boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 I actually contacted him and I said I don't want to brake up or give up on him and he replied saying: "Look what you did( he booked a Spa trip for us and we didn't go because of the fight)I tired of how you think you can talk to me. I will never allow it.And if you not happy then you know what you can do." What is that mean ? He still want to work out on the relationship ? How did you translate that into he wants to work on the relationship? No, he is done. Please stop messaging him. It's not going to help. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 But he said basically he will never allow me to talk to him like that and if I'm not happy to leave him. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 But he said basically he will never allow me to talk to him like that and if I'm not happy to leave him. None of that is "I want to work on the relationship". I get that's what YOU want, but he's not you. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 I think he still want to discuss things and rethink the situation. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 I think he still want to discuss things and rethink the situation. I think this is a big part of the problem. You don't LISTEN to him. You only hear what you want to hear, not what he's actually saying. Link to comment
loyal Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 I think he still want to discuss things and rethink the situation. No. He doesn't. He is done with you. He does not love you. He does not want you. You are being foolish. Leave him alone. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 It means he wants it over and to not contact him.I tired of how you think you can talk to me. I will never allow it.And if you not happy then you know what you can do." What is that mean ? Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 So you think I should give up on him because he doesn't want to get back together ? What he tried to say by If you not happy you can leave if he already brake up with me ? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 No keep messaging him until he blocks you, gets a restraining order or just keeps telling you to get lost. Has badgering him worked in the past after your other breakups?So you think I should give up on him because he doesn't want to get back together ? Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 He now text me to know why I got upset he said this: Why you pick a fight with me because I didn't call you after work and ask me for the location?" I did that because he previously used to say I don't want to talk to you or spend time together, I don't feel like spending time with you etc than he was apologizing and I was forgiving him. So my insecurities grow everytime he was saying he doesn't want to spend time with me or swear at me saying I'm a , stupid, I don't how to talk etc Why he wants to know what upset me ? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Ask him! We don't and can't know. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 How do you know he doesn't love me ? Maybe he is just upset and reacts like that. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 But that means he is still interested in us. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 It sounds like you are in an on/off relationship and enjoy fighting. Some people are just like that and they tend to find each other. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 Why do you guys think he is still talking to me and want to know why I kicked off ? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Ask him! We don't and can't know. Already answered this. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 I don't really want to ask him because he will get angry and swear at me again. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 I don't really want to ask him because he will get angry and swear at me again. And you think this is how a man who loves you behaves??? Link to comment
ninjabib Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Leave him alone! It's all in your head, hes angry and abusive because he wants to be lefty alone but you keep conjuring up some love story where he's doing this to get you back. Trust me he wants you to just go away. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 Than why he not Blocked me on whatsapp ? Or why he is interested in knowing why I got upset and argue with him ? He is Always swearing because he has anger issues.we been together for 4 years I didn't think he doesn't love me. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 How often do you breakup? Is it always like this when you break up?Than why he not Blocked me on whatsapp ? Or why he is interested in knowing why I got upset and argue with him ? He is Always swearing because he has anger issues.we been together for 4 years I didn't think he doesn't love me. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 Idk like twice a year but he is not like that when he say it he is shouting or is swearing very bad but he sounded really serious and calm this time. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Breaking up every few months for 4 years means you are not compatible. How often do you see each other in person? How old is he? Does he live with his parents? Does he have another gf? Idk like twice a year but he is not like that when he say it he is shouting or is swearing very bad but he sounded really serious and calm this time. Link to comment
saratyyu Posted August 9, 2019 Author Share Posted August 9, 2019 We see each other 4 days a week and we talk every day on the phone, he gave me all his passwords so I don't think he is cheating on me.he is 27 and I'm 28. Yes he lives with his parents. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2019 Share Posted August 9, 2019 Why does he still live with his parents at 27 y/o? Do you see each other at work or school? Did he change the passwords? How did you meet? We see each other 4 days a week and we talk every day on the phone, he gave me all his passwords so I don't think he is cheating on me.he is 27 and I'm 28. Yes he lives with his parents. Link to comment
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