good reasons why to back off thanks. What you are talking about is exactly what im going through shortstop.... right now she is texting me a little bit asking what im up to and I just reply nothing or when she asks how I am I just reply with im excellent. I just hope this works out in the end although I have to expect the worst as well And about the flirting... why flirt with other people? whats the point if you have a gf/bf to flirt with rather than doing it with other people.

No i wasnt mean, i was there for her... I didnt call her names either, I borke up with her in the past because I was confused and my feelings changed, she did things that made me jealous like flirt with other guys... But i have realised now that I have always loved her

Im 16 and my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We had lasted 1 year and 3 months, over that period of time we had been madly in love and nothing could separate us until I started to get mixed emotions about her and I broke up with her 2 or 3 times but we got back together and I love her to death. She recently broke up with me, reasons were that I wasn't treating her right I always went off my friends and this has been a reality check for me I never realised that I was doing this until she broke up with me and told me. They say you don't know what you've got until you've lost them... And I just lost the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have been crying lots and I'm extremely upset, I have been to see the school counseller as well as many friend for advice. I have been told to stay away from her, this will help me prepare to get over her and move on as well as make her realise her true feelings if she does really have any for me. Over the past 2 weeks I have been to see her non stop but I realise now that it was wrong. How can she miss me if Im always around her? Now im just trying to hang out with friends as much as possible and trying to move on. But I just found out that she has been seeing this other guy I confronted her about it and she was honest and told me she was interested in him. I cant help but feel so down, Im thinking that maybe if shes with him she'll realise her feelings for me but then maybe not. We have so many good times together her and I loved each other to death... Girls never forget anything good in thier life right? I told her I would do anything to get her back. I recently asked her a bunch of questions which was stupid... And here is what she told me.. - She doesnt miss me (well I was always talking to her since the breakup) trying to back off now... - The only thing she misses is haning out with her best friend cause we used to spend all our time together - She has a thing for this other guy - She still loves me She also wanted to be study buddies since exams are soon, but I disagree because I think if I was I would turn out to be more of a friend... I just want to know what to do to both make me get over her as well as make her miss me if she does still have feelings for me. We have really good history together I dont regret being with her. I know she is still attracted to me sexually, she said she missed kissing me. I cant stop thinking about her and whether she has kissed this other guy or not, our school holidays have just started (supposed to be revision time for exams) and I wont see her at school or at all for a while. I am also wondering what to do if she does call me or text me asking me to hang out. I would go to her... but people have told me not to, in order for her to help her miss me if she still has feelings. Also I was told to act like I didnt care much when she talks to me, to make her panic. I dont know whether her feelings with come back for me or whether she'll miss me, I am just pretending the relationship is over and I have to move on following advice other people have given me to make her realise what shes lost if she still cares. I still love her to death and miss her dearly... Anything to add? To help?