The Soul's Path for Getting Over Him

Once you’ve been broken, it’s hard to put the pieces back together and get over someone. You may feel like the world has fallen in on itself and you’re stuck in an emotional black hole. As the days pass, some moments may be easier than others. One day you feel like you’re going to make it through and the next day is another crash and burn.

It’s understandable to want to run away, avoid being alone with your thoughts and pretend nothing ever happened. But these are only temporary solutions that won't help you heal in the long run. The truth is, you do need to confront these painful emotions in order to get to the other side. And yes, it might hurt—but it’s worth it.

Grief can feel so heavy that it pulls us under, but it’s important to remember that it’s a normal part of the process. It’s the letting go of all those emotions, memories and expectations that you had with that person – which means facing them head-on.

Try starting by writing down all your thoughts and feelings. Writing when we’re hurting can help us to see our pain differently and gain clarity. Then come up with a plan or strategy to focus on something small that will help you move forward, like going on a short walk or treating yourself to a new outfit.

Sometimes there can be guilt associated with getting over someone. Maybe it’s because you look back and think about what you could have done differently, or perhaps you feel like you should be honoring the memory of this person instead of moving on. But the truth is that love shouldn’t be tied to guilt or obligation. If it’s time for both of you to move on, there shouldn’t be any shame in that.

Allow yourself to express yourself freely, even if it means allowing the frustration, anger and sadness flowing through you. Crying can be cathartic, and it can help to vent these emotions out before they become too overwhelming.

Healing also doesn’t happen overnight. Don’t expect yourself to just snap out of it. Don’t compare your healing journey to anyone else’s and don’t let anyone else tell you how or when you should be getting over someone. After all, this is your experience and you need to let it happen in your own way, no matter how long it takes.

Focus on putting your energy into things that give you strength and happiness. Reach out for support from your friends and family, or seek professional help if you feel that it’s necessary. Find activities that bring out the joy in life, like reading, journaling and spending quality time with people that care about you.

Getting over someone may seem like one of the most daunting tasks you could ever face, but it’s an inevitable part of life. Take it one step at a time, listen to your heart and know that you are capable of making it through. In the end, it’s about finding the courage and determination to find a new purpose and meaning without that person. Every day is a new opportunity to embrace, and as long as you keep going you will eventually get to where you want to be.