thinkkid77

hey guys! me and my gf finally kissed last night. we took a walk to a park and sat on the playplace thingy as we talked. after a while we kissed and walked back home. we ended up kissing about three times throughout the night. everytime we kissed, she'd stick her tongue in my mouth and move it in and out. the first time i was shocked to find her tongue in my mouth so i didn't have time to do anything with mine. the second time i kinda stroked her tongue with mine as she moved her's in and out of my mouth. the third time, i circled her tongue she did the same thing as she did the last two times. i'm just wondering how i can get her to do something different. i mean, i love kissing her but she does the same thing everytime. any ideas? and once i get her to start doing different things, what can i do with my tongue? that is, if i can get it in her mouth. lol. thanks in advance.

i think it depends on if you like this girl or not. if you do, go ahead and flirt. if she doesn't flirt back though, it would probably be a sign to stop. if you don't like her, i wouldn't suggest flirting with her or she'll think you like her. ~~julie, age 18~~

hey i'm an 18 yr old girl and i can relate b/c i was in a similar situation. this girl obviously likes you or she wouldn't be dating you. i would suggest wait a while before you tell her how you feel because you don't want to freak her out if she doesn't feel this way yet. it's scary when someone is crazy about you but you don't really like them like that. but don't worry it's likely that she will feel the same way soon, if she doesn't already. ~~julie~~

hey i'm a 18 yr old girl and i like this guy who's 17. he's a great guy and we've been friends for years. i would like to date him, but i don't know if he feels the same way or if he's happy with the friendship. it's hard for me to tell what he's thinking because he's so shy and doesn't open up a lot. please help! thanx ~~julie~~

well, our friends are fairly mature. at least, some of them are. she has told me that she doesn't want to kiss in front of our friends so that's out of the question. my parents aren't too fond of the idea of their lil boy going out ALONE with a girl when he's "only fifteen!!!" she's invited me over to watch a movie in her room (which would be the perfect time) but every time she invites me, something comes up with one of us and i can't go over there. she's said that she doesn't want to plan anything (like me saying, "ok, meet me at the pop machines after school so we can kiss.") She says, "If it happens then it happens." I see what she's saying but as of now, it won't happen unless i can get us alone sometime! i need help.

hey guys, my girlfriend that i recently started going out with wants me to kiss her. i want to kiss her too but neither of us have our licenses so we can't go anywhere unless someone takes us. we've tried to kiss at school but our friends (who can't take a hint) won't leave us alone long enough to do it. teachers aren't really a problem cuz we are always alone (except for our friends) in the hall after school. i need a way for us to be alone long enough to kiss. any ideas?

yes you could try talking to her before class or have a friend talk to her for you. either of these options would probably be the best. hope this helps! ~~julie~~

my hair is my main focus right now. i have somewhat long hair. it doesn't cover my eyes but i can see the tips of it if i look up and raise my eyebrows. i just don't know what to do with it. it's not curly. it just gets a lil wavy if i let it grow out to where it is now. does anyone have any tips on how to style it/ what to use in it?

well if you believe in fate, then it could be fate for you to feel like this. But it is also fate for you to get through it. maybe you'll do something very important later on in life but if you die now, you won't be able to.

wow. all those ideas are great. i'll have to try them all (slowly of course) i want to thank you all for the ideas you've given me so far. if anyone else has any other ideas please, feel free to post them. again, thanks

toggle, if you read this (which i hope you will) I want you to seriously reconsider what you put in your last post. 16 is way too young to die. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't throw that away. A life is a precious thing. Once it's gone, there's no second chance. The decision you're making is a final one. Don't waste what God gave you. Believe it or not, someday you WILL find someone you can run to in tears and just embrace them. They won't know what's wrong. They won't need to. They will be happy just to comfort you when you need it. I was just like you for a couple years. I was seriously ready to take my life. Now that I transferred schools, I'm so thankful that i didn't. There are so many different lives you can live. At a public school i was nobody. Nobody cared about me. They didn't even know i existed unless they literally ran into me in the hallway. Even then they wouldn't say "sorry" or "excuse me". Then when i came to the christian school i go to now, i decided i wasn't going to take it anymore. I wanted to turn my life around. I am now thought of (by the girls) as the sweetest guy in the school. If you take your life, you're letting the other people win. You can beat them. All it takes is some faith. Just a lil faith is all you need. Just enough to keep going one more day. Eventually, you'll meet the person you described to us. It may not be today, tomorrow, or the next day. But you WILL meet them. I promise you that. Everytime someone ridicules, mocks, makes fun of, or harasses you, just think to yourself "I'm better than them. They won't beat me. I won't let them." That's what they want. They want to wear you down till you begin to believe that you are what they say you are. It's almost like a cult. A cult forms by one person that just keeps telling people something over and over until they begin to believe it. That's what is happening to you. You can't let them do that. You have to fight it. Don't let them win. God has a plan for your life. Maybe it's to cure cancer. Who knows? If you kill yourself now, millions of people may die because you didn't live long enough to find out the cure for the disease that they have. Don't give up. We're here for you. You may think that nobody cares but obviously complete strangers care enough to post here. If you want to talk, just post. I'll be praying for you. Hang in there, thinkkid

hey guys, me and this girl have gotten to know each other for the past few weeks/ months and we have grown rather fond of each other. I've met her parents too. They aren't bad people. In fact they are some of the nicest people i've met. so basically it's the ol' i like her, she likes me sorta thing. I got thinking about it a couple days ago and realized that she is a REALLY good looking girl and i'm not the most handsome guy around. I guess she likes me for my personality. I don't really know. Anyway, I wanna take better care of myself from now on. I mean, I brush my teeth and wash my face and all that crap but is there anything special i can do to either clear up my skin, whiten my teeth, or anything along those lines? I basically just want to improve my look. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

hmm, i don't know if this girl likes you or not...when she looks away from you does it look obvious? if so she probably doesn't like the fact that you're staring at her. i always find it annoying when guys i don't know just stare at me like i'm a piece of meat. this can make a girl not like you if you stare at her a lot. however, when she looks away from you is she discreat about it and does she look shy? if so she probably likes you. i suggest that before you do anything about it, have one of your friends talk to her to find out if she likes you. hope this helps! ~~julie~~

hey! i don't know if it's the greatest way because she might be like, "what?" but if you're gonna do it at least make sure she's really familiar with the matrix. if she is then go for it! ~~julie~~

hey! currently i have a crush on a guy who's shy, so i have a few suggestions about how you could approach a girl. try to say hi to her and look glad to see her. i like it when a guy initiates the conversation, although it's not always necessary. when having a conversation, don't give one-word answers, and just relax so it will be easier to talk. third, smile at her and just talk about whatever's on your mind. hope this helps! ~~julie~~

hey i'm an 18 year old girl (using my bro's screenname) anyway there's this guy who i've known practically all my life and we're friends but not super close. i know he's a great guy and we have a lot in common. he's quiet and i don't know if he likes me but i really like him, and want to be more than friends. should i ask him out and if so, how? i don't want to scare him off if he really wants to just be friends. any advice on this would be appreciated. thanks! ~~julie~~

hey hun, i'm an 18 year old girl (using my bro's screenname) and i want to give you some encouragement. you should definitely tell your parents, the sooner the better. as far as abortion goes, i think it is morally wrong. i consider it just as bad as murder. right now your baby has a heartbeat and is developing. do you really want to destroy this little gift from God? i'm not trying to preach or anything. my cousin went through this when she was young. her parents have helped her out through everything and she now has a beautiful little boy. i'm so glad she chose to keep him, and i pray you will too. love ya! ~~julie~~

(I'm writing this on my bro's screenname, I'm an 18 year old girl) OK-There's this guy that won't leave me alone. One night i was at church and he was visiting so i decided to be friendly and introduce myself. We had a very brief conversation. The next time he came he asked me out. I was freaked out b/c not only do i not know this guy, i'm not even attracted to him. I said I'll get back with you and he asked for my phone #. Stupid me gave him my phone # and now he wont stop calling me. When he calls I'm nice to him, but I've told him straight out more than once that I don't like him like that. He wants us to get to know each other because he is determined to date me. Does he really not get it? What should I do about this situation?

i totally agree with what scout just posted. that's some good advice

god doesn't hate you. it proves that he doesn't by what you said. you tripped over the rock and that saved your life. maybe god had you run in that direction so the lightning would miss you. i mean, sometimes the stuff he does looks like a bad thing but hurting your leg was probably a lot better than getting struck by lightning. am i right? eventually god will do something in your life (if you trust in him to control it) that will totally amaze you. all you have to do is trust in him to do what he wants with your life. what have you got to lose??

DragonSlayerX, i can't understand half of what you're feeling right now. I don't think anyone can. You probably think that no one can save you right now. The only thing we can do is encourage you to keep going. You probably noticed that i said you might think that. I was implying that you're wrong. There is one more person who can save you. That person is the Lord, Jesus Christ. You've probably heard all this before but just listen. I'm 15 and I've been through some things like you but not nearly as bad. In my Bible class at school, we just learned that God has a plan for all of us. His plan always turns out for the good. All we have to do is keep hope during the hard times. Eventually, God will wipe away all of these things in your life that you're having trouble with. Just hold on. It's like that song by the band "Good Charlotte" In their song they say to hold on because life WILL get better. If you haven't heard the song, I'd suggest that you look up the lyrics right now. They will most likely bring some encouragement to your life. I'd even go out and buy the cd. A lot of their songs are encouraging like that. My gf just broke up with me too. I know how that feels. Just remember, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If she doesn't realize how good of a guy you are, she's not worth your trouble. All I can say right now is hold on. Things will get better. I promise. God died for us on the cross so we wouldn't have to die. He sacrificed his life for us.

well guys, i just got back from the date. the date was good but the ride home was even better. her dad drove me home so me and her just sat in the back seat covering ourselves with a blanket. we held hands the whole way home. i ended up deciding that, based on her body language, she wasn't ready to be kissed yet. so i just kissed her on the hand when we got to my house. so now that i know that she likes me, what should i do know? i really wanna go out with her again but i don't know where we could go because neither of us can drive without an adult. maybe we could meet somewhere. i don't know. anybody got any ideas???

ok, thanks to both you guys. that's some good advice that i'll have to drill into my brain. hopefully after tomorrow night she'll be more interested being more than friends. again, thank you and if anyone else has any advice, feel free to post.

hey guys, i really like this girl and she likes me too. she just asked me to go to a youth rally at her church and i accepted. both of us are christians and we go to the same high school. she just got her license so she offered to come pick me up. it's a half hour to her church and i don't know what i should talk about with her for that time. any suggestions? we have decided to get to know each other better before we become boyfriend and girlfriend. so i'm trying to let her get to know me more. we already know the basic stuff about each other but she still doesn't seem to know me enough. any suggestions on things to talk about to let her know me better? thanks in advance.