Queen_Midas

Hey!! Ask her out! She sounds like me when I'm with the guy I like. Just ask her out, don;'t leave her waiting too long!! Good luck! QM

Argh i am so sick of this guy.. He NEVER replied, not even an email, how hard it that? I have totally exhausted all explanation, so thats it..nothing can work out between us if he can be sooo insensitive. ' ' Thanks for all the advice peeps but from now on IF I EVER see him again he's gonna get the mean QM who only comes out VERY rarely..the ICE QUEEn by choicde, not by shyness! Loser@!! QM

Ok I expect the guy to at least reply PROMPTLY to all her messages (something really important now cos the current crush has done just the opposite and it hurts like mad!).. I also expect the person to be interested in what I have to say, to ask my questions and finally just to ask me out.. I don't like having to do the asking out.. I don't ask much?! QM.

It really sounds to me like she's holding back because she has to, not because she wants to..She likes you, but she knows she can't act on that.. I don't know if that's gonna make u feel any better though.. QM.

It really depends on the girl..I dagree and disagree with SO4..it can mean either, but talking as a VERY shy girl, I look away because I'm uncomfortable.. because I am shy around people who i don't know (even if I don't like them in that way) but I look away even more so when I like someone. Hope that helps, QM.

Oh my gosh! We;re going through the same thing. To cut my long story short, i fell for a guy who is VERY good looking, he has failed to respond when I asked him out for a drink on friday and I really wanna get him back cos I reckon he is probably arrogant and thinks he's too good for me.. so when I see him I am gonna be ICEQUEEN of the century.. everyone says this is the best way to act! Be suerficially polite but not friendly..cos you don't wanrt him to know he;'s hurt you..but be mean enough for him to know ur annoyed.. and yes if he cares he will come crawling back and at least ask u what's up..if he doesn't do anything, then u know he's not worth it! Let him grovel..cos he's gonna have to do something VERY special to now get ur attention again, yeajh? QM. Ps. let me know how it goes!!

Get to know her better and you'll know if she likes you.. remember shy girs havea different way of showinf it though! Good luck, QM.

if she's shy and makes an effort to talk to you, it's a good indication that she might like you! QM

I have been mistken for a snob, and an ice queen many times.. I work a lot with older ladies and they interpret it as sweetness and they love my shyness, but younger people, particularly guys, interpret it as me being a snobby ice-queen..which maybe I am! lol! QM.

Hey there, I am an UK born (north) indian girl..and although i don't have a particularly strict family I do know what it can be like in the indian community..there is the expectation to marry someone of the same race as you, sometimes even the same religion and caste.. so she probably is struggling with that. If she were to go out with you, she'd have to suffer the talk, the stigma, shame on her family etc.. So it sounds to me like she's struggling with that, she likes you, but she doesn't want to do that to herself or her family. It's a terrible shame..I'm lucky, my parents don't expect that of me..but it can still affect people greatly! QM.

Sounds like she likes you, any other clues? QM

Hiya, It can mean a few things..all depend on the girl and the situation.. 1) It could mean the girl is shy, it's often hard to maintain eye contact when ur shy and also when u first meet someone. She could be shy cos that's her general disposition, or because she likes you? 2) It's a sign of flirting, to look and then look away. It probably meands she likes you..but it could mean she's shy..or she's both shy and likes you, depends on the girl?!

Hi guys, Yeah I am going over and over this..but I feel like directly approaching him again now would seem desperate.. I know he did get the message and if he didn't get tjhe 2nd message then it was still up to him to reply, because he had already gotten the first message where I asked him out. I wanna know one way or another, but i wanna maintain my pride in case he desn't like me and is being an arrogant loser by not replying.. Also my friend saw him on sat nite, he didn't even enquire about me, nothing, acted like nothing ever happened. QM.

Ok, if this guy really liked me is there any plausible explanation as to why he would not respond to my text message asking him out for drinks? All shy guys out there pls gimme advice on what that means? Should I just get over him now? Thanks, qm.

hi everyone.. me again! Ok so I did it, I sent him a text..let me give u a summary of our text conversation: Hey (insert guys name), are you going to volunteer this fri nite? He replied: Probably not. It's been a crazy week at work, I will probably just go home and crash (or something to that effect) So I replied: Oh ok, well I won't go either then. Then the thought entered my mind that I should just ask him for a drink.. So the next day: (froiday) I texted him: Hey (guy), too tired for a quick drink after work? He repled (some hours later): Were you going to go to the volunteer thing. I repled: I'm going to be in the city, just thought you might want to meet for a drink, but it doesn't matter if you're too tired To which I got not reply.. I put myself out on the line for this guy, I ASKED HIM OUT! and he didn't even bother to reply: Feedback anyone? What is he thinking? What did I do wrong? Thanks, QM.

Hi guys! Ok so I've had a crush on this guy for weeks..we see each other when we volunteer on fri nites and this fri i was all geared up to casually ask him to go for some food after we volunteer.. we're both really shy and I'm not 100% sure he likes me.. but now he says he's not going, he's too tired and will probably just go home and crash.. So I am fed up of waiting and not knowing, should I just message hima nd ask him if he wants to meet for a drink? Bear in mind we don't know each other that well, we have volunteered together for about 2-3 months but we're both too shy to talk a lot.. Thanks for ythe advice!!

Well there are 2 types of shy guys in my experience, the shy guy who is shy with everyone and the shy guy who is only shy with girls (particularly girls he likes).. Shy guy 1 : will probably not talk to you much, not look at you when you're looking at him but will probbaly look at you when ur not looking..maybe try the famous wristwatch thing..look at ur watch but look up quickly, is he looking? Shy guy 2: His attitude will change when he's with you, he's probably chatty with other people but when he's with you he's quieter. It's so hard determining if a shy guy likes you!! It's also hard to determine if a guy is really shy unless you really know him well or someone tells you he is. QM.

Hey! I can also relate and fallen and I have talked about this before in a previous post.. I thought I'd gotten over my crush but then started talking to my friend about him, saw him again and it's on again...except not as high an intensity as before.. So I guess I can't really tell you, I think it takes quite some time to fully get over it! Also depends on just how big a crush it is and how much you've invested in it! My previous crushes havem't caused me suchg grief! QM.

Hey Jimbo, Thanks for your input well the guy I like talks to me, he walks me to the station at night and he tends to turn up at the volunteer place whenever I say i will too.. But on the other hand he replies to my emails impersonally and we never get further than having a polite, casual conversation and he never really looks at me.. The King of Mixed signals?? But I should add that I am terroibly shy and although I frequentluy email him and say nice things and tend to turn up when I know he's gonna be there..I never look him in the eye and I don't generally talk to him much.. So I think I'm giving mixed signals as well! The rate we're going now nothing will ever happen between us! QM.

Hey guys, I read in another post that guys will not generally give mixed signals? Is this true? If you don't like a girl and you suspect she might like you, how do you react? Would you avoid her? Thanks, QM.

Hi! Veryshyguy, I am also a bit like you and i hope that the guy i like is also a bit like you.. there are small signs he might be interested in me, but then i he just does nothing..so i'm wondering ewhether he is just a shy guy and is scared of showing his feelings. Can i ask you though, would u tell this girl that you like your feelings if she sent u nice, friendly emails regularly? that's what i do, and i just get a cordial, polite response, nothing personal.. My advice is to ask her for a coffee after study session etc.. cos that's just a sign of friendliness, not of attraction an then u can get to know each other better! QM

As an intelligent girl I'm glad that most guys agree that it's important but.. isn't it also the case that sometimes guys are intimidated by really smart girls?

Hey again! I can totally relate to your story.. I too was (and am still kinda) infatuated with my crush, thought about him all the time etc.. I don't think you should totally avoid the fact that you like her, i think she needs to know to some extent that you're interested..but it iss adifficult situation her being one of ur bosses..but if you're really wanting something to happen i think you do need to let her know how u feel..even if it is subtly! QM.

Hey! I would say that she likes you..cos what she's doing is very similar to what i do when I'm with the guy I like.. it's really hard for us shy gals to maintain eye contact - in fact I was totally in love with my crush for about 2 months before I knew the colour of jhis eyes cos I just don't look at him..lol! On the other hand she could be shy in general with all guys - I know I am. How does she react to other guys? Either way I think you've got nothing to lose by become more acquainted with her and maybe asking her for drink/coffee sometime? I am 99% sure she'd be very flattered and say yes!! Good luck, QM.

Ok my advice is to just have a chat with her, that way you can gauge whether she likes you or not and also build a friendship to start with.. If she responds then maybe in time you can ask her if she wants to do something, that is less threatening for you. Also remember that you have to give her time to get to know you, right now if she doesn't know you all that well she might also be a bit shy.. but just be friendly and chat about day to day stuff until she gets to know you better. Also ask her some questions about what she likes, her family etc. Hope everything goes well! QM.