Can I Get Back My Love of Almost 2 Years?

Heartbreak is a nasty emotion to grapple with; we all go through it and it can take months, even years to get out from beneath its suffocating weight. If you have recently gone through a break up with somebody you loved and care deeply for, firstly, please allow yourself to cry, yell, and feel upset. That is perfectly OK! Secondly, it may be timely and beneficial to consider your next move and look at ways which might help in easing the pain and forming a plan forward.

Many of us reach a state of limbo after a breakup and might feel uncertain, scared, and confused about our next move. We ask ourselves such questions as: ‘Do I want to try to win back my love?’ ‘Is this something I should attempt or avoid?’ Unfortunately, there is no one size fits all answer but here are some tips to help provide some clarity in navigating through the muddle of emotions and decisions that come with a breakup:

Firstly, it is important to allow yourself the time and space to really understand and work through your own feelings and emotions. Too often, we rush into things without understanding our own thoughts and feelings about the situation and this can often leave us feeling frustrated and helpless. Taking the time to evaluate your emotions and why you feel a certain way can be incredibly helpful when figuring out the course of action that is right for you.

Second, spend some time reflecting on the relationship itself. Is it something worth fighting for? Without putting too much pressure on yourself, take some time to really think about what went wrong and what could be improved if the relationship were to be reignited. If there were issues in the relationship which could not be repaired, then it may be best to accept that it is healthier for you in the long run to move on.

Thirdly, leverage the help of trusted friends and family. It's commonsensical to receive help and support after a breakup - it means we don't have to face the tough emotions alone. Venting to others, whether they are close friends, family members or even professional counsellors, can be liberating, help us to get clarity, and can give us the perspective to determine what is the right and healthy option for us.

Fourthly, once you have gone through these steps and your emotions have become more manageable, only then is it recommended to attempt making contact with that special someone to explain how you feel, respectfully and thoughtfully. Whether or not the both of you decide to reunite, this honest dialogue will help you both to move on, and either closure or a recaptured bond will go a long way in restoring a sense of peace and happiness.

After going through a difficult breakup, you may feel exhausted and lost, but remember it is always worthwhile to process your emotions and gain insight before any kind of action is taken. It will certainly help to arm you with the information you need to decide what is the best way forward for you.