Non-existent on bf social media

[Kwothe28]

43 minutes ago, Snoopy219 said:

So I guess all of the people responding don't tag their loved ones or are never hurt seeing others be tagged, but not you... 

 

I never thought that deep about that. Usually people just want to be in the pictures and not be hidden like they are just casual lovers. I would maybe think differently if he hides you. Because that would mean that he doesnt want others to know about you. But he publishes your pics quite freely. But just doesnt tag you. Again, its 15 year old girls level of drama. Tagging doesnt mean a thing. When everyone can just see pics and see you with him on it. I think its weird that you are so obsessed with tagging of all things unholy.

Why dont you tag yourself? Dunno about Instagram but I know Facebook allows you to tag yourself. Instagram is also Zuck platform so guess they have it too. Its a simple solution. 

[Cherylyn]

If you are secure,  being tagged wouldn't matter to you.  If you are blessed to have him in your life as your boyfriend,  you wouldn't care to announce to the world who you are to him. 

I'm different than you.  I tend to shy away from attention seeking social media and if anything,  I prefer to be under the radar.  I don't want to be blasted away on FB,  IG or whatever,  don't want to be tagged and prefer to enjoy and live a life of wonderful privacy.  The more content,  comfortable and secure you are,  the less you have to seek approval and attention from others. 

I've since currently exited FB and it feels great.  I no longer need constant 24 / 7 updates on other people's lives which is an exhausting time thief.  My sister has over 1000+ FB "friends" and she needs to endlessly announce to the world who she is with,  where she's at,  where she's dining at,  vacations (on holiday),  what she bought and the whole lot ad nauseum.  The only thing she doesn't boast and brag about is her sham of a marriage,  the jerk whom she married with major "mouth problems" and her mealy mouthed spoiled brat kids.  She conceals embarrassing truths quite well.  However,  I know the real dirt.  💩

My husband,  sons and I lie low regarding social media.  It's unnecessary to post,  tag and let everyone know how you are at every breathing moment.  If anything,  it's tiresome and boring.  🥱

As for you @Snoopy219,  change the way you think.  Be thankful and grateful that he is secure enough that he doesn't have to tag you because he's happy with you in his life.  Don't create unnecessary drama and strife because it isn't worth it.  Just enjoy being with him and remain peaceful and very pleasant which leads to an enduring relationship and beyond. 

[Capricorn3]

What on earth did couples do before the existence of social media and "tagging" each other?  I can't get my head around something so insignificant.  If the guy treats you well, that's what counts.  Getting all wound up because you weren't tagged is such a waste of energy and such a waste of time.  Focus on how a man treats you.  "Tagging" shouldn't even enter anyone's headspace (imo).  Don't make a big drama where there is none.  Much ado about nothing.

[Seraphim]

I don’t think a cohesive social media presence means the relationship is good. That shouldn’t be the gold standard. How you are treated, should be the gold standard. Social media hasn’t for the most part added to society . 

[HeartGoesOn]

1 hour ago, Andrina said:

Has a wondering eye i'm aware of

Did you mean to say "wandering eye?"

At any rate, it may be helpful to pick your battles.  After all, social media is highly over rated, (imo).

ETA...The quote above is from the original poster, my error.

[MrMan1983]

So glad to be off socials, thought it was mainly teenagers that worried about tags etc. If he’s being a good bf/husband I would let this one go and maybe just lay off the socials a bit if it’s upsetting you or even deactivate it and focus on the important things. 

[shouldhavelearned]

Another death of relationship over

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Ask him...be confident

 

[Batya33]

It's simply a symptom of a larger problem -like if I decided that my husband going in another room to talk or text to his female colleague about a business matter must mean they're planning an affair that would tell me that in general I don't trust him - but it's easier to focus on the "technology."  You don't trust that he wants you in his life as his partner so you're picking on social media stuff.  It's like when people start checking if their friend or partner "liked" other people's photos but not theirs, etc. 

I was once called out because by accident I clicked on a ha ha emoji instead of "care" - by someone I didn't know on an FB moms group.  I explained that it was an accident - but -really?? Assume I did that intentionally -it wasn't even a heart wrenching type post.  That's what you're doing.  Figure out what's really going on.

 

[Lambert]

Is being Facebook official a dealbreaker for you?

Don't let people tell you you are insecure or it doesn't matter.

Does it matter to you? Do you need him to do this? 

Tell him. Ask him. Communicate your needs. 

If he says no and you're not happy, leave him.  

It's really not that hard.  Decide what matters to you and follow that. 

[Batya33]

9 minutes ago, Lambert said:

Is being Facebook official a dealbreaker for you?

Don't let people tell you you are insecure or it doesn't matter.

Does it matter to you? Do you need him to do this? 

Tell him. Ask him. Communicate your needs. 

If he says no and you're not happy, leave him.  

It's really not that hard.  Decide what matters to you and follow that. 

Yes that's true too. But they are official because he's not tagging anyone else as a partner, she's in photos -they see he is "spoken for."

For sure everyone is entitled to a dealbreaker.  I think her real dealbreaker is she  doesn't trust him generally.

[Tinydance]

When you say he has a "wandering eye", can you give some examples? I know this means different things to different people. For example, some women consider it cheating if their boyfriend watches porn or follows a model's or female celebrity's social media. So I'm just trying to see what he's actually done that you consider to be "wandering".

Does he say "in a relationship with Snoopy219" on his social media? Does he upload photos of you often? I wouldn't consider not tagging you actually hiding you. I mean, if he uploads photos with you then everyone can see you with him. Also I wouldn't just assume anything and would ask him first why he doesn't tag you. It might be because he doesn't really think anything of it. Maybe it just didn't cross his mind.

[poorlittlefish]

Have you actually asked him why he tags others but not you? Have you told him how you feel about this social media thing? If he cares about you enough, tagging you too shouldn't be a big deal for him. If he has a wandering eye, then that's the far bigger issue and being tagged in photos is unlikely to stop disrespectful behaviour. 

[tattoobunnie]

I never tag my hubs. Married well over a decade, and I post a ton of photos.  I would just tag yourself, and call it a day.