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hello all. ok, heres the 4-1-1. theres this girl i like right and im not sure exactly sure what is going on between us. im not sure if she is: 1. just being her friendly self. 2. being flirty towards me (possibly wanting relationship) 3. being flirty towards me (just for fun or some other reason) she calls me names like 'hun' and 'sweetheart' and is a real touchy kinda person (kinesthetic) but yea im not sure exactly what to make of it all. shes a friend that i work with so i dont want to really make too many moves in case it creates some kind of akwardness between us. what can / should i do? have been in this situation twice before and messed it up both times ... want to get it right this time. any and all help is greatly appreciated. more info can be acquired if you ask me questions, etc. thank you : )

wrong. you dont have to be attractive for guys to come and talk to you. its only that the confident guys would come and talk to you, the less confident ones would be way to shy. (id know im one of them) keeping in shape is good. good for self confidence and good for ur body too. if you think your unatractive then u will see yourself like that forever, break out of that or you will never be happy. im shy too. just dont let that control you, be happy and ppl will come and talk to you. if ppl are telling you that ur pretty then u r. take it as a compliment and believe it. be happy, be independent and most of all just be urself it will all work out in the end .. if it hasnt worked out then its not the end

u got nothing to worry about. ur like not even 15. uve got yrs ahead of ya. im 19, never had a gf, never been kissed .. now that is degrading. i was forced in going to a boys only high school. so by the time i got senior high i had lost all social skills i had found in primary school. this stuffed my social life up like nothing else. dont worry about your weight. thats nothing, think about it on the bright side .. at least ur not the fat kid. i was heaps skinny at that age too. just be yourself. do things like u usually would. just be happy and confident. CONFIDENCE IS KING .. remember that, ur dating future depends on it. u got nothing to worry about. just ask open ended questions when ur talking to girls (any questions that dont answer with yes/no) it will keep conversations going longer. it also gives u time to think of new questions. just relax and be yourself some girl is bound to fall for ya.

i soo know what u mean. been there done it. i believe that its because she hasnt totally come to terms with it and gotten over it. when she sees you it would remind her of times and stuff like that. and the easiest way to deal with u would be to run and not have to face you. to some extent she is being childish. what i have done (my ex lady friend acknowledges me now) is just go about ur daily business. when u see her waive and say hi. if she doesnt respond or waive back then so be it. dont take it to heart, just try it again the next time u see her. dont let her know that ur cut by her not talking to u or she will continue to do it. just act normal, stay calm, be confident and be nice. she will come round eventually. she will either notice that u dont care and she will come running back or she will come to notice that its not a big deal anymore and 'dig it' am only talking from experience, hope this is in some way helpful to you. good luck for the future

hello again. i was the one who first suggested alcohol. i now understand that it has a history in your past. it has a history in mine also, i lost my grandfather due to alcohol. it did turn me against it until i tried it. what i was trying to say before is that it helped me come out of my shell also. ppl used to see me as the scary goth kid who said nothing and interacted only with his other goth friends. alcohol acts as a boost to self confidence. it wont fix ur problems long term i understand but i spose if ur looking to have a happy night then i spose its the trick. i myself thought of therapy as an option to help solve my problems. but i thought that it would shame me more reaching out and telling a complete stranger all my problems. there is one man who may be able to help you. Tony Robbins. he has helped me change my life from being a dark lonely boring person to the type of person i want to be. independent, kinda interesting and someone that ppl can talk to. im not exactly the person i want to be but ill get there. note down the things that u dislike about yourself then look for ways that you could improve them. like what i did. i joined a gym to improve my figure. this has helped me heaps, cos its not always me who has to start conversations. some girls come and talk to me. its good to hear that ur not wanting to blame others. but that will only be beating urself up. look for fixes and not where to send the blame we cant always do all that we want to alone, some times we need help from others. its good to see that uve taken the first step by writing in this forum. i bid you good luck and i hope that what i have typed is of some use to you. you are important, you do matter

theres no time like the present. go for it. just say that its been a while and you wanna catch up over coffee or something. CONFIDENCE.

Booze, booze, booze and more booze im also like u in the way that i dont say too much. but apparently im a much more of a socialable person when im drunk. alcohol gives u a big hit of confidence in talking to ppl ... especially the ladies. release ur anger appropritely, join a gym or a karate class. only u can change how u r. make yourself

dude i know exactly how u feel i have been in the same situation. there was this one girl who i thought about day and night. i still love her too. but she lost interest in me. for the last 2 months i have tortured myself thinking about what it is that i have done to make her ignore me and want nothing to do with me. and then only yesterday a friend of hers said to me "well if u want the inside goss then its because ur nervious" "CONFIDENCE IS KING", every girl i have talked to since then has said that. i myself need to build up confidence so that i can try to patch things up with my lady friend. back urself and have no shame. i too went thru the 'what if' kinda state of mind ... its not great. live in the moment act on impulse dont try to think things ahead. let her know how u feel in a way that ur comfortable. im sure she feels the same way. walk with ur head up u sound like a nice guy. proove greenday wrong in that they say nice guys finish last for i will also try to prove them wrong. good luck, u deserve to be happy