Sandypants Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 I’m in my 40s and this is the first relationship that I’m not sure if he broke up with me or not. My ex bf of a year plus only uses texts as a form of communication. It aggravates the hell out of me. I’ve told him that I would prefer a phone call for serious stuff. Mind you it’s long distance. You would think he’d want to FaceTime me sometimes. Nope. As far as I know he wasn’t seeing anyone else. I told him that let’s set a time on his day off when we can FaceTime. I think we did that twice. I stopped complaining because even though we were “exclusive” we hadn’t made it official. We’d never said “I love you” even though I was already in love with and I felt he was in love with me too. Last month he said he loved me and I said it too and we made it official. So I was like great maybe he will start making time to call me. He didn’t. So I would call him and he wouldn’t pick up and would respond with a text hours later. I would tell him I still want to FaceTime him. Nothing. He would go cold for 3 days. So last Friday (almost 2 weeks ago). I brought it up again. This time he snapped and basically accused me of “forcing” him into a relationship. I was taken aback. So I was like ok. I didn’t break up with him. But he said I just “assumed” that the relationship had moved to the next step. I was like I wish it were done via text but this conversation happened in person. So I asked him what does he want to do? He responded “let’s see how things go”. I told him I could not accept that answer. I needed to know where he stood. He never responded to that text. This was 12 days ago. I told myself I wasn’t going to contact him. In the past I would be the one to reach out to him after a disagreement. But this time I feel like the ball was in his court. I thought maybe after a couple days he would cool off and reach out to me. But nothing. I can’t bring myself to contact him. I want to assume that we’ve broken up because this is not the kind of relationship I want. But at the same time we didn’t explicitly breakup. What should I do? Link to comment
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