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Thats all well in good, but I don't have a car or anything like that. The reason I have this job is to buy a car. I also don't have a drivers license because my dad and me can't afford the insurance. So with that in mind, any more suggestions?

Its long, you've been warned. Well heres the story. I work at a pizza place. I cook wings and have a great time at work. When I first started to work at this pizza place, I saw a girl who worked there who I was very attracted to. Well the first month I never said a thing to her. I am a deathly shy guy, who couldn't speak to a girl normally if my life depended on it. Well basically one day, I was having a really bad day, like always, and was basically set in a self-loathing state-of-mind. I was just getting off work when this girl that I liked, we will call her *Jill*, confronted me in the back prep area. She asked me why I was so mad and depressed. She said I had nothing to be mad or depressed about because I had a job and friends. For one thing, it made me kinda mad that she would just guess that I had nothing to be mad about and depressed about. I really wanted to tell her all the stuff that was on my mind, and what I was thinking about, but I decide to just leave because I was very irratable and I knew that would be a bad idea. As I walked away she started to laugh. I turned around to see what and why she was laughing. Well I had left the size sticker that runs down your leg on every new pair of jeans on these pants. I forgot to remove it. All I know is that by this point I was beyond happy and just left and blew her off. From then on every time I saw her, she would call me smiley and always tell me to smile. Well after that I thought I would never have a chance with her. Well fast forward to now. That was February-April. I just got back from a long month and a half vacation. Well she began to get more flirtly, I guess. I'm not quite sure. But basically she would throw flour on me and dough balls. She would also always tell me to SMILE! Just today I couldn't believe how much this girl almost seemed interested. Well today her Boyfriend (that I had no clue about) comes in and haves lunch. WTF! Does this chick like me? Or am I practice for her flirting? I'm just confused. I thought she was kinda interested in me, but I guess not. My dad suggested that she might not like her boyfriend anymore. Is this a possibility? And if so, how do I find out? I really want to get to now this girl. All I know is her name and where she works (duh with me). I have never had a real conversation with her. I don't even know how old she is. But I like her so much. Suggestions? Remember, I am as shy as they come, so suggestions for that type of guy are much needed. Thanks for reading this.

Personally, I tend to like older girls. They seem to be more mature then younger girls. (No offense to anyone) Now this isn't always true. Its also just pure luck that every girl that I begin to like, just so happens to be older than me.

Movieguy, I feel EXACTLY the same way as you. I am a little younger, 17, but mentally I consider myself an adult and understand these feelings. I am stuck in the same situation, never been kissed, never had a GF, and with no hope in sight. I hope you find the right girl to complete you. Well in my situation, my life is complete, but its missing that key ingredient. A girl. So the way I see it, the girl will complete me. I just have to find her out there. Thats the hardest part.

Exactly what she said, its your body, not his. How old is he anyways? Just tell him no. If he gets mad, then he obviously doesn't respect your feelings.

WTF? Did you just answer your own question?

Hey man I've got some advice. Get out of there. As fast as you can. If she is being that abusive then leave. It always turns out bad. Trust me. My dad has been through 2 abusive relationships. In one she beat the crap out of my dad so much that my dad nearly lost it and beat her (luckily he didn't) and she took him to court for false accusations on it. We got out of there luckily but only after being left bankrupt and no house to go to. (The courts always believe the woman in abuse cases for some reason.) The seconed one my dad got beat up again and left. He had learned his lesson. All I say is leave and don't lay a finger on her. If you hit her once it could ruin everything. Some women seem like the perfect woman for you but don't think that they won't turn ruthless and screw you over. Just run mate.

I know what your saying orange, but I want something relationship wise. I am the guy who wants to find the perfect girl (then dont we all). But I figure to find the perfect girl, I need to maybe get some expierence under my belt with dating and the like. I have never been on a date or even kissed a girl yet so those are my main reasons. I need expirence. And to maybe bring me outta my terrible mood that I've been in for the last 3 or 4 years of my life.

At the rate Im going man I wont have any problems with waiting till I get out of high school.

From my past expirences, I am always very outgoing on the internet and forums and all that. So people are easier to talk to. Also its because no one can see me and judge me by how I look. Its all personality. I like that you would be my friend, but its not the same. Its not in person. Don't get me wrong I am greatful and wouldn't mind to talk.

Sure there is things I am interested in. I really like computers and ice hockey. And youll tell me to go find people who have the same intrests as me. But I already have. Those are the 2 or 3 people I already hang out with. And the reason I want a girlfriend is so I can have a person who I can talk to and share all of my feelings with. Doing that with the limited friends I have is not the same. Its just not. Thanks again for your advice.

Well unlike you kskm, I don't have any activities that are taking up my time. And that chick is gone. I met her when I lived in Idaho. Also nobody is controlling my emotions. I am controlling my emotions. And thats the problem. I basically hate myself. But thank you for your help.

Yeah I'm the guy with his hands in his pockets looking at the ground walking to class. I don't ever smile. Mainly because I have a bad smile. They are perfect and straight but have a slight yellow tint. I am always a gentlemen. I don't know what else to be. I always lend help to people when they need it. I just can't stand it when people look at me. I know it sounds dumb but I am insanely self-conscious. I hate the feeling of being judged by my looks. I have acne and glasses. I got contacts though. They help my self-confidence a little but its back down to nothing again. I just want to have a good life and be happy, but without basic comunnication, Its eating me alive. Thanks for the help though. Any more advice now would help greatly.

I was just wondering, Is it normal to never have a girlfriend? I'm a Junior in High School and I haven't had one yet. I know that if my attitude and feelings toward myself don't change, then I'm never going to meet anyone or be happy. How do I change that? And is it ok not to have had one? I feel like a complete loser at school. One girl started to ask me a series of questions. She first asked me if I ever had a GF. No. Then she asked me if I knew any girls as friends. No. Then she asked me if I liked to kiss. I'm pretty sure I would, but I've never done it. Then she asked me if I was gay and she started to laugh. I felt so trampled on. I wanted to crawl away and die. I wish I could confront her now and tell her how bad she made me feel. It hurt and still does.

Thats who my 2 or 3 friends are. They introduced me into ice hockey. I got a job so I could start playing. But it costs like $600 dollars for one season. No joke. And yeah Ill be 17 April 25th.