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Okay. Then, why are you asking us? If this is what you want to do, do it. See if he's okay with it.

Are you addicted to toxic relationships? Healthy people don't actively seek arguments with their loved ones. And you can't punish anyone. He's not a kid at school and you don't have fun with people's feelings. Either you get along, or you don't. Either you're serious about this, or you aren't. Make up your mind.

Save yourself more drama& disrespect and break up with him. A true man who loves you would understand that you aren't in the mood. He would've found a middle ground; putting you in the mood, rubbing your back, telling you nice words... But instead he acted like a jerk in a p*rn movie. It actually reads like he only goes to see you too sleep with you. Sure, he's nice and everything, but men know what to do and say so that they sleep with women. I'd suggest you reconsider and end this relationship. You don't need that in your life. You need a kind respectful and loving man who owns up to his actions. He isn't one.

Yup. Yup. Do not tell him what you found. He will lie and tell you how much is loves you (while wishing he's sleeping with other women!!). Break up over text. Do not answer his calls or guilt trips. You deserve better. So listen to your strong woman voice and kick this sick man to the curb.

You have a point DF. I forgot the man is much older. That is a red flag by itself. That aside, I still don't know if there's a side to pick from. The friend doesn't need to be that upset. Yes, he tried to undress her at the party and it tells you something about his sh*tty morale. That's up to OP to accept in him or not. But, why would the friend be upset? If she was being protective, okay. Doesn't seem like it though.

Yeah. The mom is toxic and your gf hasn't worked on this or healed yet. She's in this toxic dynamic, and until she gets the therapy and treatments she needs, it shall remain as so. So you let go. You're not her therapist. You can't be. This is who she is now, and you've come to know it because her mom is here. It's a blessing in disguise. You live and you learn.

Keep your drinking under control to not fall in such situation again. There's no point in arguing about this as both of you have different versions of the story.

Exactly. I don't understand why the friend is upset. Sure, he's not the friend's cup of tea, but it doesn't really matter. OP enjoy this. You can be honest with your friend and stand behind what you do. She might or might not leave you, but that's on her. As Lambert says, be yourself.

Then dont hook up on the first date and give your bum to stranger just because he asked. If you expect emotions you wont get it from ONS Tinder dates. They work to get one thing, and there is usually no emotions involved there. Tagging to repeat the above. I completely agree. A serious man looking to date would not suggest sex on the first date +while tipsy + anal.. with a stranger. And, I do think he might be cold in general in sex and that might not be for you. I know for me, I need a very affectionate man who is also talks dirty when doing it. But, sometimes you can't tell. Anyways, I'm sorry it went like this. But, you'll have better sex and a better date. It's a learning journey.

What? That doesn't even make sense. A thief is a thief. What does the apartment complex has to do with this? Try another police station or call the police and see what they advise over the phone. DO NOT go too where the thiefs might be located. You have no idea who you'd be dealing with. Just buy new items, a camera, and always lock your van.

What's the rumour? Mind your own business and don't care about what they say.

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@smackie9 inviting an ex is one thing, and lying about your relationship status to please her is a complete different thing.

What?! And you find this acceptable? What man does that? Woman, you need to realize that he's not that into you and he does not respect you. Imagine if you're married... Nah, she's not my wife. She just takes care of my baby! Ha... Ha. ha.

@smackie9 what?! No. I disagree. Who does that? There are better ways to convince someone to come to a party.

He said he's single and you just accept that?!? Woman, it's not just the ex the problem here. She's the tip of the iceberg. HE DOESN'T VALUE YOU. Pick up what's left of your dignity and leave. He's not worthy of you. You deserve a man who has healthy boundaries with people, who's honest and proud about being with you. Who respects you! Who is over his ex. So go get that, cause this one is NOT the one.

Blocking is very easy. So, it's time to cease full contact and close that chapter in your life. Take care of you and seek healthier people.

Well, is he still reaching out? That should be your answer. Also, how long did you last in your last relationship?

@Seraphim I disagree. Times have changed. She shouldn't have to teach him to control his anger, handle money, find a job, or be respectful to HER. OP please rethink this relationship. Otherwise, I recommend HE comes up with a solution so that you can live happily together.

Okay. So you're teaching him how to be a man? Lady, date someone who is already a man. You're not his mother and NO, it is not acceptable to "accept" or let it pass that he calls you idiot. What will you also let him get away with calling you next time?

So he's passive aggressively complaining about the situation, playing the victim, but won't offer a solution for you guys to be happy together. What does that tell you about the "man" he is?

What! How dare he?! How can you accept this? His disrespect to you is unacceptable. It's not just towards your mom.

@Heid when you said you were over him making these comments, did you break up with him or have you just been silent since then?

@smackie9 Correct. He isn't comfortable. I think OP broke up with him.

Okay. Then I fully agree with Smackie. He must be resentful of living like this. Can't you rent an apartment for you guys? A one bedroom? Living with in-laws would also make me cranky and want to run away every time I see them. And, it's okay if he doesn't get asking with her. He doesn't have to. You're the women he's with. Are there other concerns in the relationship? Or* is this a deal breaker for you? If it is, then don't feel guilty.