Sadiraj Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years and I hate his 2 best friends. His childhood best friend is a jerk and has always been rude to me. He insults my personality, talks to me like a child (I’m 24). The first time I met him he was sleeping at my boyfriend’s house in another room and like most couples do, we started “cuddling”, hearing us, he proceeds to come into our bedroom and make fun of me and I ended up crying over it. After me and my boyfriend moved in together it got to a point where I would not come out of my bedroom if he was there because I couldn’t deal with being treated so awfully. When it finally hit me that he was a guest in my house, and started sticking up for myself my boyfriend would constantly tell me to leave his friend alone and not to “drag it out”. Once I finally stuck up for myself during a game night and it got so bad that I ended up being hospitalized because I wanted to kill myself - I have other stress-related and mental/behavioral health issues that contributed but my boyfriend knows about them and knows how easily I get worked up and never stopped his friend. He actually blamed me for arguing when I got home. When I asked him to not bring his friend to our house anymore but rather go to his friend’s house instead he agreed but a week later I came home from work and he was there with my boyfriend’s family (who absolutely love him so it makes it harder to get away). After my mom passed away in Nov 2018, he started being more civil with me, not “nice”, but not harassing and insult me. Things have been great but the other night we went out and took my car, and his friends started insulting me yet again about my music choices and the way my car looks (not messy, just things I can’t control like the style, etc.) I kept my mouth shut but I can’t go through all of this again with his best friend, the way my mental health is I cannot do it until I get proper treatment. His other best friend isn’t quite as bad, but I am interracial and he constantly makes racist jokes to my boyfriend, I’ve expressed my concern to both of them, my boyfriend understands but his friend doesn’t understand why I’m offended because I’m “not even that black” so-to-speak. He considers both of them like his brothers but I don’t want them in my life, I don’t want them at my future wedding and around my future children until they stop treating me this way. It’s frustrating because my boyfriend and I get along so wonderfully but his friends make it so hard to picture myself staying. I’ve dated an abusive boyfriend in the past and swore I would never let anyone else talk to me/treat me that way and although I’m so thankful my boyfriend is not like that, his friends make me feel like I’m still trapped Link to comment
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