Lambert Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 A like doesn’t bother me as much as the heart comment. It’s virtual flirting to me. I’m having a really hard time getting over it.Then that's your answer. I personally would not like this. I find it really hard to respect a guy that has a girfriend but he's acting like he doesn't. If you are taken then you treat your partner with respect and not act like a pig. Like what's next? messaging someone and claiming he just wants to be friends... see his actions for what they are. I'd end it. its hard though... I understand... Link to comment
bluecastle Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 I told him I wanted to end things with him. He didn’t even put up a fight for me. Ok I guess I made the right choice Are you saying that, if he "fought for you," it would have been a sign that you're meant to be together? Wouldn't have changed the fact that he left a heart under booty shot. Dealbreakers and drama are two different things. I say that because, along with others, I think it's worth asking if you're in the right headspace to connect rather than basing connections on whether or not someone can pass a series of tests. Searching through someone's friends? That is testing, passively. Breaking up to see if he will "fight for me" is a passive aggressive test. Whatever judgements we can pass on this guy for his social media proclivities—and it is 100 percent okay to judge him as not being right for you, would be right there with you—what he showed you in "not fighting" is basic respect for your truth and lack of interest in drama. That is what you want, not just inside a relationship but in general. But you have to understand your truth as something that exists on its own first, not something that is either polished or tarnished by people you come into your life for brief moments. If you're trying to see if "bad boys" will turn "good" for you, and gauging your own goodness by those metrics, the business of romance is going to be fraught, punishing even when it's going well. It gets built around the inherent premise that boys are bad for you, but that you can't feel good without them, and reinforcing that premise in who you choose and how you test those choices. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 The breakup happened for the right reasons...yer OK he is not. Link to comment
mayflower165 Posted February 8, 2020 Author Share Posted February 8, 2020 Thanks everyone.. I believe I made the right decision by letting him go rather than finding out these things much later Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 Oh I encountered a number of bad apples but i wouldn’t have been comfortable in an exclusive serious relationship if I felt like I needed to check up on him or snoop. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 Well if it isn't Pippy Long socks..lol...long time no see. :) hahaha yes it is taking ages to try and get anywhere on the internet ..but I am crawling my way through Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 That's why it's a good idea to wait longer than a month before deciding to commit to someone. In 30 days you barely know him. If you do your vetting process before committing your chances are better of avoiding these situations. Link to comment
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