Is this odd behavior or should I just trust my fiance b/c its't this weird??

[dogontheleash]

First of all let me say that I been in almost 3 years relationship now and have warn him right from the beginning when we first g/f and b/f that I wouldn't tolerate cheating, nor lying, or any type of mistreatment and if so I would be gone right away, no counseling, no therapy, no forgiveness, NADA (spanish word for "nothing"). Yes I do trust him and currently I'm living with him for about 6 months now, but lately for the past 3 months I notice him with boxes of heart shaped chocolates and a perfume, but it makes no sense cuz it's not valentines nor anybody's b-day, it's not a special occasion. I did questioned but he informs that it's for a very special old lady from work, a friendly one, says that she's about 78 years old and that she's nice, they're friends. Now I'm not a jealous type girl nor overract nor suspect to much of people, but I clearly stated that I believe his words, I believe what he was saying, but if I find out it's not true, that's he's going behind my back, or is up to no good, then I'm gone for good, no forgiveness. Yes, he's my first relation and I do love him, but I'm not going to stay with one who cannot commit or goes behind my back. That was the second time I made it clearly, I don't think he needs no explation. Like I say I do trust him, but isn't that kinda weird, heart shape chocolate, perfume, and stuff for an old lady. I told him to bring her in, I would like to meet him, he say she's too fraile and that she has lots of grandchildren to take care of. What do you think people?? Srry, gotta go, but I'll be here tomorrow.

[melrich]

It sounds suspicious. It could be true but on balance of probablilities sounds more unlikely than likely.

[yeawutever]

Yes, it does sound very weird. I say give him the benefit of the doubt, it can be true what he's saying, but then maybe not.

[DN]

A friend of mine in England used to visit a 98 year old lady. He would take my kids often when they were little and she liked that - but she didn't like adult strangers visiting because she was intimidated and preferred to only meet people she knew.

[annie24]

ok, strange, but possible.

 

Maybe offer to go visit her with him sometime. Like take her out to sunday brunch. Tell him you'd like to meet her and that she sounds charming.

 

Do you have other reason to suspect him of cheating?

[Blue Skittles]

Sounds suspicious. You need to do some more investigating.

[xmrth]

Do you recall what kind of perfume it was? It could be close to a dead giveaway to who it's for. A woman who is almost 80 years old would not be wearing Paris Hilton's fragrance line, etc. It could help you find the way to some answers.. do you happen to remember the kind?

[annie24]

yeah, but then again, not all guys are great at matching perfumes to women they are giving it to....

[xmrth]

Almost 80 years old wearing something like that is so far off though.. if she was 40 or possibly 50 it might make more sense I think, if he got her something that all the 20-somethings and teenagers are wearing.

[Tigris]

First of all she works with him and then she's to frail to come and meet you? That sounds suspicious to me but as the others are saying it could be possible? I agree that you should ask if you can go with him to meet her.

 

I hope you find out he's telling the truth.

 

Good luck

[ilovecats]

Okay,that is too weird.If I were you,I would definitely do some more investigating.It sounds like he's lying to you.He could be telling you the truth,but I highly doubt it.Sorry,but it just sounds like he's messing around.Try to find out the truth asap.

[lgirl]

it's VERY odd behaviour and you are right to be suspicious. getting chocolates for an old lady is one thing, but why are they heart-shaped? that doesn't sound appropriate. and perfume for an elderly lady?????? i don't think so.

 

you need to go with him or find a way to meet her b/c this sounds very shady.

[coollady1957]

I agree with most of the other posts. I suppose its possible he is telling the truth. ON the other hand, it is kind of strange that she is not too frail to work at age 78, but is too frail in his eyes to meet you

 

It just all sounds a bit suspicious in nature. The heart shaped box of candy and perfume just sounds a bit much for a "little old lady" at work.