LONESOUL

Thats allot of love DYT, and allot pain. It comes through well in your writing. It's good~ ..you are very loved here, we're all right here with you kiddo, don't you forget that. (and Ellie, that was one of the sweetest things I think I have ever read)

Do you need to talk about it? Shake it off, it happens, start over and be good to yourself~regardless of the fact that you had a weak moment. Learn the lesson from it. Try not to repete the mistake thinking the result may be different, chances are, they won't be. Just know that sometimes NC really is a good idea just so that you have enough space and distance to get stronger, so you can heal.

Hi, I have no advice for you, I'm sorry, except that change can be a really good thing. I just wanted to let you know I am in the same boat. I have been with the same company for 10 years, I have given my resignation and the 30th will be my last day. I just need something different , my company has changed a great deal through the years and it has left me very frustrated. Best of luck to you! Lone

"I feel like the emotional bond and the closeness I have with my girlfriend is more intense than any relationship I could ever have with a man. It only makes sense that the emotions run just as deep during a break up. " Yes, thats what I am saying Kate, thanks. You're right, we haven't spoken for 2 weeks now, in some ways it better, but NC has its own downers...

Oh yes that is true, I have many male friends, and they hurt every bit as much as the women, I just meant that...I'm not sure I can explain it, it's so explosive..so much raw emotion and conversation and I don't know drma sometimes with women...I don't know, but I'm not so sure it's a good thing..***sigh***

I agree with oatmeal, and I love oatmeal's jumping Panda avatar!!! lol

Hi OJ~ Oh, so both. Like you I was angrier earlier on, but now I just miss what we had. I miss having the deep connection with someone. I miss holding her at night, and I miss how she would roll over and tell me she loved sleeping with me because she felt so safe.. Like you said 7 years is a long time to build some very significant bonds. It's so emotionally and passionately driven, the whole thing, the realtionship, the love,the sex the break up, all of it. Thanks so much for responding. I really would like to hear from others on this.

I think I just need to rant for a minute...why is it when two women break up it feels like h*ll's fury has been unleashed. It's so deeply emotional on both parts. Maybe it's like that in hetro relationships too but wow... We were together 7 years, but we have been apart for 8 months now.. I'm so ready for these feelings to be gone! Anyone else feel this way?

I don't believe that it is a sin. I believe that sometimes people feel that their pain far out weighs their ability to cope. I don't believe that it is a sin, but it is waste. Life is precious.

I don't know, like I said, she acted like it really didn't bother her... and I guess thats good, in a way. it's good not be jealous you know? But.. it's another thing to close your eyes. I think he told her because he felt he had to and he could play it off like "the hero" I think he has some fantasy of being able to say "well we didn't mean for it to happen, he was just so sweet...in his head) Kinda backfired if he had bad intentions though, some guys shes been seeing just sent her roses too...and she really likes this guy

They ride to work together, he couldn't have gotten them in DYT. (well, lets face it, I guess he could have if he had really wanted to, where there is a will there is a way but..it would have been very very difficult)

Thanks all, thats totally what I thought. Belladonna, yes, if they were very close then a little friendship bouquet from them both, how sweet.. otherwise, totally inapproprate~I think. Made me feel bad for my friend, I feel like something is coming her way she doesn't want to see, I hope I am wrong, but if I'm not I guess I can do is be there for her.

Just a general question. This happened this morning to a couple I am very good friends with. They have been together 7 years. Good relationship, most of the time, the few issues have been because he thinks he is a player. He brought her flowers yesterday, red roses, nothing special. She has a co worker who is a very sexy woman. She is always saying to my friend ohhh why can I find a guy like____ and ____ is so fantatic and she flirts with him big time. So yesterday, he asks his GF can he buy this woman flowers for V day cuase she has no man. My friend, says oh he is just being friendly. Okay, he is NOT friendly with anyone other woman buying her flowers and such... Now I am glad she is okay with this, but it has me questioning myself, it would not be okay with me if my SO did that. But why, I am not a jealous person either.. I mean it's not like this is some little old lady this is a fine young hot woman, andhe seems way to eager to be her night in shining armor to me...maybe thats why?? Who knows, anyway, how would you feel? Feedback, it would be okay, or not okay?

I'm sure this is hard to accept SG, but it is abuse. He'd never touch my dog again. (he'd never touch me again either but...)