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  1. I don't get it. I feel I've healed and moved on, but the past few nights all my dreams have been about us holding hands, getting back together, etc. Then in the morning I'll feel it eating at me. Luckily I usually have activities to do to get her out of my head again. What do dreams really mean anyways?
  2. Just talk about how your day went, how they're doing, things that happened during the day, etc. Build conversations off that. My ex and I used to talk everyday about random stuff that happened during our day. But if you have nothing to say, then keep the phone conversations short. Just say you have to go do something. Relationships aren't based off phone conversations, they're just another nice thing to have.
  3. This sounds a lot like my situation. My girlfriend was coming off a horrible break up and her past was haunting her. I came in and was "the greatest guy in the world" to her. I helped her get through some tough times. Then on Tuesday she broke up with me and it "wasn't me, it was her." Now it has basically turned the tables and it sucks not knowing how she's feeling right now. The best thing you can do is try to keep no contact. Ignoring may seem childish, but the feelings are still there between you two. Give it some time and see what happens from there.
  4. This is a great post. I think you hit pretty much everything on the head. It's tough moving on, but eventually it hits you that they aren't there anymore and there's no reason to think about what you can't have. If they come back, then great. If not, then you're moving on and living for yourself now.
  5. It sounds like he thinks you will always be there no matter what. Set your foot down and make it known that you are prepared to move on with your life if he can't commit 100% to you. That's the only way he will realize that you're serious.
  6. Here's my original thread on the break up: It's crazy how far I've come. I was completely heart broken after the break up. I finally realized today that it was stupid of me to even think about being there as a friend. She told me she needs to figure her stuff out as a single person right now, and I need to give her that space. If she really wanted me around she wouldn't have broken off the relationship. She's smart enough to know what she did. I think once she realizes that I'm not going to call her or be there whenever she needs me, she'll realize what a mistake she made. I treated her so well and did basically anything she wanted me to. So, until she is ready to commit 100% to me again, I won't be there. I'm not going to wait around for her to get to this point either. I've already met a new girl that I like and we are going out this week. If a serious relationship forms out of this, then I'm completely ready for it. I feel like I've recovered enough to realize this isn't just a rebound girl. I don't care if the ex finds out either. In fact, I hope she does and realizes that I'm not just a pushover that will be there all the time.
  7. I haven't told my ex that I'm doing no contact. I really feel there is no reason to. I made it completely clear that I'm still here to talk, but I'm not going to call her. She can call me if she really wants to.
  8. Great post...it really is true. Falling in love with someone is great, but then when they don't have the same feelings as you it comes back at you so hard.
  9. I brush my teeth every morning when I wake up and before I go to bed. If I'm going out clubbing or to a party or something like that, I always brush before I leave. I don't understand either. It really is gross to think that a lot of people don't do it. It's just sort of a routine for me I guess and I care about my hygiene. Some people don't.
  10. That sounds fine to me. You can't avoid her because you work with her, so you might as well still be polite and say hi every now and then. Let her initiate a conversation if she wants. But definitely don't try to go out of you way to talk to her.
  11. Looking at you a lot...smiling whenever he sees you...trying to be close to you all the time. At least that's what I do if I like a girl.
  12. Theres other things like she lies alot about really important things, and she tells other lads she loves them and i sit here and take it. You take that? Well there's a big problem right there. If my girlfriend ever lied or said she loved another guy, I'd get really pissed off and make sure she knew. It sounds like you hold a lot in from what I read. You need to let your emotions go and tell her how you really feel. Otherwise, this relationship won't last. Trust me. I was the same way in a past relationship. My biggest regret is not telling her how I felt about certain things.
  13. I've tried my best to heal. I haven't talked to her since we broke up and it's been about a week. But everything I do just reminds me of her. I'll be listening to a song and I'll think she likes this type of music. Another song will be about a break up or a girl, and I'll think of her. I'll be working out and think how she does the same workouts as me. I'll be driving around and see someone driving the same type of car as her, and I'll think of her. I'll hear someone say something and think she would say the same thing. Etc, etc... It's like nothing I do can get her off my mind. The last couple days I've tried my best to block out these thoughts but I just can't help it. I think I'll be making progress and then I start thinking of her again. It's so hard.
  14. I think NC is the best way to go. I've been NC for about a week now and it's helped me heal and stop thinking about her. It's tough, but I'm trying my best to move on. The only thing I can hope for is she's doing the same and maybe misses me. If not, then I'm prepared to live my life without her.
  15. I was really shy before I asked my ex out. She gave me hints that she liked me, and eventually I just got the courage and asked her out. Just give him some time and I'm sure he'll do it.
  16. I'd like to know as well...I'm only on day 4 of no contact, and let me tell you, it's extremely hard. If she calls it's going to be tough to tell her that I can't talk to her.
  17. It sounds like you guys are already on the way to getting back together. Doesn't even seem like a break up to me honestly.
  18. Great post. It really is true. There is no point in worrying about your ex after a break up, because they aren't in your life anymore. Even if it turns out to be a temporary thing, just try and move on. No contact is so tough but it is ultimately the best thing. It gets you to move on with your life and the person who initiated the break up thinking if it was the right decision or not. No point in dwelling on something that is no longer there.
  19. To be honest...I'd spend it just cuddling with my ex. I'm trying my best to move on, but it's so hard.
  20. Looking back on my life, I honestly can't remember the last time I told my parents I love them. Now that they're not here with me (out of town) I think about things like this. Hell, I can't remember the last time I told ANYONE I love them. I don't think I've ever said it to my sisters. This can't be normal. I've always had an odd relationship with my family. I've had many rough patches but we're still close. Maybe this is why I'm so hesitant to say it in relationships.
  21. Definitely try and cut back on videogames. My problem during my freshman year was I'd try to rush through assignments so I could go play games. Because of this, I did really mediocre. My second semester I stopped playing them all together and I ended the semester with a 4.0. In the end, they're pointless. Just remember that college will determine what you do for the rest of your life. Take it seriously while it's early on. As for a major...take different classes, talk to your counselor, etc...you'll eventually find something that interests you.
  22. Who broke it off with who in the relationship? I say if she broke it off with you, it's best to keep no contact going until she's ready to talk to you again. If not, then contact her when you're ready. I know it's hard, but in time it'll work out.
  23. I recently broke up with a girl I thought I was falling for on Tuesday. You can find the thread in my post history if you want. It hit me so hard and I had a tough time recovering. But I realized it's time to move on and live my life. If she calls me back, then so be it. But anyways, I was talking to this girl at my school the other day. We've been talking for awhile but nothing ever happened because I was already in a relationship. I told her about how I just broke up and her and I talked about it for at least an hour. She gave me great advice and told me that she's here for me if I need her. Then at the end of it she asked if I wanted to hang out sometime this weekend or next week. I said sure. I'm still not completely over my ex, and not sure if she is over me either. You guys think this girl is interested in something more with me, or is just being friendly? Because I am attracted to her. Not sure if I'm moving on too fast either. I'm just confused about it all I guess.
  24. No contact is hard. What I can tell you is stay strong, and if you feel you are ready to contact him again, go ahead. My girlfriend just broke up with me a couple days ago and we haven't spoken for 2 days. It's been so tough on me but I know I have to live for myself right now. If she calls back, then that's great. But for the time being I'm going to live my life and try and move on.
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