SecondChain Posted January 27, 2018 Share Posted January 27, 2018 My girlfriend & I have been dating for 9 months. She has 1 brother & 2 sisters (I feel that's relevant). She consistently showcases controlling & manipulative behavior with me, like telling me I can't hang out with my friends who are girls, or that I can't post pictures of any kind on social media. But lately she's taken to saying I'm too close with my mother. My mother is due to have a spinal surgery, so of course I've been helping her out more - she has difficulties moving around. But out of nowhere, my gf says that she feels like I would choose my mom over her. This really confused me, because I can't understand her logic here. She's my mother, & I'm just trying to be a good son? My girlfriend says how close my mom & I are make her feel insecure. She also runs to my mom anytime we have an argument & tries to throw me under the bus. But when I get simple advice from my own mother, my girlfriend demands that our problems remain "our" problems even though she was the one who involves my mom in our disagreements to begin with. She's all "buddy buddy" with my mother until on the rare occurrence my mom sides with me on a particular topic, then my gf gets silent & refuses to speak to anyone. Then after a while says she feels attacked & ganged up on if it doesn't go her way. She's also tried isolating me from certain friends & other family members. Her old group of friends have cut her off & no longer speak to her, so I'm basically all she has. She insists on us being together 24/7 & spending every waking moment together, so her trying to drive a wedge between my mother & I is a fairly serious problem. I don't know what to do. I care about her, but she has a way of making me feel like I'm questioning my sanity with some of the arguments we have. I really need advice. tl;dr My girlfriend says I'm too close to my mom & it makes her feel inadequate. I need some advice here, please. Link to comment
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