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Everything posted by shikashika

  1. I have been on both sides. Gluestick is right.. they have been thinking about it for a while... so it's easier for them But then every single situation and every person is different. What I felt as a dumper isn't going to be the same as anyone else who shares something here. When I broke up with someone, it was a sense of releif.... there was nothing wrong or horrible about him. There wasn't anyone else, nor did anything bad happen. I just wanted out and we wanted different things. I didn't miss him either, because I had so much going on in my life and things to do that I didn't really think about it. That might sound harsh, but it was the way it was. When I've been rejected or broken up with it has taken me ages to get over.... even if he was acting like an ass!!!
  2. Well, for me, it takes more effort to be angry at someone and to do something like delete them off facebook than it does to just leave it on. Facebook can be very fickle... breakups were easier before facebook... hahaha! I just think that it's something one might regret later... Of course, this is just how I do things, (people are allowed to be different! ) I just think that by deleting someone off facebook/ my space etc there are clearly bigger issues at stake, and by deleting someone you are only wiping away the tip of the iceberg, not the big bulk of mass"issue" underneath. Not saying you have a big bulk of issues, it's just my view on people ignoring their exes or people it didn't work out with or people they used to date. Just my 2 cents on it!
  3. sorry but I think deleting and blocking people off facebook is so highschool.... or kindergarten.... peopel delete people, then add them back... ackk.. it's so childish. so my vote would be for not deleting/ blocking!
  4. 200 pounds and muscular and no facial hair? You sound divine! I certainly don't like the teddy bear look!!! I may be making a generalisation here, but I suspect that girls who don't care that their guy has a soft tummy, probably have a soft tummy themselves!
  5. WEll personally I like a clean shaven guy... and nothing wrong with being lean... much better than being overweight! I don't think you should start dressing like a grandpa in pleated trousers either! You are 28 , not 78!! I'm nearly 30 and none of my guy friends wear pleated pants, even at the workplace!
  6. ugh... I wouldn't let any guy PAY for me.. especially not spend that much ( an airfare!!) for me to go see him.. Why can't he spend the airfare on coming to see you?? if I guy did that for me.. I'd feel like he expected something in return...
  7. maybe its because you started some new birth control......
  8. why do you want to create an interest and muddle about when she is with someone else? Sounds like you are interested in her because she is unavailable and you can't have her. With everything you are describing it sounds like a game you are trying to play rather than really be interested in her. Stay away from her I say.
  9. no.. its not weird.. but she will know you are interested!
  10. I think this all depends on where you're from. In GENERAL.. Canadians and Americans are much more prude than Europeans ... notice i say in GENERAL It seems that there are more Canadian and Americans that I know that make these 'numbers' so much more of an issue than my European friends and relatives just an observation
  11. i don't get what you are feeling guilty about.......
  12. its natural to feel like that I think.. but he with YOU.. not her..
  13. I agree.. I love the weight of a man on top of me.. but if one is looking for sweet loving tenderness, cuddling and comfort.. then that sounds like that person wants more than just a casual arrangment.
  14. ha ha!! I like that...'scratch the itch' (although I have to say a 'toy' has NEVER let me down ) what about boy toys ?
  15. one would hope that someone one is sleeping with is at least using condoms...
  16. maybe not a good idea for YOU.. but from her post.. it sounds like BOTH of them want the same thing! I have been in situations where it was purely sexual and it was fine. to the OP... if you are missing that physical aspect of your relationship then I say go for it... and enjoy it! i think sex in a commited relationship can be incredible... but sometimes you just need a quick fix as well... and if both partners want the same thing.. then no one is getting hurt. When one person wants more and the other doesn't.. THEN there can be problems.. Nothing is black and white anyway..there are problems in relationships, there are problems with casual arrangements as well.. THere are also good things in both!
  17. yeah jian... you said, she replied with a short hello... I would take that as unfriendly.. not friendly. Go talk to her and see for yourself
  18. I think you are reading too much into it... maybe she does... but maybe she doesn't... I wouldn't think because she touched you shoulder that would mean she was into you though
  19. umm.. I smile and say hello to lots of people at the gym...every day.... it doesn't ,mean anything... I even *gasp* go and make conversation with guys, ask them to give me a spot... ask them about their workouts... doesn't mean a thing
  20. yeah I agree.. I don't see what giving head has to do with anything... they aren't comparable at all!!!
  21. ... or you are at an age where you want meaningless sex... is it what you want? go for it if you do... if not.. then don't!
  22. yeah the "I'm the boss.. no you're not.. yes I am.. no you're not..." sounds to me like there is a deeper issue there. I'm no relationship expert but I'm guessing you are have a strong, independent personality.. and he may feel threatened like that.. and by saying he's the boss.. he knows it makes you very angry.
  23. Well.. we only know one side of things... yours! But to me it sounds like she is being immature..or she could just not be that into it... and is using it as an excuse to be on a 'break' If it really is about what Steven said.. I think she is totally overreacting..BUT don't tell her that!!! she will only get defensive and blame you for telling him. Has Steven said anything to her since? Maybe he could tell her "I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend you.. Talshy is a good friend of mine and I hope we can all be friends"
  24. have you tried anal sex? i find positions where the guy is behind it feels tighter
  25. Well I think Steven was a bit silly for mentioning that to her in the first place!!!! What one earth possessed him to do that? If you were all really close friends.. maybe... but it seems quite odd or insensitive on HIS part that he would do that
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