Etleva Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 Im 22 and i have a boyfriend, he works all the time and he is obssesed with work, I used to get along it. But lately he is so dam busy. And the last time we were together he started to cry and he said that he feels sorry for not having time to be with me. Also he said : "I wish that I knew you long time ago" . I dont know if he regrets for proposing me. I love him but I dont know what to do. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 How often do you see each other? Link to comment
Andrina Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 What do you mean obsessed? Does he work a lot of overtime when he doesn't really need to? If you mean he is a workaholic and prioritizes that over people, I suggest ending things. There is a difference between having a high work ethic and being a workaholic. There needs to be a healthy balance of work and home-life. If this is happening, don't settle. There are cute, fun, kind guys your age out there who know how to be a good companion to you. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 How many hours does he work? How often do you see one another? Link to comment
smackie9 Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 I had a BF that was always working..I dumped him and met someone else who had time for me. Link to comment
Etleva Posted August 29, 2018 Author Share Posted August 29, 2018 2 maximum 3 times a week Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 That is plenty. Do you work or go to school? 2 maximum 3 times a week Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 2 maximum 3 times a week Agree, 3 times a week is more than plenty! That is how often I see my bf, and sometimes not even that! He also works a lot, sometimes weekends too. How often would you like or need to see him? His tears may be tears of frustration for not being able to please or make you happy. Do you hassle him about this? Not accusing, just asking. Link to comment
Capttrae Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 This is going to sound rude/mean but that’s not how it’s meant. If you don’t want a broke man your going to have a busy man. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 29, 2018 Share Posted August 29, 2018 What's wrong with seeing each other three times a week? How long have you been together? Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 3x a week sounds pretty good to me. I'd be more concerned about a man who cried because he's busy. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 I'd be more concerned about a man who cried because he's busy. lol, I read this 5 min ago and am still chuckling (seriously), too funny and yeah agree! Good grief. Link to comment
Qwerty55 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 2 maximum 3 times a week That's already a lot. How does he have no time for you? You have to understand he's working and at least he gives you time to meet. Link to comment
Etleva Posted October 1, 2018 Author Share Posted October 1, 2018 Maximum is 3 times a week, but usually 2. I just need more time I dont wanna pressure him, I got so upset this weekend when he said to me that he regrets to be dating me because I deserve more but he dont have time to please me. We have been dating together for 7 months. I love him and I feel that he loves me too. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 1, 2018 Share Posted October 1, 2018 Do you mean he ended things? It sounds like you are incompatible. Perhaps it's for the best and he can focus on work and you can find a guy who has more spare time to spend with you. he said to me that he regrets to be dating me because I deserve more but he dont have time to please me. Link to comment
Etleva Posted October 1, 2018 Author Share Posted October 1, 2018 No he didn't, when he saw I was so upset, he just promised that he will try to find more time for me. He works around 14-15 hours a day. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 You're young, if you don't want to accept this, don't. That being said, you should focus more on keeping yourself busy. Work, school, friends. Then you won't notice how much time he doesn't have for you. Those are long days he's working. Honestly I appreciate men that are driven. If you love someone, you compromise. That's how you stay together. Accept his work ethic, or don't. But I'd never give up a guy that worked hard. It's not about quantity, it's about quality. If your time together is fun, and enjoyable, then let it be. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 I deleted my post as I didn't realize it was from back in August and I had already responded. I still maintain that 2-3 times a week is plenty, more than plenty, so not quite sure OP what more you're expecting of him. His tears were either from frustration at not being able to please you (and knowing that if you continue to pressure him about it, he may be forced to end the RL) or he knows now he wants to end it which will hurt you and he feels guilty. Link to comment
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