idontakre6203 Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 not necessarily applying to me... but does that just kill it for you? Link to comment
idontakre6203 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Share Posted October 31, 2006 it's a pretty general question, if someone you take interest in turns out to lack experience with the tongue, is that a slight disappointment to you or a major turnoff? Link to comment
4ever Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 oh no, its no, its not a turn off, its something we can learn together the way we both like Link to comment
Tigris Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Everyone has to start somewhere. Remember 'practice makes perfect'. You can't stop trying to have a relationship with someone just because they lack experience, that wouldn't be fair. Link to comment
chigal28 Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 I think people (myself included) tend to assume that if there are sparks flying between two people, when they kiss it will be "perfect" and movie-style, because that's kind of what they pictured in their heads...that said, if I really, really like someone, I might be taken aback a bit, but I would be more than willing to work with them to make our kissing styles more...uh, compatible. Link to comment
chai714 Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Yes, it kills it. And it has happened. Link to comment
Kevin T Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Not in my experience, but I haven't had any complaints about the girls I have kissed, so I guess I'm a bit biased. Link to comment
Juliana Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Don't forget modest, too, KT One kiss a turn-off? Not a chance. In general, stuff like that is fixable. Personal qualities, not so much. Link to comment
gattsuga Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 if it's all tongue and slobbery... gross. i hate it when girls stick their tongue as deep as they can down my throat... gag. Link to comment
Lansing Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 yeah.. I agree wtih Gattsuga... I would much rather have a "conservative" kisser than have a girl that sticks her tongue down my throat after a date or 2... I want my first kisses with a girl to be "gentle" then progress to something a bit more aggresive down the road.. Link to comment
caro33 Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 It is a turn off to lack kissing style alignment, but you can get past it. They might be AWESOME at other stuff Nerves or 'keeness' can also make their style a bit off if it's the first few times with a new person. If all else is great, I reckon give these folk a chance. A friend of mine married the guy she originally thought couldn't kiss at all. Link to comment
hosswhispra Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 yeah.. I agree wtih Gattsuga... I would much rather have a "conservative" kisser than have a girl that sticks her tongue down my throat after a date or 2... I want my first kisses with a girl to be "gentle" then progress to something a bit more aggresive down the road.. Me too....I agree with Lansing. Link to comment
Markers Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I guess if they were really horrible as the title suggested... then yea it might be a turn off. But normally people aren't actually horrible - even with their first kiss etc. if they go slow and don't start with tongue. Link to comment
annie24 Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 i guess the good news is that as I have gotten older (as we all do, LOL), people pick up more experience, so most people kiss better than they did in high school. so long as a person has a reasonable amount of experience, they usually aren't a terrible kisser. Link to comment
capricornprncess Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 in my experience, it is a major turn off. First of all there's physical attraction, and date goes great, start to get a little closer and then the kiss. whoa it turned out this person is not a good kisser, what do u do? do you stay with that person until he/she learns how to kiss? um in my case no. i've tried that, went out with someone who physically was a 10! but when it came to kissing, that person sucked! i went out with that person again to see if i could work thru it but it didnt happen. So what i'm saying it depends on the person Link to comment
Kevin T Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Wow, with such high standards, what is the haphazard kisser to do, but resign himself/herself to being alone? Link to comment
betrayedgirl Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 This thread stings me a little. Well, I was dumped because I was told AFTER he dumped me that he don't like the way I kiss, and that was two days later. When he first dumped me and that was over email, he said it was because of my back pain and that scared him.. I didn't buy it and got him to tell me the truth. He never told me that I was a bad kisser and that was the first time I have ever heard of a complaint like that. The guys I had dated always told me I was a great kisser. So that really crushed me. Thanks to him, I am afraid to kiss again. Link to comment
New_Horizons Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I would find it a massive turn on. But that's only because I'm inexperienced myself and I would relish the prospect of experimenting together. IMO, anyone who judges people based on how they KISS is a very shallow person. If you dump a person just because s/he's a bad kisser, your loss! Link to comment
Kevin T Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 The guy was an idiot. Don't think so badly of yourself over such a minor detail. If he really liked you, he would have allowed you room to improve. Link to comment
betrayedgirl Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 The guy was an idiot. Don't think so badly of yourself over such a minor detail. If he really liked you, he would have allowed you room to improve. Thanks! ...................................... Link to comment
applepie Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I recently hooked up with someone who was a horrible kisser. Somehow he would open is mouth too wide and try to kiss me with his teeth. Basically his teeth were gyrating against the inside of my lips. I don't even know who to explain it. I ended up with slobber all over my face and and bite marks inside my mouth. He was a really good looking guy but the kissing was bad. I enjoyed his company and we slept togther a couple of times. I don't know anything much about his dating history either. I'm guessing he wasn't all that experienced. I'm not even going to comment on the oral sex... Link to comment
annie24 Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 is it possible to have bad oral sex....? unless they are biting you! ouch!!! Link to comment
Lion-Guy Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Yes a turn off at first....But give them a second chance. I once kissed this girl the first night we were out and it was horrible. I felt like she was a doll and hardly moved her lips. We kissed again the next night and it was like night and day. Great. Turned out she was just too drunk to perform the night before. Link to comment
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