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  1. I wouldn’t bother going on the date. If you’ve lost interest, why waste her & your time? You don’t think it’s fair that she took some time to respond to your texts, & I think it would be equally unfair for you to attend a date that you have no interest in attending. Would you want someone to go out with you even though they’re not interested because they feel obligated? I know I wouldn’t.
  2. I’m so sorry for the loss of your yiayia, dias. Sending hugs & strength.
  3. Thank you for your input, dias. I can assure you, no one is exercising more common sense than I am right now when it comes to my dad’s situation. Although I’ve never dealt with anything like this before (a loved one being treated with radiation & chemo), I’ve had so much experience assisting family & helping them navigate the health system that I feel confident in saying that I know what to do. That’s why this situation is difficult. My dad’s tumor is inoperable & they can only shrink it and prevent it from growing at this point & kill of any further cancer cells (that’s if my dad responds to the radiation & chemo as we’re hoping he will). I believe in second, third opinions as well. However various reasons prevent my family from taking him to a hospital 2 hours away including because he needs to be attended to ASAP, and the Coronavirus is obviously affecting the hospitals regular protocol, and the virus is much more serious, since they have a higher number of patients with CV, at the hospital 2 hours away. I always give doctors opinions a grain of salt. In this case, although I know I have to do the same, I just want to believe that what my father’s radiation oncologist is telling him is true - because it’s positive. My dad’s relying on what the dr says too, because let’s face it, when you’re the patient in this situation, hope is what you’re relying on to get you through such a challenging situation, and that goes for the patient’s loved ones, too. I appreciate what you said, and I agree 100%.
  4. My dad’s radiology oncologist told him that with radiation & chemo, he should be good to go for years. Is this guy just blowing hot air, I wonder, or do I have a hope to hold onto? I’ve been FaceTiming with my dad a few times a day since yesterday. So thankful he bought his new iPhone before he found himself in the hospital. Between my dad’s situation & the Coronavirus, this all feels very surreal. My dad’s talking about how he can’t wait to drive his convertible this summer, and that it’s going to be the best summer ever. I love to hear his positivity. My heart hurts though right now because I’m scared of the unknown and what’s to come. Is it possible for some people to live a good quality, happy life after radiation & chemotherapy? I’m not sure what to think right now. My dad is saying he’s going to be fine, and apparently he’ll be coming home next Friday, after treatment, to stay with us while the hospital awaits his biopsy results & apparently it will be weeks before they commence chemo. I’m unsure of what to expect when he comes home, as he will be having radiation, Monday - Friday, once a day for 20 minutes a day. I already asked one of doctors about what to expect & she asked me to call them to discuss this next week. I’m scared, guys.
  5. I’m moving tomorrow, so I’m in the midst of tying up some last minute loose ends. While opening a small drawer to a table my parents gave me, I wanted to make sure there was nothing in it before the movers come to pick it up tomorrow. Inside was a lone penny. I haven’t done this in years, but I picked it up, put it in my shoe, and made a wish. I forgot who taught me this, and how young I was when I heard it. But it can’t hurt, right?
  6. Thankfully my dad just bought an iPhone before he was admitted into the hospital. Due to the Coronavirus we haven’t been able to visit him as no one is allowed in. So, we set up his FaceTime today and chatted. Was so nice to see his face!
  7. Thank you, Batya, luminousone, & reinvent.
  8. While we wait for the results of the biopsy, my dad will begin radiation on Monday.
  9. So my dad attended the radiologist's office and I was able to speak with the doctor throughout the meeting. My dad was transported to another hospital 45 minutes away to meet with the radiologist. They gave my dad the option of starting radiation asap on Tuesday, or they said we could get further tests done to confirm the location of the cancer & then begin treatment. Starting radiation would mean we don't know the origin of the tumor and would limit his treatment plan to radiation. If we're able to locate where the tumor originated, the treatment would involve both radiation and chemotherapy & would, according to the radiologist, be much more effective. What I don't understand is, why didn't they conduct all of these other tests prior to transporting him to this other city to meet with the radiologist 45 minutes away. Although, yeah, I definitely have a good idea as to why they did this, but I'll reserve my comments. After the meeting, they transported him back to the initial hospital to conduct numerous tests, including a biopsy. He's still undergoing tests. Most have come back clear. We're just waiting on the biopsy at this point. To add fuel to the fire, I'm in the midst of packing to move back on Sunday, and we received word today that the hospital is closed off from all visitors. In all honesty, I knew deep down that because of the coronavirus that we wouldn't be able to see him in the hospital, but I still had an ounce of hope that I could see his cute face. I'm packing while being on back-to-back phone calls with family and doctors. Honestly, this all feels like a nightmare. Unreal.
  10. I mean, the OP could be out and about, contract the virus, not display any symptoms, and give it to someone else without knowing. And if one of my loved ones got sick as a result of someone else's carelessness, I'd be livid. The thought of someone with a weakened immune system potentially getting sick from the virus (which can cause death) as a result of others not taking self-isolation seriously makes my stomach turn. The way the OP phrased her original post makes it sound like she's trivializing the seriousness of the virus and how it impacts others around her. It's one thing if you HAVE to go outside. But if you're going out just for kicks and to socialize, without regard to anyone else, I'd encourage you to reassess your values.
  11. I don't agree with how either of you dealt with the situation. Him blocking you is childish, but it doesn't seem like your views regarding the virus are any more mature. Just an FYI regarding the coronavirus, but my main concern isn't so much myself in this situation (being young & healthy), but the possibility of contracting the virus and exposing it to others with a weakened immune system.
  12. To be honest, it sounds like you two are playing a game of cat & mouse. Scheduling a quick meet up at this point shouldn't be this difficult; nor should you be questioning things so much. I'd stick a fork in this and be done. Unmatching would most likely be your best solution because I can't see things getting any better. And speaking from experience, if you haven't met up within two weeks (although there may be a justifiable exception here & there if it hasn't happened - i.e. - on vacation, out of town for work, etc.), I think you're wasting your time.
  13. Thank you, dias. Just trying to stay positive over here.
  14. I'm so sorry about the loss of your father, Jibralta. I can't imagine. You're so right about not only losing someone that we love so much, but losing someone who loves us so much. That's such a great way to put it, because it's so true! It's such a powerful thing - true, genuine, unconditional love.
  15. I honestly can’t pack my things fast enough right now. I want to be with my family. Hopefully this mindset will motivate me tomorrow to get even more packing done throughout the day. Feelings come in waves. One minute, I’m fine. The next, I want to curl up in a ball on my bed & remain this way indefinitely. Thankfully I have siblings. All big brothers. One lives in the same city as me & he’s going to help me move over the weekend. We’ll be loading up his van & driving back to my parents place together. He can’t stay for long, as he has a wife & a couple of cute children he has to get back to in the city. I’ll be venting about this situation on here non-stop over the next while, but I’m really hoping that in amongst this sadness my family & I will receive some positive, uplifting news regarding my dad & his health.
  16. So strange. I responded to your message, bluecastle, but it didn't post. Let me try this again! Thank you. My family and I can use all the strong and healing vibes we can get!
  17. One fear I've always had, since I was very young, is losing my parents. Sure, we've had our differences, but we've always loved each other so much and unconditionally. He and my mom are my go-to people. In so many ways, my dad has always been my rock. This may sound cheesy, but it's true. I talked to my dad a few times today and we always end our phone calls by saying 'I love you'. Today, when I said it, it stirred up so many emotions in the both of us. We could both barely get a word out after that. My dad is looking at this diagnosis as if it's the end of the road for him, whereas I'm trying to convince him to stay positive & that we're going to fight this diagnosis. He basically said, "Look honey, we have to be realistic about this". I told him that I am being realistic and that it's important for us to stay positive. We somehow got into a discussion about, and I have no idea how, losing our parents. He said, "I remember when I lost my mom. I didn't know how I could ever live without her, but I did. When our parents pass away, we wonder how we'll survive, but we do, and life goes on". It was such an uncomfortable conversation, but because my dad knows about my fear of losing them, it just kinda felt like this weird pep-talk where my dad was essentially trying to say that, regardless of what happens, and as hard as it might be, everything will be okay. I just can't imagine my life without either of them in it. I really can't. I just can't imagine losing anyone that we're capable of loving THIS much. If anything happened to him, I think it would break me.
  18. I'm so thankful I can be with them and help out as much as possible. It would honestly drive me nuts if I couldn't.
  19. Thank you, B. This news today really broke me, but I'm trying to stay positive and hope that there's some hope with this treatment.
  20. My dad checked himself into the emergency department at the hospital yesterday. Initially they thought he had a herniated disc, but after conducting an MRI this morning, they discovered cancer and they've scheduled him for emergency radiation tomorrow morning. 'Emergency radiation'? I've never heard this term before. He's still at the hospital and they're transporting him to a different city tomorrow for the treatment. This all came on suddenly. No one saw this coming. I'm shocked, angry and full of questions. I'm normally the person there with my parents when something like this surfaces and tend to ask the doctors a lot of questions. Because I'm a distance away, and because this all came on suddenly, I wasn't there to ask the questions that I want. So I asked my dad to put me on speaker phone with him during his appointment with the radiologist tomorrow morning so I can ask whatever I need to ask. I don't want to be present due to the coronavirus outbreak and put anyone at risk; especially considering my dad's circumstances. My dad couldn't even tell me what type of cancer it is. And it sounds like there's more than one tumor. That said, I've decided I'm going to be moving back to help my parents and have given my notice for my residence and place of work. I don't think my heart has ever felt this broken. And since finding out that my dad was in the hospital last night, I've felt very anxious - because I'm not there with my family and have very limited information with respect to my dad. Apparently the C is throughout his body and the doctor is recommending radiation and chemo.
  21. Thanks, Batya. I hope you & your family are doing well too.
  22. Businesses that are taking advantage & price gouging following the WHO declaring the Coronavirus a pandemic.
  23. I was laughing at this too, reinvent! So funny. Sounds like a Seinfeld episode. Lol
  24. I can relate to your work experiences on so many levels, Jibralta. Don't get me wrong. I've had some amazing managers and I sing their praises. But the bad were oh so bad. What I noticed though is that my best managers loved their jobs, where the worst managers absolutely detested their positions. Are you applying for other jobs at the moment? Will be interesting when you hear from that Bill you worked for previously and whether or not their job offer is something that appeals to you. I think it's safe to say that I was pretty naïve when I first entered the workforce after my schooling. At first I for whatever reason assumed that my employer would always have my back, but man, did they prove me otherwise. It's like being in a one-sided relationship. All give, with nowhere near the same level of reciprocity. The things I've seen, heard....ugh. But being that they're the employer, they basically always have the upper-hand. We're kind of at their mercy; unless of course we're independently wealthy and have no worries about losing our jobs and income. I'm definitely looking out for myself more nowadays. I know your end goal is to one day work for yourself, though, so good on you!
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