katie1983

i tried ringing him twice again because i was losing my mind over it, no reply. So i gave some pretty obvious clues to one of his best friends that i talk to, and he rang him and told him that he should ring me or meet up with me (im not sure if he told him why i wasnt there). Im still waiting for that phone call, its not gona happen, i guess he's an....cant use inappropriate languae

well I feel like i've tried everything to tell him but i have to put myself first because this is torturing me and decide to leave it and not speak to him again. I text him yesterday asking how he was and if we could talk, when he knows i've already said i have something important to tell him and he still didnt reply. Im so angry with him, I have completely humiliated myself and put myself through alot to try and tell him, just to get absolutely no where. For everyone sticking up for guys saying that he needs to know and guys have feelings too, well it doesnt feel that way to me right now. I've just fed his ego thinking im some kind of desperate woman wanting to be with him, when in fact that couldnt be further than the truth now. And if he does have an idea of whats up which i would think he has, he cant be that stupid then he simply doesnt care. They can just walk away. Unfortunately some rotten guys spoil it for the rest. I was coping ok with it all but now i feel so low about myself and he's made things a million times worse. I only wished i'd listened to those who said not to try to tell him.

thank you for everyone's views, I took on board everyones points and i really have tried to tell him. I havent been able to get in touch with him until lastnight when i saw him out in a place we both usually go to. i told him i have something to tell him and he obviously wanted to know what it was. But when i tried to get the words out nothing came out, and i just froze and couldnt say a thing and i ended up telling him i couldnt tell him right now and walked away, i left my friends and went home (feeling terrible about myself for not having the guts to get my words out). I really cant seem to tell him although half of me wants him to know desperatley. Iv only got a few days left to tell him and be sure of what im doing myself because ive been having doubts but i just couldnt get the words out and it was the wrong time and place, all of his friends were nearby and mine and he'd been drinking. This is driving me crazy.

ok just to update and ask for more help please. he didnt get back in touch with me at all about meeting up and i tried to call a couple of times but he hasn't answered the phone, maybe he's been at work because he works pretty random shifts but i really think he's just not answered the phone and thinking that he'll just catch up with me later. I feel really pathetic for running after him trying to get in touch with him. should i just give up?

ok it seems as though the right thing to do is to meet him today and tell him, and most of me agrees, but then again i dont want anyone to know about this who knows me, and i haven't even told my bestfriend or my mum. My ex boyfriend lives near to me, in a small place and we know alot of the same people and he will almost definitely tell his best friend and i know what gossip is like in this village. If my bestfriend finds out i kept this from her she will be extremely hurt and i also dont want to be judged by everyone around me for my decision so i really still cant decide. Plus he has a habit of making arrangements and breaking them, if he doesnt turn up today, do i still try to tell him?

Yeh i think your are right about telling him over the phone. The main thing that worries me about going to meet him is that I know him well and i really feel that he'd just simply listen to me and offer no input or support and just leave things between us as they are. I dont know if i want to put my self in that situation, of going through all of the emotions i'll go through telling him (because i am finding it impossible) just to be looked at like im a empty space.

A few of months ago i started seeing my ex boyfriend although we never officially started being a couple again. We had had a complicated break up but it seemed as though we'd never stopped loving each other, this went on for a couple of months. Then one night we had a petty disagreement, and contact seemed to dwindle, although we didnt really fall out, then stopped. I've since found out iam pregnant. I have decided to have a termination, for a lot of reasons, but i am undecided whether to talk to him about it. We have been very close in the past, although things are the way they are now, but i dont know whether i should even put him through that when i could go through it alone. I dont think he needs to know, but something deep down is telling me i should tell him. I text him asking if he'd like to go for a drink this week and he said yes and he asked if it was ok to see him tomorrow but i dont know if i should see him. He must be thinking that i want to carry on seeing him but i have decided that i dont. Im not sure whether to meet up with him to explain everything, although i feel terrible that i'll shock him like that, when he'll think i am simply meeting up with him to hang out, or whether to leave it altogether (i'm pretty sure he wouldn't have got in touch with me if i hadnt text him), or whether to maybe phone him?