Deann

Pregnancy symptoms appear differently for each person. My first sign was a noticeably larger chest, then my breasts became very tender. I then took a home test and it was positive so I waited another day and took another and it was positive also. I went to my doctor and said that I have no idea how far I am because I have very irregular cycles so they did a sonogram and said I was only 5 weeks. My chest had already been hurting for a couple of weeks so my symptoms began to appear around three weeks. I know that sounds early but it is true. My morning sickness didn't start until around week 8 though. Hope this helps.

Something kinda like this happened to me when I was 15. My bf at the time and I had been together for a while though. At that current time we believed we were so in love and made for eachother. He ended up having to move with his family and we made the decision to try to stay together. After a few months things got too hard and the realization that we were so young set in. He was 17. He came to visit a couple times but it was just too hard to maintain a relationship. I'm just trying to say that even if you feel you have fallen for her you need to realize that you are only 15. I'm not saying that 15 yr. olds don't have genuine feelings and can't be in love because I totally thought I was in love for the rest of my life with him but knowing what I do now would have made it a lot easier for me then. There is so much more for you to experience in life and high school is a great time to experience things. Another thing, how are you planning to get there 2-3 times a month? Your parents are just gonna let you take off on a three hour trip by yourself?

Ya'll have only been together for two months. I know you said that when you met it was "electric". But two months? Maybe she thought that you were the one for her but has realized that it was just lust, or maybe she just thinks that things are moving too quickly. It seems that maybe ya'll moved too quickly to me.

Just because she has already made the decision to have an abortion doesn't mean she should have to go through the emotional tauma by herself. I don't know the character of the other person but if he is any kind of decent human being then he will lend his emotional support.

You need to tell him. You didn't make the baby on your own so he needs to help you through this hard situation.

I have cheated on my bf of 2 1/2 yrs and I have to say that the philosophy of once a cheater always a cheater is not true. There was something lacking in your relationship for this to happen to begin with. I told my bf of my cheating and we have decided to try to work it out. We are in counseling now and our relationship is better now than it was before. I don't know you or your partner but he could genuinley be sorry for what he did and it may have been a terrible mistake. I am not saying that you should just forgive him completely and act as if nothing happened because it will take a very long time for ya'll to move through this but if you really love him you should atleast give it some time. It has been about 4 1/2 months for us. There have been so many ups and downs and at times we have both questioned if this could really work but my bf will be the first to tell you our relationship has become stronger. Hope this helps.

I urge you to really think this through before you make any decisions. I cheated on my bf of 2 1/2 yrs. and it is causing a world of hurt for both of us right now. I think that you should stop all contact with the new guy until you make up your mind. Are you willing to give up someone you love so much to just see what may develop with the new guy. Something has kept you with your current bf for three years, you should try to remember all of the good times and think about what would happen if you break up with your bf for this new guy and it turns bad.

Thank you hurt&abandoned, that is really encouraging. We are leaving in the morning to go back to his hometown for his grandfathers funeral. We have to stay overnight at his parents house. I don't know how to act now. Should I act like everything is fine or what? The rest of his family still thinks we are engaged and planning a wedding in the pretty near future so I have to wear the engagement ring he bought me while we are there so it won't raise any eyebrows. I just don't want the situation to make things worse, I'd like to talk to his parents but I have no idea what to expect. Any adivce?

My bf and I have been dating for about 2 1/2 yrs. and living together for 1 1/2. We built a house together in Sept. last year. About four months ago I cheated with a co-worker but it meant nothing, it was just a physical attraction that went too far. Pregnancy occurred soon after and the paternity was questionable. I originally chose to continue the pregnancy no matter what but when the thought of losing my then fiance I couldn't go through with it. I asked if I had an abortion if he would stay with me and we would work on our relationship and he said yes. About two weeks after the abortion he told me he was questioning our relationship. He says he is perfectly happy with our day to day relationship but when he thinks about the future he doesn't know if he wants to marry me. He says if he isn't sure about marriage he doesn't know if we should continue the relationship. The weird thing is that since all of this happened we have become a lot closer and get along great. Our relationship has always been awesome, we rarely ever fight or anything. He says he has forgiven me and truly believe that it wouldn't happen again and that I make him so happy but he doesn't know if he can ever quit thinking about what happened. He also told his parents the whole thing. Now they are trying to convince him that we shouldn't be together. We have been in counseling for about a month but I can't tell if it is helping yet, maybe too early? Is this relationship salvagable? We still love eachother very much and get along so well, he is just hurt. We have been back and forth for about two months now, I pull away and he comes closer. What should I do?