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Thanks, I'll try that. Not the lip thing (yet...lol) but the looking back in his eyes and smiling. I'll try and give you guys an update soon too.

thanks for all the replies. Santa, what subtle signs can I give him to let him know I like him back? This one particular guy stares at me alot. What should I do when I catch him staring at me?

Hi, Maybe the answers to these are obvious but I would like to hear from the guys & their point of view... - Do you stare at all girls or only the girls you have crushes on? - What are you actually thinking when you are watching/staring at a girl (i.e., while she is busy doing something)? - If you stare at one girl a lot & especially at her face does that mean you think she is hot/attractive/whatever?

Again this is more of a rant but anywho... Lately I'm getting really sick of running/jogging. A couple of weeks ago I missed my run I think for two or three days and then when I finally ran it was really hard to do it. Then I missed it again for two days and ever since then I can run for about 20min but then when it gets more than that I don't get cramps I just get tired, my legs start to feel weak, and I have to stop to walk a bit. Then after I've walked for five min or so and start to run again then I get a cramp in my stomach (but I continue running the rest of the way home, which is about 10min). This has been going on for about a week and a half. Why am I getting so tired now when before I could run the whole 30min or so just fine? How can missing a few days mess me all up? So this is what I am planning to do. I am going to switch to rollerblading (for 4miles which takes me about 35min) on some days and doing 20min (2mile) fast-jogs on other days instead. What do you all think? Any input would be great. Thanks.

Another thing I just wanted to add... Maybe he's shy about making the first move but there has been opportunites that he could have come and talked to me I feel if he wanted to. For instance, the main opportunity being: he sees me walk by him to go on my break so all he has to do is say he has to go the bathroom (which he easily could) and then he could go in the breakroom which are by the bathrooms. That is what I'm pretty sure another guy does to me because sometimes when I go on break this guy comes in a few min later to the washrooms (for like 2 seconds) and then he talks to me (I just like this guy as a friend though). Or maybe he's just never thought of doing that. I don't know. If he likes me so much then he probably would do something more besides just looking/staring at me. He has balls and I think he can use them if he really wanted to. If anything else happens I can post it if you guys want.

ask him out!? I can't even bring myself to say hi to him. I'm old-fashioned and I don't want to ask out my first boyfriend/date (that is if he even said yes and there was actually an opportunity to ask him since one of us is always working if the other is on break). If I start with anything it will be a hi. I see this guy a few times a week. And seeing I mean I walk by him while he is working and I am going upstairs/going on break. And sometimes the other way around. Maybe this is my imagination (even though I recently promised myself I would stop thinking about this...so much for that) but when we first talked a few months ago I noticed he would look at me while he walked by and then when I didn't see him for awhile (like a few weeks) he would walk by me or I would walk by him and he wouldn't even look at me at all. And now since we kinda talked again (the box thing) I've seen him looking at me again. Lately as I walk by him while he is working, obviously he feels me looking at him so then he looks at me but he holds it. Though it is a natural reaction to look at someone you feel is looking at you... And today as I walked by him his back was turned and he was being/doing something goofy and then I guess he noticed that I was looking at him so he turned around and then he continued to do the goofy thing facing me...I don't know...He is a weird guy usually (as my friend who works with him told me and as I can see). Right now I still like him but it's not such a big deal anymore. If he likes me great, if he doesn't that is ok too. Thanks for the replies.

Really ridikerous? Hmmm....I don't know what to think now. But for the best I'm still just going to stop thinking about it for the same reason as before.

Hey thanks for the replies guys! You are so motivating. Today I increased my route a bit and upped it to a 32min jog. I didn't go fast today because I felt really tired...went to bed too late...(I just went my regular speed--jogging speed). I'll save the fast-jog for when I need it aka when I need to release some stress (which will probably be very soon lol). I knew that about muscle weighing the same as or more than fat but I totally forgot about that until you (JonnyG) said that. So that definitely makes sense. I got some pictures of myself developed just the other day and I was so happy because I looked so much better than when I did last month (from the pictures of me last month). Seeing those pics was definitely a confidence & motivation boost. warnerbro1...Yes I agree, I also have come to love running. Running and listening to music is the best. You get lost in the music and thinking about stuff and before you know it you've already been running for 20min. I am definitely going to keep this up and am waiting patiently for some more physical benefits although feeling great is a benefit on its own. warnerbro1 you keep it up too, lol, losing 60lbs is awesome! Thanks again. If you have any other comments/input I'd still like to hear them though

Hi. To me there is a difference between all of those terms. But first let me say that although I do notice looks and can appreciate them, it's not as if looks are on the top of my priority list regarding the opposite sex. To me for guys looks and being tall I would consider those to be brownie points--you don't have to have them (Instead a good sense of humour, etc etc is what I find the utmost attractive like you've all heard before). Hot What is hot? I think a lot of girls overuse the word hot. I only think a person is hot only if they really are hot (to me). Personally I haven't seen very many guys that I thought were "hot". Unfortunately those that I think are hot (and have gotten to know) know themselves that they are. Thus they are egotistical, arrogant, spend a lot of time on their looks, etc which equals a huge turnoff on my part. A hot guy usually has kind of an exotic look, something you don't see all the time. For instance, I know this guy who has jet-black hair and light blue eyes--this contrast always makes me look twice and it looks really good on him. And to me I think he is hot. Interestingly enough I don't think he has any idea that he is hot because he is not arrogant at all (I don't even think he brushes his hair, lol, yet the messy look works for him). When I consider somebody to be hot I think I am attracted to them initially and solely on a physical level. An example of somebody "hot" would probably be Ryan Phillipe & Jude Law. Yet I also consider them to have pretty decent personalities and be exceptional actors. Fit When I think of someone who is fit I picture someone who takes care of their body, works out, etc. Fit is basically a guy with a nice, muscular body but is not necessarily attractive/good-looking. Somebody who is fit...any athlete (i.e., on TV). Good-looking A good-looking guy is someone I find attractive. A good-looking guy would have a nice smile, is able to hold himself well, and is confident. I'm trying to narrow down what a good-looking guy would look like physical wise and I guess that he would be relatively fit, attractive/ok looking face. An example of a good-looking actor would be Matt Damon although I know a lot of girls probably disagree since practically every girl I know thinks he is in fact hot...but to me I just think good-looking. Cute These are the guys that always make me laugh. The ones I know have a really good sense of humour and are nice guys. I don't know if this is a coincidence or not but all the cute guys I know have brown eyes. Brown eyes perhaps create warmth/coziness, and that puppy-dog look leading to what is called cute. Cute guys tend to have a more boyish than manly appearance. ex: Corey Matthews from that TV show "Boy Meets World" is what I would call cute. However, these definitions are just my opinion.

hey nick_knock how far do you run and how long does it take you? By the way, thanks for the reply

This is more like a rant but anyway lol I've been running every other day 2miles in 20min for about 3 weeks now but I've only lost one pound. My family (& me have) noticed though that I'm standing up straighter now and look leaner (although I've only lost a pound). Running the 2 miles though was hard at first but now it is almost easy. Today after work I went for a run and needed to release some stress so instead of jogging I picked up the pace a bit and cut 2min from my time. Did I burn the same amount of calories though even though I ran it faster? I read somewhere (but I think I have it confused perhaps) that you can walk or run the same distance yet still burn the same amount of calories, is that true? I was thinking the next time I run I could go twice around my route so that would be 4miles. And then the days when I don't have time to go twice around I could just jog faster like I did today. Would that help me lose more weight?

Yeah there was something in the air the first time I talked to him but now there is not. And that sucks. I think it would be best if I just forget about him because it's getting annoying & a little hurtful to think about. *sigh*

If every time you walked by a girl (a girl that you've talked to a couple of times in casual conversation) and she was looking/glancing at you what would you think? Would you be freaked out? Or would you take it as a hint that she liked you? thanks

Yeah I hope he will give me clearer signals too. lol. That was some good advice though. Thanks.

So I finally saw that guy I hadn't talked to for a few months in the breakroom the other day. He was sent up to pick up some boxes in there. When he came in right away he started looking under the table, so I started to look under the table. And he just started talking to me about how he had to pick up the box (which was under the table) and of course it was the heaviest one or something like that. Then he made a big show of it carrying the box out--making unnecessary sounds to be funny I guess? Then this other girl in there (who is in her 20s and they work in the same department) said to him, "Move those muscles". Then I said jokingly, "Don't fall down the stairs". And he kinda looked at me and didn't say anything. Then a few minutes later he came back up again to pick up the second box. And then he said, "Oh at least this one is only half full. So it's not so bad". Then he made a big show of it again even though it wasn't that heavy. Then well going out he waved bye to this girl by the lockers. So do you think he was just being friendly?

I'm an ISFJ too.

Well I was actually the one that walked off because I was heading on my break and he was still working...I was just trying to walk around him.

Boxers or briefs: boxers Curly or straight hair: doesn't matter but if I had to pick then curly Tall or short: taller than me so 5'7+ Six pack or muscular arms: muscular arms Good or bad guys: good Hat or no hat: a guy that mixes it up--sometimes wears a hat, and sometimes doesn't Ears pierced or not: not Tan or no Tan: doesn't matter but not too tan Dimples or not: doesn't matter Stubble or neatly shaven: a guy that mixes it up--sometimes is shaved, sometimes has stubble Rugged or sporty: both Studly or cutie: both Accent or not: doesn't matter Glasses: doesn't matter but no nerdy glasses Smart or dumb: smart What sport should he play: doesn't matter

Wow a lot of responses to my question, Thanks guys...keep them coming. Anywho, theghost: If I didn't know you and you wanted to get my attention, I probably would feel most comfortable with just a tap on the shoulder (NOT a childish tap-tap with one finger, but more like a quick, gentle touch on the shoulder). Yet it depends on what position I am in. If my back was to you, or I was busy doing something/not paying attention to what is going on around me, then use the tap/touch on the shoulder. If I am facing you/we are walking towards each other, then a gentle touch on the arm could be used. And FYI if anyone cares...lol...this guy used the front part of his hand and put it on my shoulder as I was walking by him. He also said Hi & How are you. And if anyone cares again...lol...this is the younger guy I was talking about (the guy going into gr.12, whereas I just graduated). So I guess this means a good "HI!" as theghost said, lol.

Hey flipd, Practically the same thing happened to me...I almost feel like I wrote your post. Except I haven't talked to this guy for about 3-4 months--I only see him weekends though (at work). I knew he liked me from the signs he gave off but I'd get so nervous and would walk right by him instead of saying hi. Now he only sometimes looks at me, if at all. And I'm still too shy to do anything about it because I think I lost my chance. So don't do what I did. Next time you see him say "Hi & How's it going" with a smile--don't postpone it like some ppl...

...touch a girl when you pass by her? I mean like you touch her shoulder or arm to guide her or something like that. Is that just what you naturally do?

Thanks ComputerGuy for the advice. I agree...I'll try not to let it bother me. I think I was overthinking it too much. lol 8)

Hello, So before I wrote about this younger guy at my work that I think likes me...and I've decided that I don't like him that way. For instance, I get the impression that he thinks he is some big shot/flirt. You should see the way he walks...you know the "cool walk". The thing now is that lately this guy has been really forward towards me (well not really forwards, but more forward than any other guy I've met). For instance, yesterday he insisted on teaching me a special handshake thing that we could do. And he was touching and holding my hands a lot & more than necessary. He was also looking me in the eyes the whole time. I'm sure this would have been very nice and not so awkward if I had instead shared this experience with a crush. The thing is though I smiled the whole time and laughed at the goofy things he did even though they weren't that funny. I don't know why I do that, when I don't like him like that, but it just comes out. I guess I'm enjoying the attention as I'm relatively shy and I have never had a boyfriend. Geez, and now every time i see him he's going to want to do that handshake with extra unnecessary lingering of the hands and I bet I'm going to go ahead and just do it (even though it makes me feel a bit uneasy). I feel kinda bad about what I'm doing. Should I even feel bad? I just don't know. I feel like an idiot writing a post about a handshake Thanks to those who read this. Any advice/comments would be appreciated.

np good luck!

Hello, This is my first impression of what this girl meant when she said she wanted to "think about it" and then said "Maybe" to dating you. I think this girl could possibly have some feelings for you yet gave you an honest answer when she said she didn't want to risk losing you as a friend and also meant it when she said that. I also think that by going to the movies with you and then her planning to go to an amusement park with you was perhaps in a way, a way for her to test if she thought you guys could ever "be" a couple. And when I say "test", I mean she is considering if she really does feel the same spark as you do when your with her. Why else would she arrange it to be just the two of you? Because when I think of an amusement park, I don't think of a one-on-one outing--I think more of it as a group outing with a whole bunch of friends. However, you say you feel like there has been very little progress since that park outing...so perhaps she wishes to just remain friends and that's what she's comfortable with. Then again you said it's been only a week so I'm leaning towards the idea that she doesn't want to rush into this too fast. Afterall you said she's more experienced with relationships than you. So what to do now? I think your doing everything right so far. I wouldn't ask her, "Do you like me now?" though. Just try to plan some more dates with her like you guys were doing. And if you still feel like you guys are heading nowhere (maybe after 2 or 3 dates) ask her where she thinks your relationship is going and if she likes you in return.