nattz4512

I am not intentionally watching his house. My mother has dementia and spends most of the day looking out the window. She often calls me multiple times a day to verify what she's seen. Often during these times, I see him. Unfortunately, unless one or both moves, it's inevitable that we're going to see one another coming and going or in passing..sometimes..probably more often than a few. Whenever I look out the window on my own accord to relax and calm my anxieties (as I have been doing many years prior to him moving in) I sometimes see him..whenever I do then, I always move away from the window.. He and some other surrounding people in the area live without any window coverings or they have some and just leave them open..everything visible to the public. .he does this...and when he's home he has the lights on. I was waiting for my mom to return home from a doctor's appointment today. I kept a lookout for her out the window because she informed me she was 10 minutes away from home. I do not actively seek him out.

Still heartbroken over neighbor guy that I've previously posted about. It's gone on two months since we've last communicated. Today my heartbreak reached a new level when while I was waiting on my mother to return from a doctor's appointment, I saw him leave for work. Then shortly after he left, (a woman who I suspect lives with him) ...came out of the house as if to look for him...by then he wasn't in the area anymore and she went back inside.. Shortly after, he came back home ..(.perhaps he had forgotten something) and then left again. I suspect that she had called him and told him... At first, I was giving him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he wasn't lying about anything and really had been single...that since he shares a house with other guys ..that maybe she is one of their girlfriend's....but I have seen her in the window of his room a few times... When he's not there, I see the light come on and off and movement in his place. Sometimes when he returns home, I see him and her interacting..I know that it's her..she wears pink quite frequently. I keep trying to convince myself of an alternative reality where he meant everything he said, that he's just as heartbroken as I am (he is unaffected and walks around smiling and genuinely a happy aura surrounds him) that he will change, apologize, and come back to me. I am soo heartbroken and distraught. I thought I was slowly getting over him, but I realize that I was only fooling myself. It hurts to be treated with such disregard...and to have people pretend that they love and care for me, then to just ghost me and discard me like garbage. I love him. I thought he loved and cared for me. I am still very confused. Was it all pretend...even though we had over 8,000 conversations and discussions about alot of things...via text..since the beginning? Up until he blocked me, whenever I called, he would always answer or get back to me when he could. He still watches my house going to work... Was it all for nothing?? I just don't understand. Everyday I struggle to respect his wishes and not confront him.. It's hard to let go...especially when he lives in such close proximity. I want to move on, but I don't know if I am capable or will ever. Maybe I'll be one of those people who never move on. Despite what many might think...there are things each one of us will never move on from. I feel like I deserve the hurt and pain. Maybe it's my fault that I been used, and discarded like trash.. he isn't the first to do such a thing to me. I cry.

I take care of she and I both...mainly..as we reside together. I walk with a cane, and due to heart problems..I tend to tire out very quickly. Family members pitch in when they can. .and provide roundtrip transportation for her doctor's appointments. Despite her health problems, she is still fairly independent...so on my downtime when she doesn't need me, I am resting somewhere in the house. Unless I am stressed or anxious, my personal time with the window is reserved for night and when mom is asleep.

Yes. She and I live together.

I'm physically and mentally disabled and limited. I will forever be unemployed, and a large portion of my life will be spent indoors. The only connections I have to the outside world are via internet and watching from a window. I feel like I'm done with dating and relationships. Just doing my best to try and move on from him..if possible.. I am still very hurt and confused. I am working towards accepting this and respecting his wishes. It may have been real, fake, or a combination...idk..the bottom line is he doesn't want me nor the relationship any longer..even though his approach towards ending things were hurtful..I must respect it. Which is why I haven't approached him. It will take time

I'm a caregiver for my mother, and I have physical and mental health issues. I am bedbound a lot. I also have social anxiety, ptsd and don't really like being around people. I tried online therapy with multiple therapists..it wasn't helpful...and they all blamed me for my problems and life. They all told me it's my fault that I had experienced abuse..so I stopped. Now mainly I use support forums on mental health websites...

I am not spying on him. I didn't follow my intution and followed the advice of many posters on different forums...the majority told me it was my fault and that I was the blame..that he was a good guy, that I should go for it, that he was just assertive and going after what he wanted, that it's my fault that I don't know what a good guy is, etc... all kinds of things that I took into consideration and was convinced that maybe I should. So I did. It did take off. Shortly after we were officially in a relationship. I am a victim. He pretended to be into me, made all kinds of promises that I see now were empty, and out of nowhere ghosted me. It's not my fault the last time we were in communication was our last visit ..which went well. We laughed, talked, were initimate, talked some more, discussed moving in together, discussed finances and things related to moving in, etc.....we were having a good time just talking afterwards.. we didn't notice how late it had gotten. . We talked almost 5 hours..he was due for work soon after and wanted to head back to go to sleep. He kissed me goodbye, told me he loved me and was excited for our future together. He told me he would call and see me the next day. That was 3 weeks ago.. It's not my fault he did that to me. It's his fault he chose to lie and ghost me. I do love him.

No. I've been looking out the window years before he moved in. Looking out the window has always been relaxing and calming for me...as I deal with anxieties, ptsd, and panic attacks... Also looking out the window has always been my one of my primary connections to the outside world..as I often am indoors. Well it use to be calming..now it's nerve wrecking and sometimes triggering after this situation.. Now everytime that I try and find relief and relax looking out the window...I see him often.. we live in close proximity. I am bound to run into him and see him sometimes.. Also, it doesn't help that my mother has dementia and looks out the window often.. spends most of her days looking out the window and calling me multiple times to confirm and verify what she's seen...often as I am checking for her..I see him. .. It's not deliberate. Only once it was deliberate..and that was only when I was verifying if he was still physically alive, after the first or second day of him not communicating with me. I was concerned that something may have happened to him..because normally we were communicating daily..and he would often initiate the exchange. Once I verified he was physically okay. I stopped dilberately looking. Like today, I was certain he was at work and I went to look out the window, and shortly after, he opened up his window and he was shirtless and starting looking out the window himself. I only saw that because I was looking at something (a cat) running across the busy street. I was absolutely panicked and concerned for the cat.. after I stopped looking at the cat...I turned and noticed him. I always try to hide and not be noticed when I spot him. I don't want him to think it's deliberate and think I'm thinking of him.. It doesn't help that he looks at my home often still

He lives in close proximity and leaves his blinds open all the time, and most of the time the lights on. Saturdays are his only days off from work (allegedly) which I dread. It was in the evening time and dark outside when I witnessed these things.

It's been about 3 weeks of non communication between neighbor guy and I and I still feel horrible and miss him. I still love him. I don't know how to move on or if I ever can. . Some people are unable to move on no matter the length of time. It doesn't help that we live in close proximity to one another and today was another day that I witnessed another woman in his place of residence. She had sleep attire on, and I am certain that I saw him and her kiss and spoon. I guess all he ever told me in regards to us being and building a life together was a lie. I really wish that he had meant everything he told me. I was hoping that he was a good guy and finally the one who wouldn't use and hurt me like the rest..but he did. I guess I was used Yet again for someone's ego boost. My past relationships have all been the same.. Someone with very little self confidence and esteem, sweeping me off my feet and giving me empty promises..only to ghost me.. and somehow very quickly gaining esteem getting into another relationship, and quickly marrying that person. Like I am a practice person. I'm guess I'm the one who they practice "perfecting" their "game on". Tremendously. I was probably right about him only fetishizing me. His preference seems to be women who is of a certain descent ...same as he. Is there a chance that he could have still meant everything he said to me and really was into me?? Tbh, I often think about catching him coming home allegedly from work and talking to him. I honestly think about caving in all of the time. It's extremely difficult to move on.

I also feel badly for not following my intuition earlier on. I posted about him previously on here and different forum sites..about the red flags he was displaying...and the majority of advice givers basically told me that I was overreacting, and that I was the problem. So I convinced myself of this, and followed their advice, and gave him a chance... It may have been possible to avoid this heartbreak...if I had just trusted myself.

Unfortunately, she seems like a scammer and user... and perhaps found someone with more to offer... Such as a way out of her country and life in the time-frame she wanted. I'm sorry.

Do you oppose abortion or adoption? I recommend planning as though you'll be a single mother. It's easy for him to give advice when the baby isn't here yet. Once the baby arrives, you'll truly see how he handles it and if he's involved. What would you do if, heaven forbid, the baby has severe health issues or disabilities requiring constant care? You're unsure if he's actively involved in his other children's lives and if he's been consistently present for them. Consider finding another job or multiple jobs, and perhaps reducing contact with the oldest child as he might disappear from your life. I doubt he'll be around much, if at all, and even if he is, I don't think he'll contribute much or handle the daily demands of caring for a baby. I don't envision him waking up for night feedings or attending to the baby's needs at night, especially if he has work the next day. I don't envision him running after and entertaining a toddler. I don't envision him handling school visits, homework, school friends, other events and activities. I don't envision him dealing with some challenges that may come in the teenaged years..if he's still around. I don't envision him having much money, nor still working .. for the continuation of education or trade school, weddings or whatever. I don't see him being much of a disciplinarian. Have you thought about the possibility of your child being ashamed and embarrassed by the both of you, and how it might negatively impact them...even socially?? Dealing with a crying, fussy baby might be challenging for both of you. What would you both do if you lost your jobs? Are you considering living together? Can either or both of you afford childcare, given that you both work? Can you financially support a baby? Are you both genuinely in a committed relationship? If marriage is important to you, he may not be the right partner. Life is unpredictable, what will happen if something happens to one or both of you? What happens if one or both become physically limited and disabled from illness or injury?? Personally, I don't think you should continue with the pregnancy...I feel adoption would be best if it's too late. I sincerely hope things work out well for you.

It's been 3 weeks since a person that I thought really cared and loved me "ghosted" me. It still hurts everyday...It doesn't help any that we live in close proximity to one another. It doesn't help that unless one of us passes or moves...we'll have to see and randomly bump into one another for the remainder of our lives. No matter how many times I try to move on and think I'm making slight progress...All the emotions and hurt come flooding back... I can't even enjoy looking out of my window as I often did to relax...because most of the time I do, I see him either coming or going. My anxieties flare up and I have mini panic attacks when it gets closer to the time he is due home from work. I feel used, ugly, disgusting, and disposable. Maybe it's my fault he lied and ghosted me. I feel like he fetishized me, and used me to experience someone from a different culture, country, and disabled..who's convient and lonely. All the women he follows on social media (before I blocked him) are of the same culture as him, big boobs, in shape, feminine, nicely styled, head full of hair, nice clothes, nice teeth etc... poloar opposites of me. Maybe if I looked like them, and had an actual engaging life, he wouldn't have dropped me. It bothers me that he is unaffected. He's cheery and happy. Walks around smiling. Had a good time with friends over his place last weekend. . It doesn't help that he leaves the window either open, or in a highly visible state, with the lights on when he's home. I feel bamboozled. I just want a happy ending with someone who genuinely cares for me. I had to endure a life of misery and pain, where's my happy ending to make up or convince me the suffering was worth it in the end?? Everyone that I've ever dated has done this to me. Pretended, ghosted me, some discarded me, and quickly got in relationships that lead to marriage. I'm tired of being taken for a fool and a toy. I guess I'm everyone's crash test dummy I feel deep shame and embarrassment.

Be cautious...You might wind up like me....