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    Caught my dad looking at porn

    Today I was stopping by my dad's house to get my mail (I've moved out recently), and was talking to him in his office. All the sudden, windows media player pops up on his computer screen, which was in clear view. It was definitely a porn clip, with sound too. My dad kind of chuckled and said "Dad porn! You caught me!" and then closed the window.

    I was mortified. I just looked away and didn't say anything as he was closing the window, but I had to hold back my tears. We continued talking for another 10 minutes probably, and managed to have a relatively normal conversation, although I felt like I was going to puke and scream and cry.

    This wouldn't be such a big deal, but I am a girl, and my dad and I have never, ever had any discussion about sex, pornography, birth control, or anything in that domain. When we see movies with sex scenes, I get uncomfortable, just because my family NEVER, EVER talks about sex. I'm freaked out. I feel like I'll never be able to see him without thinking of this. I'm embarrassed, for myself, and for him. He must feel completely mortified as well, that his daughter caught him.

    Maybe this feeling will pass in a day or two, but right now I'm ridiculously preoccupied with it. I'm trying to keep one thing in mind though: I could have caught him masturbating, and I didn't. It could have been A LOT worse.

    So, anyone caught their parents with porn? Did you get over it or do you still think about it every time you see them?

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    no.. but I know a friend of mine found her parents' collection of porn vids... I think its healthy... may not want to think about our parents getting it on.. but they are sexual beings too..


    Imagine how our parents feel when they find their kids porn!!

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    I dont live at home and one day i talked to my mom and she said something was at the house for me.... the car was gone i thought they weren't home and (shutter) i walked in on my dad masturbating while watching porn on his computer......i just said... "oops i caught you at a bad time"...lol

    I never mentioned it to him and he never mentioned it to me. It is extremely disturbing ..but it fades.

    Dads are human - they masturbate....

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    Your poor dad must've felt bad about it.

    You might try to understand your father as a human being.
    You may be bothered by sexuality, but don't blame him for it.
    He's still the same guy.

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    I caught my dad countless times when I lived at home. The most memorable, and embarrassing, was when I was responsible for brining a floppy disk to school for a group presentation (I didn't think to check them prior) they all had very graphic images saved onto them. I understand how awkward you must have felt, but a very important point that has been made is just to remember he's a man, after all.

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    I have found my dad's "stash" before. I didnt think anything of it.

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    I've also found my dad's porn on countless occasions, but I don't say anything. Doesn't really bother me. But I am a guy.

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    Once I was doing computer maintenance on my aunt's computer, including deleting unneeded files to make more room on her hard drive.

    The problem is that my aunt is a semi-computer-literate fuss budget who must view every file before I'm allowed to delete it. She also has a son who was in his late teens or early 20s at the time.

    You can see what's coming can't you?

    I start seeing jpg files with filenames like "babysitter" and "naughty" and I'm avoiding all jpg files now because I can guess those are her son's pics and my imagination is running wild. I avoided those files until they were the only ones left. In an hour's time, the woman never went to bathroom or got a coffee, or even blinked because she's a fuss budget who has to watch everything, even though I'm a computer professional. So, I had no opportunity to delete them while she wasn't looking.

    Finally, an hour into the job, I was now sweating bullets when I opened the "babysitter" jpg.

    The "babysitter" was a young woman who appeared to be about 18 to 22 who was engaged in... I'm not even going to say what she was doing or where she was receiving it.

    Anyway, my aunt gasps, moans, hyperventilates, and I'm waiting for her to pass out, but then she recovers and manages to suck in a long breath and then says, "Boys will be boys. OK, you can finish deleting the files without me." She got up and walked away. We never talked about it again.

    What kind of idiot would save that stuff on his mom's computer? Can I really be related to a guy that stupid?

    I share the pain of your OP moment. I got a taste of that. Her embarrassment was tangible. I wasn't so shocked because I'd already been suspecting what it was for an hour before opening the file. But her embarrassment and humiliation was not easy for me.

    However, times heals all. I hadn't even thought about it in years, until I read your OP. You'll get over it.

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    I had the same experience while cleaning up a friend's PC. His son had downloaded many gigs of porn, with all the usual spyware and adware that comes with it.
    I hid it from his dad, and told 13 y/o junior to knock it off. His eyes were huge.

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    I remember my mother back in the 60's saying to my father "what if the kids find this?"


    Quote Originally Posted by shikashika [Register to see the link]
    I think its healthy... may not want to think about our parents getting it on.. but they are sexual beings too..
    That's how we all got here

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