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...totally check you out one day and then a few days later when you walk by they barely even look at you? But then a few days later they'll check you out again but then not even look at you the next? any replies would be great thanks

Hey JonnyG, I think your right about the other guy. I think he did like me but has given up since we didn't see each other for a few months. But I don't know what to do about that. I guess I'm just waiting until we each have break at the same time (if we ever do), and if the feeling is right strike up a convo. However, I'm kind of giving up hope on him...I think it would be best if I did because nothing has happened for a few months. Now for the younger guy, say if we did go out I would want it to be just for fun not as a date. But wouldn't it be unfair for me to do so because I don't want to lead him on? (Also I think like you said that age differences won't matter once I'm in university (or older) because at least everyone is in the same scenario/path despite the different age ranges.) Then again like Maria said, he hasn't actually asked me out yet so I should relax, lol. Yet I think I'm more to what Maria said--he's still in highschool while I'm off to university...we're just on two different paths..and that is always going to be etched in my mind. If you want to hear...well, read...my other story about the other guy, it's easy to search for just type in my user name and all my posts will show up...I only have a few, I think the ones about this guy were, "I haven't talked to him in a while" and "Help me with my guy dilemma". Thanks you guys for taking the time to give me adivice, it really helped me to start sorting out my thoughts.

Hello, There is this guy at my work that I think likes me. For instance, we work in different departments but he always trys to talk to me at break, and he says hi when I walk by, plus the whole staring thing too, etc. The only thing is I'm not sure how I feel about him. I just can't make up my mind. He's a year younger than me, and a bit shorter than me and that as shallow as it sounds kinda turns me off a little bit. I guess I feel older than him--I just graduated from highschool (and will be going to U. in Sept.) and he just finished gr.11. He's good looking yet he's a little goofy but he has the nicest smile, which automatically somehow makes me smile back at him. After I've talked to him I find myself still smiling when I return to my department. When I talk to him face to face, I think he doesn't look too young but at other times he looks 16. And I still find myself more attracted to the older and more mature looking guys 19+. And there is another thing. I wrote awhile back about this other guy at my work that I liked. Well I still kind of like him and see him sometimes (just walking by) but I haven't talked to him at all for a few months (since our convo in the breakroom). When I walk by him sometimes he won't even notice me yet at other times he'll kinda look my way. Help please. I don't know what to do. Thanks.

Hello, I'm 5'7 and 145lbs I'm not really sure what a realistic weight is for me. I'm guessing 135lbs but 130 seems so much more appealing. When I was in gr.9 (4 yrs ago) I was 126lbs (I remember b/c we had to weigh ourselves in gym) and I considered myself to be a nice weight then. Oh, how I wish was 126 now! I have a pair of shorts from then where I had to wear a belt with but now if I wear them I don't need a belt and they are tight around the thighs. Obviously I know it's normal for me to have gained weight from a freshman to a senior but 20lbs! It seems like a lot. Last year around the same month I remember I was 143lbs. When I sit down I have a little flub on my stomach, which I have course want gone. I used to weigh almost 150 but have lost those 5lbs (by eating less, drinking more water, and running a little bit) because at 150 I knew that was too much for me. So does anyone have any input? Thanks.

Ok so I'm a tad *beeped* off today. He and two other guys were in the breakroom not on their break but just hanging out and walking around. So I go to sit down and we look at each other...I was just about to say hi and he looked away. I don't think he meant it to be rude--afterall we haven;t talked in a month and I've done the same to him by accident but *sigh*. Anywho his friend said something funny and we (me and his friend) looked at each other and laughed a bit. Then they left and me and his friend talked for a bit. So I've decided I'm going to stop worrying about when or if I should say hi to him. I see his friends more often than i see him and they're pretty nice and funny. I think whatever chemistry we had when we first talked is gone now. *sigh*

If you are aiming to change your appearance, do it in small stages. She already likes you for who you are--this includes how you look--because she is going out with you. However, I see your point that you want to improve just for her. If you suddenly buy a new wardrobe, get a new haircut, slap on cologne--all at once--, I'm afraid she may barely recognize you and think that you were trying to be something you're not. So perhaps for now start small and work yourself up (on the changes) if you think that is necessary. You don't need to make a whole lot of changes to make her see that you are trying to spruce yourself up--small changes give enough of an impact. For starters you could begin with good smelling deoderant--i.e., Old Spice, and get a haircut--not a drastic one but just so your hair looks like you take care of it. For instance, I know this guy who had already short hair and it looked okay but when he got a haircut/trim, he looked a whole lot better. Another tip is to make sure all your clothes are clean and without wrinkles--this really makes a person presentable. And personally I like it when a guy wears a nice dressy watch--Fossil makes some good men watches by the way. Good luck!

For starter it may help to read my other topic "I haven't talked to him for a while" in the "conversational tips" forum. If not then basically this is my little story. There is this guy at my work that I like and I think likes me. We work in different departments. One day we happened to have break at the same time and we just started talking and had a great conversation. The next day we saw each other and said hey. Then we didn't see each other for two weeks. On the third week, I saw him from a distance and we just looked at each other. For the past weeks (well weekends) I've gotten into the habit of looking at him than looking away and pretending like I wasn't looking at him. When I walk by him I look to see if he is looking and usually he is. Today we both were walking towards each other and I just pretended not to see him. And now I am kicking myself because there was the perfect opportunity to say hello and I just couldn't do it. Well he was also I guess looking the other way pretending not to see me. And now here I am with this little pain in my gut telling me that pretty soon he's going to stop liking me (if he ever did) unless we talk or do at least anything again soon. I also keep thinking that it would be too weird to say hello now since it has been a few weeks and I've walked by him a few times pretending not to notice him or just glancing at him quickly. Sometimes though there is no way I could say hello at those times as we are several metres apart and there are people walking between us. Or should I at those times do something like shoot him a smile? But I'm afraid to feel stupid if he doesn't notice or he doesn't smile back. What can I do about this pain in my gut as I fear time is running out unless I or he does something soon? I keep hoping that we'd have break again at the same time but so far no luck. How can I get the courage to say hello to him? Any other advice? And Thanks for reading.

A lot of you guys are saying that your attraction for a girl will fade if she does something "nasty" to you... Could you please define or ellaborate on what "nasty" means to you? Does it mean her telling you to get lost or something like that? Or something very minor? By the way thanks to all those that responded.

What if you only see your crush/the girl once or twice a week where you sometimes get a chance to talk to her and sometimes not? Will your attraction to her eventually fade?

Hey guys, If you like a girl how long does your attraction to her usually last?

Now that you mention it, I guess he was the only one making me laugh and smile. I see your point that perhaps if I wanted him to realize that I liked him I should have done more stuff on my part but this was the first time we really had a conversation. So for guys, smiling and laughing at your jokes isn't really enough of any kind of hint?

Hi everyone, beware this is long... There is this guy at my work that I like. (We work in different departments though). I've been working there for several months now (just weekends). At first we sometimes made eye contact as we walked by each other which was very seldom since we barely ever saw each other. And one time he was talking to a girl in the breakroom and telling her a story, and I smiled at him (because it was funny) and we made eye contact several times while he was talking. Then about 3-4weeks ago I was coming into the breakroom for lunch and I saw him. And he looked up at me and we said hi. Then he said he had a really interesting weekend and asked if I would like to hear his interesting story. I said yes and he went on to tell me the funniest most detailed story ever. And I smiled the whole time (b/c it was really funny). He also kept his eyes on me the whole time. Like when I had to look down to see my spoon, his eyes went down as well. When his break was over (after about 10min) and he was getting up to leave, he asked me twice if I liked his story and I said yes and laughed, then we said bye. Oh and before he asked me if I liked his story he said something like, "wow I was talking for 10 min straight...I was holding in that story the whole day." (We were alone in the breakroom by the way). The next day I was in the breakroom and he walked by and kindof nodded his head at me and I said hi with a smile. (There was another girl there too who said hi to him then he said hi to her). Then on his way out, he saw those hotsauce things on the table and he said to me something funny like, "I love to eat those things" and then he looked at me and then her. And I kinda smiled then he left. Then stupid me...after a few hours I had to run upstairs for a sec and he was standing at the bottom of the stairs and I just walked/ran right by him (we made eye contact though)--while I had to go pee...lol But the problem is it's been nearly a month and we haven't spoken since. (Meaning since he told me that story). There hasn't really been the chance too--we never have our breaks at the same time (since I guess our shifts are different). I didn't see him for about two weeks until last Saturday when I was leaving my department for my much-needed break and I saw him at the snackbar from a distance and he had this blank look on his face and I guess he was looking at me. Then we just looked at each other (I also had a blank face I guess) while I walked away. Then the next day as I was coming in for my shift as I was walking by the front to go sign in, I saw him (standing with his back to me at first) and I thought he was looking at me but he wasn't looking at my face. I would have smiled then but because of the latter I couldn't. I don't get it because I was wearing my uniform and you can't see anything. So he was just staring at me (? or something near my chest/lower half/waist area???) as I walked by and when I turned the corner, from the corner of my eye I also saw him turn to look back at me (?) but NEVER my face (ok maybe he looked at my face for about 1 tenth of a millisecond then he was looking kinda downwards the whole time) ???. So what do you all think of this? Do you think that if he likes me he will approach me and try to talk to me again. I'm a shy person you see. At least I smiled at his stories that must still mean something to him right? Another thing I am kind of insecure about the idea of him liking me. I think he is extremely good looking (not a pretty boy though) and myself I am self conscious about my weight. I am 145pounds and about 5"6-7. I guess I appear to be of just normal weight and size. I don't know. By the way if you read this--thanks because I really needed to get that off my chest (no pun intended...). So Please give me any thoughts/advice you have on this.