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I get the idea my girlfriend becomes distant after we had sex. I'm a little worried about it and have now seen it a couple of times. Get a bad vibe from her. Doubt that I'm doing anything wrong. She seems to be really enjoying it and having orgasms - also becomes extremely wet. Just wondering why she becomes distant after sex. Can't think it's normal.

I have probably not cried in 10 years. I swear. Even with the worst of breakups I have not shed a tear. Hell, now I think there is something wrong with me.. In the past I was wishing I could cry tho, cuz I think it would be an outlet for stuff...

I didn't cheat on her when I was with the other girl. It was when we were separated. (During the 6 months we were apart). Yes, I feel I was a bit hasty in my decission to end things so soon. I still feel this way and now its really bugging me on if I did the right thing. Leaving some one you love is a hectic thing.

I recently broke it off with my now ex girlfriend. We've been together for about 2 years. (On and off a couple of times). After a year we took a break for about 6 months. After that I started seeing her again and we started talking on what went wrong. My main thing was that I felt that she wasn't that into me because we have never had sex during the first year and we would almost never even get to second base. (I told her that when I broke up with her) I would do my best for her but it felt like I was getting rejected because she would avoid anything that might lead to sex. For that reason I decided that it's over at that time. I can't do without sex in a long term relationship. I knew she had a couple of previous lovers and in her past she had been swinging. (but according to her she has changed for the better) We had this talk about 4 months ago and she pleaded with me that she wanted me back and that sex won't be an issue. At the time I was seeing some one else where sex was no issue but I left the other woman for this one as this one I felt that I really loved and could see us building a future together. So we patched things up and sex was fequent but I think I now understand why she didn't want to have sex with me because it was not good at all. She made no effort on her part when having sex. She made no sound - nothing to indicate in what I'm doing is right, etc.. I did all the initiating - never once has she. At the time I was thinking that I can live with this because I loved this woman and as long as we had sex it would be fine and that we could work at it. Suddenly sex stopped for one month and after that I just decided that this won't work. If I marry her and we never have sex then we will probably get devorced and if there is kids it could be ugly. I broke up with her. A week later I got soft, phoned her and asked her to take me back as I thought we could work things out. She didn't want to get back together and I left it there. That was about 3 weeks ago. (The only thing I said when I broke up with her is that this won't work and that we don't fit together - I didn't even want to get into the sex thing because she would probably talk about it with her friends which are friends of mine and I would probably feel bad or guilty about it when I saw them in future) Now as I look back I miss her very much and feel terrible at loosing her. But with these circumstances I don't think we have a chance. I'm still questioning myself on if I did the right thing. Would this be a valid reason to break up with some one or not be with them? I know she was devistated about the breakup and that it shook her world but her idea of a serious relationship to me is not quite the way I see it. Maybe I'm just a total fool.

I'm in the same kind of situation with my girlfriend. She's also emotionally abusive. When it comes to sex which is a rare occurrance then she lies there like a sack of potatos. I do everything. When we are finished it's as if she made a huge sacrifice in giving me sex. I cannot understand why this is so, and it really hurts me inside. I'm totally frustrated and the last thing I'm going to do is beg for sex. So I will be dumping her again. Once more. I have broken up with her about the same thing before and she begged me to take her back. Stupid me took her back and now it's going to take me a couple of months more to feel normal again. You are very young and your life lies ahead of you. Get rid of him and make a new beginning. Don't look back.

My girlfriend is totally driving me up a wall. So much so that I think she's crazy. She can't seem to stop critizing me and anything or everything I do she has something negative to say about. Lately I'm walking on eggs when I'm around her. This is driving me crazy and then she wonders why I get very distant and and try to avoid her because I just need a break from all her crap. This situation is terrible because I have feelings for her. I don't know what I must do. I just know that it is getting worse. Anybody have any advice on such a situation. Any more of this and I think it's going to be messing me up badly. This is an ex that I have dumped before, mainly due to the same reasons. The breakup was 5 months and after that she contacted me and begged me to take her back. Dum me gave in. If I dump her again then it's going to take me another 5 months to feel normal again and I dread doing this. Staying = pain / dumping = pain ...

I think this might be a really interesting questions. How do you go about initiating sex? Do you just simply ask, or do you do things?

What do you do when your girlfriend tells you that if you do this or that, that if it happens you will have no sex for a week. Toying with something like that is serious issue, or is it? I laughed it off but didn't know how to respond. Kind of freaks me out.. should it?

Thing is, she is basically chasing me. Very needy/clinghy.

I recently met a 21 year old. I'm 30. I know her brother and he is sort of a friend of mine and in my group of friends. After a while I started talking to his sister (the 21 year old) and after that we started seeing each other. She has everything I'm looking for in some one but for me there is no chemistry. (I truly wish there was) I know she is going totally nuts for me but I on the other hand are still trying to figure out if it's going to work out. (Maybe it's the age gap) I've been seeing her now for 2 weeks and we almost had sex but I'm glad nothing happened. Should I continue to see if things work out or should I rather move on as she will probably be more hurt if we continue. Thanks

She says she does not like it. At first I thought she was probably trying to avoid me thinking she's easy or avoiding a situation where it might happen to soon. But later on I realized that she really has issues with it after talking to her about it.

I wish it had something to do with religion but it is not so. She has a mental thing about it. I would truly marry her but I won't take the risk if this issue is not resolved before marriage. Very difficult issue because I won't beg or pressure for it. I'm also not the one to solve this issue for her. I can also only take so much rejection as was previously the case.

I wish it had something to do with religion but it is not so. She has a mental thing about it. I would truly marry her but I won't take the risk if this issue is not resolved before marriage. Very difficult issue because I won't beg or pressure for it.

It was my birthday recently and the ex text me to say happy birthday. A couple of texts back and forth and I phoned her and asked her out to lunch. Shortly after we broke up I asked her out to dinner as friends but I never got back to her about it, thinking it would not be a good thing because I dumped her and it would probably be better for her and me not to see each other. This got in the phone conversation and I asked her out to lunch as I felt bad that I did not live up to my end not going to dinner with her when I asked her a couple of months back. Seeing her was really fun. I wish I could have the day all over again just to see her again. We did not talk about us or anything from our previous relationship. I wish I could ask her to take me back but I know things will probably just end up the same way they did last time. (5 months ago) I still love her and in the past months probably thought about her every day. I can't seem to move on. Still hurting some times. I dumped her because we were together for 1 year without any sex. She had issues in that department which I could not deal with. I need the physical part as well if I'm going to be with some one, especially long term. She invited me to hang out with her tomorrow. I get the idea that she would like to get back together and I want to as well but I think it's not going to work and we will end up the same way we did last time. I have no idea what to do. Anybody have any advice?

To be honest if I would put myself in his shoes then it would mess me up pretty bad if I loved the woman that I was with. If you ask any man if he would like to have an escort as a girlfriend you will most likely get a resounding 'NO' with the majority of men out there. It's a major issue especially when it comes to trust. The general social norm is that sex workers are bad people that should be avoided at any cost. It's practically condemned by socieaty. It sounds as if your ex can't make up his mind. (His confused) He is most likely in love with you and at the other end he dreads sharing you with some one else and his trust/faith in you has been broken. To him it might feel like he is or has been betrayed. On the other hand he might still be fighting the withdrawals from the love drug he got from you. The best advice I can probably give you is to pick yourself up. Take all your courage, be strong and take the bull by the horns. Get out of the escort business, and if you find love again don't tell your man about the past as it will add baggage to the relatioship. Put it behind you and let sleeping dogs sleep away. Never look back. From a man's point of view I would rather not my wife one day tell me that she was an escort. It would be to much to bear.