not sure where to put this topic . . .incest and me

[mysteryman22]

This is my story of my love. Oh I still love her. It sounds surreal, I know. I want to tell the story properly so sorry if its a little on the lond side. This one still has a lot more to it but it is more to the point. Comment are welcome but thats not the point of why I am doing this, this is something dearly close to me and I need to let it out. It is a long read so sorry to those whom don't like reading long threads. My apologise to you. For the rest of you who want to know my story, then read on.

 

Oh and Happy X Mas everyone too. Next yr the dead will be born again.

 

I was in love, with a lady that I met over texting. I Was in a wap room when she caught my eye and I started texting her. She sounded really nice, warm, funny and down to earth. ANyway, we started chatting that evening and I really liked her, I gave her my number and said that id text her sometime. That night once I left, I was full of warm feelings. I can remember now, laying in my bed, feeling the cold, wrapping my duvet around me to keep the cold out and having the mobile in my hand not knowing whether to text her or not. I eventually gave her a text, something like "hi u there?" just as an ice breaker really to see if she would actually reply. It was exciting. I wanted to get to know her a lil bit more, she seemed nice, down to earth and someone who you could talk about things with. I can remember the feelings that I felt, I didnt really know what to say but I did want to chat to her. Well I relaxed and we ended up chatting all night.

 

A few weeks past and we were still texting, every minute of every day, it was the first thing I did when I woke up and the Last thing I did when going to bed. We did it when doing washing, going to work, at work, around friends, when shopping - anywhere! we were inseperatable. I can still remember now, our first fall out, it was over something that I had said to her, I can't remember exactly what I said but it came out as if she was a loose woman. By this time it was about 6 months since we had met and we were getting close. I had feelings for her as a friend. She got angry and I was devastated, I even cried! I know how this sounds but I really felt for her, she was just like any other woman, telling me things, me telling her things, just like two best friends.

 

Anyway, we started getting very deep, she always asked me why I was so happy? She kept asking there must be something that makes you unhappy? Well to be honest I didn't even think I was unhappy, I was too chilled a person to think about anything like that, life is too short for moaning anyway. We started to know things about one another, day after day, week after week we built up an overview of each others life, some things that we told each other we would definitely not tell anyone else. I found that she had a rough life, she was extremely beautifu, with black hair and blue eyes and rather down with her bf passing away. She had a bf currently, who she adored. Thinking about it she was more interested in me though than him. He was within her ethnic group, was smart and had a good career. They both were extremly well off, is the way I put it. She would text me morning, noon and night. Sometime she didn;t text me but I knew that was cos she was working, or with him. I didn't mind, two lovers eh, nothing to worry about, it happens. Then I started getting confused. Feelings, feelings that I had never experienced before came to life. I think I started feeling for her.

 

 

Her parents, as she told me, were persisting her to get married to this lad, he was beautiful and well presented and had a good career to - he would fit nicely into the family structure. She told me that her parents were pressurising her to get married, as like I said, they probably did this as they knew her ex commited suicide and past away, which left her devasted. It made me feel for her more. She asked for my help and I said basically go with your heart. She left him, saying it wasnt what she wanted. Which I knew was the truth anyway.

 

6 months had passed now and we really did know each other a hell of a lot more. We still didn't know we felt so much for one another but it was going perfect as it was, tbh love with her was the last thing that was on my mind. She was my friend, my best friend. She told me a lot of things. That a man came onto her, he couldn't resist her beauty and when they danced he had a erection which made her laugh. She told me they had sex. A few nights after that everything changed. I remember it clearly. I was at univeristy, I had gotten home was relaxing and had a text from her. She was upset, which made me upset as I am the type of person who likes to please everyone. Anyway, I asked what was wrong, why she was upset. She had been drinking, which made her emotions more highetened than before.

 

Anyway, she told me that she thought she was in love with someone who she shouldn't have been with. Someone who she didn't know what to do or to say. Suddenly, a surge of excitement and adreneline had hit me, I was outside having a cigarrete pacing like a mad man lol. I wanted to know one thing. Who was this man? More importantly, was this man me! How my sense realised what had happened. I was wishing she would say me. I was hoping she would say it. But she didnt. She didnt know what to do. I wasnt willing to wait and ask her another time. I was too damn curious by now. I wanted to know, and I wanted to know right now. Was it me!? Oh please.

 

I picked up the courage to ask, knowing that if she had said no that everything would have collapsed, our strong friendship would never be the same again. I asked her remembering going under a bridge at night, the glowing yellow lights under the street tunnel shining over me and I asked her. "precious, is it me who you love?". She was shocked. By this time I knew how to read peoples emotions by the words that they used. It was a gift that I developed. She laughed "haha omg! moo. erm erm". (I dont know the exact phrase she used but it was similar to that, nothing too harsh but something just a lil joke, like we used to play with each other). I asked again, "come on precious, is it me? oh have I made a fool of myself?" then I got a reply. I couldn't wait to read it, i was like a kid in toysRus at xmas wanting that gift. If that makes sense. I closed my eyes and read the text. It said one word. "yes".

 

THat was the most amazing word that was said to me. Yes. Yes I love you. I couldn't believe it. What was I doing, its over text for gods sake, but then I did know this lady, very well. She had been hurt in the past, had a traumatic life, I loved her so much, she was smart, witty and knew what she wanted to do. Plus she had many businessess and clubs which I was just so gawed about, she was fantastic, a smart funny, beautiful women with businesses, I love a women to have independance its fantastic. For the sceptics right now, I know how this sounds but I have back up of everything, so I know what she told me was the truth. Anyway, that night, we just talked, told each other we loved each other, well I did. But she was reluctant to say it as "those three dreaded words" meant a lot, especially asher ex had passed away which she was mad over heals in love with, they would still be together right now if he hadnt died. It did make me think sometimss, but I understood. She told me about how they had met and what he was like, was hard to listen to but it helped so much in understanding her situation. I loved her more and more.

 

We got REALLY close emotionally and bonded like glue. Anyway, over time, we didnt even think of meeting, with hignsight I know she wanted to meet me now, her brother texted me telling me she couldnt wait to see me and hold me. He told me that he hadn't seen her like this over a boy ever. But it was never to be. Pain and suffering was to come. It was about a yr that we were still texting and one night she suddenly seemed distant, as if someone had taken her mind to a far away planet in shock, awe and confusion. Like a brick had just hit her. I asked her what was up, that I was there for her whenever she needed me - a promise that I kept up until recently, as you shall see. I asked her again, and again, and again. It was odd, she kept quite. Didnt want to tell me as she was scared what I would think and be ashamed. I asked her that nothing would happen, "tell me precious, whats wrong lovely? whats on your mind!?" I said.

 

There was a sudden pause and she said things. things like "oh Im scared, i dont want to lose you;-( Im worried sick, oh i dont know what to do moo I dont!!!". I knew something serious had happened. She was never like this before, not that I can remember. Anyway, I asked her and told her everything will be fine, just tell me. She did. She said that her twin brother had been hitting on her. I moved back, WHAT!!!! did I hear that correctly?? twin brother what, how, eh, why, OMG. that is what went through my mind. I just couldnt seem to sink it in. It hit like a rock. Making sure that I was there for her I comforted her, told her to tell me the full story. She did. She told me how he had been after her for a few weeks now, how she had resisted him, knowing full well how disgusting it was. She was very upset, confused and I guess traumatised with what was happening. Worse was still to come. Pain, suffering and sacrifice. I remember when she told me, I was coming back from work - I didn't know what to do. I wasn't going to lose her, well not without a fight. I knew at that time how much she cared and loved me. It was impossible to let go.

 

The next few days, the next few weeks even were very emotionally draining. I was excellent at giving advice, but this was something that I had not come accross. Incest was something that I didn't even know at that time, it was an alien concept to me. Why, oh why would someone want to do that. It was disgusting. Anyway, he kept coming on to her, slowly, bit by bit, step by step. I could see he was tryingto influence her, change her mind into his way of thinking. It was extremely upsetting, I didn't want to lose her, she was special and I knew we could have had a long term relationship living happily together. It was just so surreal. My best friend, my special friend - what was happening! Anyway, a few days had past and she was getting more upset, she told me that they were play fighting and that he had tried to kiss her. My mind, my heart was being plummeted. Surely she wouldnt be the same, think the same as he did.

 

Oh the rest will take too long, I will finish it another time.

 

"> said her twin brother was trying it on with her. I was shocked and yet I stil cared. She said she loved me and wanted me. Said she could see us grwing old together. I tried to help her with the twin issue but he was so persistent. He wouldnt let go. I texted her other bro and he said they always were close, eventually i got his number from my love and she wanted me to ask him to stop saying these things. I tried my best but he wasnt having any of it. Time went buy, days, weeks and he started doing things like when they play fight he'd kiss her or when she was having a shower he would go inside naked or when he would constantly tell her how beautiful she was and oh you get the picture. She tried to commit suicide because she felt so depressed.

 

I still loving her, loving her so much that I could do anyting in order to stop her from hurting, I helped her as best as i could. We still hadnt met. But he was getting closer and closer, he was playing real mind games with her trying to change her to his way of thinking. A few weeks past and she was upset. . she said they were play fighting and that they kissed;-( that really hurt me. THey kissed and she was confused, she said she didint know what happened. ANyway, time went on and he kept on persisting. She was my loved one, my best friend who was also who i loved. i owuld do anything for her. not let a pulse in her body feel pain is what i wanted, i wanted her to be happy, if that meant me not being.

 

Anyway, cutting it short, a few weeks past by this time id known her for nearly 1 and half to 2 years, still madly in love and still not met. One night she came all off on me, i knew she had something on her mind but wasnt quite sure what, i had a very good idea what but i wasnt going to say it, in case it hurt her. I asked and I asked her what it was that was on her mind but she neglected to tell me saying it was tooooo personal. I persisted in asking, she still didnt say and thinking hte worse had happened i finally asked her did she sleep with her twin. she said no and got very angry. i apologised knowing that she was lying and that she was very upset. she finnaly said it;-( she said she was upset, went to her bed room and in came the twin;-( she said that he comforted as she was crying and that oh i rememeber these words clearly, i dont like them but i have to say them. She said htat he kissed her on the forehead;-( then on the cheek;-( and that on the lips with which she replied in the moment of it all and they had intercourse!!!!! with her own brother, her twin. I was shocked and i, for the first time was speechless.

 

I still loved her, my heart, it was as it wanted to come out of my chest. It stung. again we were still only texting, but i knew she was the one and thoguht she thought the same, which she said numerous times and her older brother said numerous time that she told him that she couldnt wait to meet me in person. all i wanted to do was to hold her close, touch her lips with mine and give her a long long warm hug. anyway, she said she was upset and was really panicked about the situation. she said she felt awful, disgusted and that she wanted to be dead. She also said that the first thing that came to her mind when they finished intercourse was me and how she had blown any chances of us ever being together. i said it was ok and that i still loved her dearly. She was so upset but i stood by her, even then. saying that we will get through this. i was still very hurt and coming to terms with things. my mind went a bit love blind. i said, short term pain for long term gain. we could and would get through this, i had enuf love in us for the two of us to get through this. she wasnt having it she said she knew it was over. anyway time went on i was still texting and so was she. we went on and off going into a relationship and again we not met.

 

She contiued having intercourse with her brother, her twin. I didnt know what to do, i couldnt take itanymore, it was too much even for me, knowing that the one i loved was being held by another man that happenede to be her brother. oh. i went along with things hoping that she would see sense. she didnt. she was getting really upset as she was really confused by now, not knowing whether to go for me or her bro as she started faliing in love with him. She started comparing us both. me still in with the long term i stayed with it knowing that we would get through this. eventually she got really depressed and i knew something or someone had to back down. not one of us wanted to, i loved her for all the world and more. my heart pounded everytime i talked to her and thought about her. again we did not meet. I knew that i had to do something so knowing that I would lose my gem, maybe for good i, i said i couldnt text anymore and she was really upset. I did it for her, it was the most hardest thing i ever had to do, i cried and wept all night for a long long time.

 

A few months past and i was seriously heart broken, not knowing how she is, was she ok? did she miss me? did she love me? all those things. My mind was a mess i couldnt think properly and i just wanted her, beside me in bed, around the table, in the park holding hands, whatever. I picked up corouge and texted her, she was overjoyed it was me. found that she was still with her twin and that something new happened. they had had a baby boy that they put up for adoption for obvious reasons. I just couldnt take listening to that firstly because she was still with him and didt bother finding me and secodnly because she was stupid enough to have a kid with her bro. I know the answers to both of these as i know her very well but thats too deep to say.

 

ANyway, we texted for about a month and i couldnt take it nor could she as she still loved me. I left again and again i was heart brocken, wounds opened up. this was like 3 years since we knew eachother. again a few months past and last october i texted again for the same reasons of missing her. And again the same, she was still with him, which made me both annoyed and angry as i thought she would have seen sense and be with me. but i know the reasons y she scared and probably just sees me as a nother blike now.

 

Anyway since last october 05 i aint texted her and she not me as the last time i did she started lying and saying that the time under the bridge when she was scared to tell the person who she loved was really me and that she used me ot get her bro jealous, she said that to make me go. she changed but i knew the lady who i knew was still there, all confused with the persistent twin and that she couldnt breathe with all the emotions. I left and from then i aint talked to her again. I still love her though and everyday since we met iv thought about her.

 

why is she still with him!!! why?

 

WHY! why does my heart still seek her, why does my heart still feel her pain? i keep thinking that did she really love me? that since we never met should i pop into her life? that will she still be with him? is she ok? is she happy, truly happy. The answer is that I dont know and it makes me very upset and longing to know. I still feel for her and love her but its too hard to talk to her. i dont know, i guess i am as confused as she is. All i know is well i wish i had another chance and i wish that she didnt do what she did. it hurt. i could get over it but she was scared saying that she knew that if we slept together id be thinking of him and that wud i ever think of them two, u understand? my heart answered that question, i loved her with every inch of my body and there was nothign to worry about. I know that its left a dint and that im finding it hard to let people in.

 

The reason why i did this is that i needed to let it out. its my way of dealing with it i guess. And no commmetns about that she didint love me as it is extremely hard to explain that she did unless uv actually been in a similar situation. Anyway i cant stop thinking about her, my heart is recovering but slowly, im worried about her and me, will i love again . . only time will tell, will i love as much as i loved her, i dont think so. she was my one and only. with respect

[Scout]

Hi, and welcome to eNotalone. Is it possible you could break your post up into paragraphs? It's very long and with no separated sections, i.e., paragraphs, quite difficult to follow. And we want to make sure you get a lot of responses, which your eye-grabbing title might get anyway, lol, but you get the idea. Thanks.

[mysteryman22]

its the best i can do . . did this a few days ago

 

I was in love, with a lady that I met over texting. I Was in a wap room when she caught my eye and started texting her. She sounded really nice, warm, funny and down to earth. ANyway, started chatting that evening and I really liked her, gave her my number and said id text her sometime. That night once I left i gave her a text to get to know her a lil bit, she was nice. We ended up chatting all night.

 

A few weeks past and we were still texting, every minute of the day, when doing washing, going to work, at work, anywhere, we were inseperatable. We started getting very deep and started to know thing about one another. I found that she had a rough life, she was extremely beautiful and rather down with her bf passing away. She told me a lot of things and that day she told me that she had feelings, really deep feelings for someone but she didint know what to do as she was scared. At that time I had feelings for her, i can remember now, going under a bridge and texting her, asking her who it was, getting very anxious, wsa it me? I picked up courage and asked her if it was me? she said yes but was scared to say, by that time we still hadnt met and were texting for about 5 and half months. Anyway i was overjoyed and told her that.

 

We got REALLY close emotionally and bonded like glue. was about a yr still texting and she seemed odd, said her twin brother was trying it on with her. I was shocked and yet I stil cared. She said she loved me and wanted me. Said she could see us grwing old together. I tried to help her with the twin issue but he was so persistent. He wouldnt let go. I texted her other bro and he said they always were close, eventually i got his number from my love and she wanted me to ask him to stop saying these things. I tried my best but he wasnt having any of it. Time went buy, days, weeks and he started doing things like when they play fight he'd kiss her or when she was having a shower he would go inside naked or when he would constantly tell her how beautiful she was and oh you get the picture. She tried to commit suicide because she felt so depressed.

 

I still loving her, loving her so much that I could do anyting in order to stop her from hurting, I helped her as best as i could. We still hadnt met. But he was getting closer and closer, he was playing real mind games with her trying to change her to his way of thinking. A few weeks past and she was upset. . she said they were play fighting and that they kissed;-( that really hurt me. THey kissed and she was confused, she said she didint know what happened. ANyway, time went on and he kept on persisting. She was my loved one, my best friend who was also who i loved. i owuld do anything for her. not let a pulse in her body feel pain is what i wanted, i wanted her to be happy, if that meant me not being.

 

Anyway, cutting it short, a few weeks past by this time id known her for nearly 1 and half to 2 years, still madly in love and still not met. One night she came all off on me, i knew she had something on her mind but wasnt quite sure what, i had a very good idea what but i wasnt going to say it, in case it hurt her. I asked and I asked her what it was that was on her mind but she neglected to tell me saying it was tooooo personal. I persisted in asking, she still didnt say and thinking hte worse had happened i finally asked her did she sleep with her twin. she said no and got very angry. i apologised knowing that she was lying and that she was very upset. she finnaly said it;-( she said she was upset, went to her bed room and in came the twin;-( she said that he comforted as she was crying and that oh i rememeber these words clearly, i dont like them but i have to say them. She said htat he kissed her on the forehead;-( then on the cheek;-( and that on the lips with which she replied in the moment of it all and they had intercourse!!!!! with her own brother, her twin. I was shocked and i, for the first time was speechless.

 

I still loved her, my heart, it was as it wanted to come out of my chest. It stung. again we were still only texting, but i knew she was the one and thoguht she thought the same, which she said numerous times and her older brother said numerous time that she told him that she couldnt wait to meet me in person. all i wanted to do was to hold her close, touch her lips with mine and give her a long long warm hug. anyway, she said she was upset and was really panicked about the situation. she said she felt awful, disgusted and that she wanted to be dead. She also said that the first thing that came to her mind when they finished intercourse was me and how she had blown any chances of us ever being together. i said it was ok and that i still loved her dearly. She was so upset but i stood by her, even then. saying that we will get through this. i was still very hurt and coming to terms with things. my mind went a bit love blind. i said, short term pain for long term gain. we could and would get through this, i had enuf love in us for the two of us to get through this. she wasnt having it she said she knew it was over. anyway time went on i was still texting and so was she. we went on and off going into a relationship and again we not met.

 

She contiued having intercourse with her brother, her twin. I didnt know what to do, i couldnt take itanymore, it was too much even for me, knowing that the one i loved was being held by another man that happenede to be her brother. oh. i went along with things hoping that she would see sense. she didnt. she was getting really upset as she was really confused by now, not knowing whether to go for me or her bro as she started faliing in love with him. She started comparing us both. me still in with the long term i stayed with it knowing that we would get through this. eventually she got really depressed and i knew something or someone had to back down. not one of us wanted to, i loved her for all the world and more. my heart pounded everytime i talked to her and thought about her. again we did not meet. I knew that i had to do something so knowing that I would lose my gem, maybe for good i, i said i couldnt text anymore and she was really upset. I did it for her, it was the most hardest thing i ever had to do, i cried and wept all night for a long long time.

 

A few months past and i was seriously heart broken, not knowing how she is, was she ok? did she miss me? did she love me? all those things. My mind was a mess i couldnt think properly and i just wanted her, beside me in bed, around the table, in the park holding hands, whatever. I picked up corouge and texted her, she was overjoyed it was me. found that she was still with her twin and that something new happened. they had had a baby boy that they put up for adoption for obvious reasons. I just couldnt take listening to that firstly because she was still with him and didt bother finding me and secodnly because she was stupid enough to have a kid with her bro. I know the answers to both of these as i know her very well but thats too deep to say.

 

ANyway, we texted for about a month and i couldnt take it nor could she as she still loved me. I left again and again i was heart brocken, wounds opened up. this was like 3 years since we knew eachother. again a few months past and last october i texted again for the same reasons of missing her. And again the same, she was still with him, which made me both annoyed and angry as i thought she would have seen sense and be with me. but i know the reasons y she scared and probably just sees me as a nother blike now.

 

Anyway since last october 05 i aint texted her and she not me as the last time i did she started lying and saying that the time under the bridge when she was scared to tell the person who she loved was really me and that she used me ot get her bro jealous, she said that to make me go. she changed but i knew the lady who i knew was still there, all confused with the persistent twin and that she couldnt breathe with all the emotions. I left and from then i aint talked to her again. I still love her though and everyday since we met iv thought about her.

 

why is she still with him!!! why?

 

WHY! why does my heart still seek her, why does my heart still feel her pain? i keep thinking that did she really love me? that since we never met should i pop into her life? that will she still be with him? is she ok? is she happy, truly happy. The answer is that I dont know and it makes me very upset and longing to know. I still feel for her and love her but its too hard to talk to her. i dont know, i guess i am as confused as she is. All i know is well i wish i had another chance and i wish that she didnt do what she did. it hurt. i could get over it but she was scared saying that she knew that if we slept together id be thinking of him and that wud i ever think of them two, u understand? my heart answered that question, i loved her with every inch of my body and there was nothign to worry about. I know that its left a dint and that im finding it hard to let people in.

 

The reason why i did this is that i needed to let it out. its my way of dealing with it i guess. And no commmetns about that she didint love me as it is extremely hard to explain that she did unless uv actually been in a similar situation. Anyway i cant stop thinking about her, my heart is recovering but slowly, im worried about her and me, will i love again . . only time will tell, will i love as much as i loved her, i dont think so. she was my one and only. with respect

[kickedin]

i am sorry thats either a total bs post or the carziest thing i have ever heard

[Scout]

You'd be surprised kickedin...there's some crazy stuff out there.

 

Mysteryman, eeks. I think you should remove yourself from this disturbing situation. If they are crazy enough to be involved with each other, who knows what crazy things her twin might do out of jealousy to you?

 

This is bad, bad news. Talk about a red flag. RUN.

[mysteryman22]

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[mysteryman22]

not bs mate, its the truth. Why would you say that?

[mysteryman22]

Iv tried before, every time i left and come back iv been in conflict with him, he is so persistent!

 

He even told her lies about me to get her to think his way. I know that when iv been gone he has been poisoning her mind against me but oh i dont know.

 

What a mess

[Beec]

It's a mess, but you have a choice. You don't have to stay in the mess.

 

How can someone really love you, when they are sleepign with someone else. She is choosing to to that. And that should be message enough for you.

[mysteryman22]

yeah i know that beec, that is something i think, but its in the back of my mind.

 

I also know that she loves me, or maybe I just say that to comfort me. I know that I don't want her to be hurt, that is 110%.

 

I keep thinking the what ifs, the buts, coulds, woulds . . you know. I know this will sound strange but sometimes i even think she is around me. i know sounds strange, very difficult to explain.

 

oh I know, i guess it was a one way connection

[mysteryman22]

why am i still upset, i mean its been a yr since we last chatted, which only lastsed for about 3 weeks anyway.

 

She did ask me if we would want to meet but also said that the other thing i.e. her baby would be there. and thats not something you'd want.

 

its just like, i know what is upsetting me, my dreams of the perfect lady have been shattered.

[mysteryman22]

im also like upset because we were the best mate, and now when she probably needs me the most to help her through things im not there for her. Im really not sure if i should contact her again and face yet another conflict and possible pain from it.

[RayKay]

Um this is very disturbing...

 

So you never met her? How do you know she is even whom she says she is? And she isn't someone lying to get a rise out of you?

 

Whether she is a liar, or this is true, it shows she is SERIOUSLY messed up. Why would you want to be with someone that toxic and whom clearly does not respect or love you as she is sleeping with someone else (and having babies with someone else) (never mind fact it is her brother).

 

Really, time to move on...and far, far away from this girl.

[LONESOUL]

Hi~I agree with Raykay, really very disturbing. You need to walk away from this person. This is a very confused woman, I see only hurt coming to you from this situation. You really must consider yourself in this "mess"

You must want better for you.

Take good care

Lone

[mysteryman22]

Can I ask why you would think it is disturbing? I dont mind, end day it will help me see a different perspective, which i really need right now.

 

Yeah i hear what you are saying and I appreciate the comments, i guess i am thinking back to a time when she was ok.

 

As for being messed up, well i do love her and like i said we had opportunities to meet but just didint. I had uni to go to and she had work. I know u probably say they are excuses but oh its hard to explain. I guess I hear what you say and I should leave it at that.

 

What about thinking about her all the time, thats something i cant seem to get past. I keep feeling for her, maybe is it cos we never met? or something more. Meeting is all just another story. I have actually thought of going to see her. but i wont. I know she needs a lot of help and that what makes me want to see her, i.e. to see if she is ok. She has lost everyone close to her you know, friends, family, had her car sprayed "INCEST TWINS" i just feel for her and want to help her. i dont know.

[ImThatGirl]

It's disturbing for many reasons but mostly because:

 

You are attracted to this girl that is in a relationship with her twin brother.

 

Obviously (to me,) she has mental issues. Why she would choose her twin brother is beyond my understanding. But it in itself is entirely disturbing.

 

Here are the facts:

She has made no effort to make a relationship with you.

She stays with her brother even though she is clearly being harassed. She even had a child with her twin brother.

She's not contacting you out of the blue.

She's not asking for your help.

 

This is out of your hands, mate.

 

You are in love with an illusion. Someone that you only talked to on the phone. (and text.) Maybe you feel you need to help her but she is out of your reach. She has serious issues and you should be running for the hills and be happy to detach yourself from her and her issues.

[ImThatGirl]

And I'm not saying this to offend you but I question your mentality level because you are stuck thinking about this girl. Because you are unable to see the level of why this is disturbing.

 

Have you consulted with a counselor?

[mysteryman22]

And I'm not saying this to offend you but I question your mentality level because you are stuck thinking about this girl. Because you are unable to see the level of why this is disturbing.

 

Have you consulted with a counselor?

 

you know, it was so real. I know its a difficult concept to grasp unless you have actually been or had a cyber relationship, its exactly the same with texting. The worst part was when she said some things which made me fall to the floor. That was when i knew that nothing was going to happen.

 

I don't take things personally, I appreciate the comments and everything helps. TO answer your question I am in perfect mental health. I really care for anyone who comes in my path, it is just the way I am and have been brought up and guided through my religion.

 

It is not as if I cant see those disturbing facts, brother and sister having intercourse, I really get upset thinking about that as it not only affects her but her family and now her kid! which last time I knew was going to be adopted, who knows how that has gone. I am not a fool either, just I guess as they say, really truley love blind. I really appreciated your comments thank you and this is really helping, I have closed myself down in the past but not anymore. I think like you say, it is time to move on. This is my way of allowing me to make that move. I know sounds strange.

[ImThatGirl]

Doesn't sound strange at all.

 

I'm guessing this is not something that you are able to open up to everyone about.

 

I applaud you for moving in the right direction and attempting to work through this.

 

Sad as it is for those of us that want to help others, at some point, we have to determine the personal cost and weight for ourselves and let some people go.

[musicguy]

yeah.....that girl seems pretty messed up.

[mysteryman22]

No, i have tried to talk to people about it but its so difficult, with it being a lady i aint seen and only texted and then to top it off that she is u know with her twin, kinda not the thing Ican talk easily about to people.

 

I mean the hardest thing though is letting go. I still, i know how this is going to sound, I mean i still think for some reason that we still have a chance, and that is my heart saying it, not my mind - if that makes sense. Also, i have one desire just to see her in person, i know i know, i just want to tell her how i feel to keep my soul at rest but I know or sense that there will be repercusions for doing that..

 

"Please dry your tears and stop pounding on that closed door just because it's familiar. Ignore the door and open one of the thousands of other doors of opportunity and I promise you will find happiness."

 

"The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." George Bernard Shaw

. . very deep quotes. Thanks.

 

hmmm

[mysteryman22]

yeah she has had a lot to go through. I just, I dont know I just wish I could do something to ease her suffering, I mean as long as he is there then nothing will change and that is both disturbing and upsetting. Something needs to be done in order to re-awake her frm the sin.

 

Oh i dont know. I guess im getting as confused as her. I am really trying to get past this and it is working, step by step . . one step back, two steps forward so to speak.

[mysteryman22]

we have to determine the personal cost and weight for ourselves and let some people go.

 

how do i let go. You know when I stopped I was so love sick, I was talking to everyone thinking that was her, my mind was a mess. Im over that now but I still am just eager to see her one time. I dont know, maybe that is what is haunting me. I dare not to think about her too much and what we used to do as that just brings back memories so I block them out. I know.

[ImThatGirl]

She was an illusion to you. Almost a fantasy. You two "connected" and you put her on a pedestal. It's understandable that you'd like to at least meet her once.

 

At this point, you have to let go. It's not a choice, you have to. She does not want your help and she has not reached out to you. She made her decision to be with her brother. Again, I'm quite sure that she is most likely mentally disturbed to say the least. Definitely not a good person for you to hope for a life with.

 

How do you let go?

- Keep my quotes in mind. Even though they are easier said than done, keep them in mind.

- Find a way to stop thinking with your heart where she is concerned.

- Only allow yourself to think with your mind regarding her.

 

Accept the decisions she has made. -That she does not want to be a part of your life. -She's not open to help to get away. -She's made her choice and has indicated no other signs other than that she is happy with her brother.

Accept that you deserve more. That you are not a doctor. That you can't make a difference in her life. That there is so much more to life than hoping, wishing, that you could make a huge difference to this girl. Accept that it's not your responsibility to "save" her.

 

Everytime thoughts of her come to mind, remember the above. Remind yourself that she was purely an illusion.

 

Honestly, if you had met this girl at work and dated her. Then found out she was involved in incest. And she continuously dug her hole, wouldn't you find that appalling?

 

Remind yourself that the illusion is not real - that quite frankly, she is sick and unwell.

 

Look forward in life. What do you want out of life? What do you do, work fulltime? What are your hobbies?

[LONESOUL]

Mystery~letting go is never easy. It's called "letting go" because that is what you do. You release your hold on whatever it is you have. In this case you have a woman who clearly has made some choices that don't include you. You have a woman who has chosen to have a sexual realtionship with a sibling. Thats not healthy~ thereforeeee she is someone that you know does not make healthy decisions. It's going to hurt to walk away. You will have to

endure pain and sorrow, but you will over come that and someday because you let go of the woman who was not good for you~you will be free to love a woman who will be good for you and who can make healthy decisions.

Take good care~

Lone