Chesh Posted March 6, 2018 Share Posted March 6, 2018 I just need opinions on what others think of this conversation and whether I was right to go about it this way or if I read too much into it and overreacted. My S/O and myself were planning on a vacation starting today but I've managed to get a flu the day before rendering me unable to go on our little trip. Last night I texted them asking "What if I still feel this bad tomorrow?" and their response was "...I already bought the ticket... Jesus Christ don't start..." Now to me, that seemed harsh and I felt like they cared more for the money rather than my health and well being. I also felt like I was being guilted into going because they already payed for the ticket to go. Next, I responded with "Don't start what? I can't help being sick!" They say "Take medicine like a normal person and have fun? That's what you do when you feel sick on vacation." I don't know about you, but when someone in my family is feeling as bad as the flu, they don't go out. They stay in bed until it's over. After that, I was feeling a little enraged and wrote this: "You know what. No. I'm not going to be guilt tripped into going on vacation as a walking virus. So you bought the ticket, so what? It doesn't expire next week. We three more months to go. There are other opportunities. Ya, I could take medicine. I am. But medicine doesn't work right away. I'll get up early and see how I feel in the morning, but if I'm not fit to go, you can either wait to reschedule, or go with someone else, because I'm not walking around n the heat for hours with the possibility of passing out any second. Everything from the neck up hurts, I'm lightheaded, my body is weak, and I can't eat or drink anything that isn't warm liquids. I an't even walk around my own house without carrying a tissue box with me at all times. It's not like I planned this, I hate being sick, I really wanted to go. But I can't help it. Life doesn't always go as planned." After that they exploded on me saying that I made them waste $200 and that I probably don't care. I just need other opinions on this. Was I overreacting or did it actually seem like they were being rude about me being sick. I mean, they literally said that I made them waste their money because I can't go because I'm sick. I don't see how that's my fault honestly. I sent the entire conversation to my best friend who gave me their impute and they agree that my S/O was being rude and making it all about themself. I mean, the least I'd expect from a "loving partner" would be "Get well soon" or whatever. But no, I got "That's too bad. I already spent the money." I've never been on here before so I don't know how the community is but I'd appreciate no hate please. I'm trying to get help and better this. Link to comment
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