MrMan1983 Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Hi everyone, A few weeks ago I had an amazing first date with a girl, there was a lot of chemistry and attraction. Right after she said how much of a great time she had and was hinting at a second date. Since then she was texting me every single day often multiple times (which I was reciprocating), even though I knew this was a mistake as it lowers attraction chit chatting away by text non stop I still couldn't help myself. This was partly because she was initiating a lot of it and we were both excited to talk to each other. Anyway a few weeks later after a couple of flaked dates (for legitimate reasons, couldn't get childcare for one, and car broke down on the other) we finally had our second date on Saturday, we had lost a bit of momentum however we went to play indoor mini golf which was a right laugh and great ice breaker and then she came back to mine for dinner. We ended up playing games, talking lots, flirting, then kissing a lot before she then made her journey home. All seemed good. Here's where I may of made a mistake (as it likely looked over eager) and text her that same night saying how I had a great time and also sent a funny video of her losing one of the games, which she responded well to and we shared some jokes back and forth. She was also referring to things for the 'Next time' which was a good sign too. The next day the banter continued about how she beat me at most of the games however I think I got a bit carried away with the jokey messages likely sending a couple too many and her responses became more just emojis/reactions and not much convo. The next morning I think I messed up again sending a needless 'Good morning, hope you have a great day' etc message. I have had zero response or contact from her since, which is the first time in a month so it's out of character. I have not tried sending her anything more or any questions yet. I've got a feeling I have screwed up her attraction by subtly coming off needy by over texting a bit. I was considering the below options; 1. Leave it another day or so then confidently voice note her asking how she is etc and another date idea for the weekend/next weekend like nothing has happened and see what happens. 2. Just stop texting altogether until she does, however I do worry that she may miss read it a bit. What are your thoughts? I must say it's VERY rare I meet a girl like this that aligns with a lot of my values with the same humour, place in life as well as the attraction being there. I would usually just put it behind me and take the L however I would really like to see this one again so want to play it as carefully as possible and not act on my anxiety in a way that pushes her away further. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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